Don’t want Pick Me at our wedding

yes this absolutely.....but if two people have different behaviour boundaries then better to know BEFORE the wedding yes?

My DP knows someone like this at his male dominated hobby group. I'm wondering if it's the same person!!
She doesn't get an invite to the wedding. Like you've said who bloody cares if she gets the hump about it. Everyone else will know why she hasn't been invited. It's your day and there should not be anyone there who you know may upset you or DP.

hahahahaha absolutely this.

His wedding, his rules? Or no?

just like I said....no balls.

Your wedding, your rules. Don’t back down.

This. Batshit isn't it?!

I wouldn’t be marrying a man who didn’t consider my feelings either but this is MN and we all have to roll over so not to look controlling and let guys do what they want and then make posts complaining that our men don’t respect our boundaries.

Exactly this. Sorry @BarbourAnne but your fiance sounds really weak and lame, and he seems to care more about pleasing his sex pest female friend than making his wife-to-be happy. I honestly don't understand why you would want to marry this man. He is showing you who is NOW. He will not change. You will never be number 1.

It's really not. She doesn't get an invite. The end. Easy peasy.

If she groped my husband I’d start groping her and see what she thought of that.

So the OP's fiance isn't putting HER in an uncomfortable position then?!

Good grief.

My fiance would not be marrying me if he prioritised this pervy sex pest over me.

If her behaviour has made you uncomfortable in the past and she is not friends with you as a couple, I get why you don’t want her there.

I do agree with your dp that it’s a bold move to invite everyone from the team and not her. Maybe there’s another one or two people he can drop too? This is not a perfect solution. The situation is a tricky one.

If she's going then I'd end it with dp. More concerned about this friends feelings than his wife to be? What a twat.

This would be a deal breaker for me. Your fiance either wants to marry you and make sure you have a happy wedding day or he wants to not get married and “keep the team happy and not look bad” tell him to grow a pair ffs!!

Well yeah but OP writes it as a longstanding Team/friendship group and that they are 40-50's, its hard making friends as you get older, loosing these connections might be difficulty for her DP. OP has been ok with him attending events etc for 3 years without her but doesn't want the woman at her wedding, which I do understand, but she needs to understand there may be consequences.

I don’t agree that anyone should be touching someone without consent. I don’t have any friends that act this way, but can imagine the type. Slapping arses etc as a joke. I know sometimes you see the TV shows with men slapping each others bums on a sports team, but times have changed and just because she’s a woman doesn’t mean that she shouldn’t get with the times and stop acting this way. But let’s not conflate it with someone actually sexually assaulting people. Because my guess is that if she was actually sexually assaulting people she’d have been kicked out the friendship group. She sounds like a nightmare but feel like people are exaggerating by comparing it to a man grabbing someone’s breasts and vulva.

So I’m not saying it’s appropriate, but my opinion comes from being told that I’m not allowed to invite someone to my wedding when it would put me in an uncomfortable position.

I’ve no idea what you mean by “ pick me” behaviour. The Pick Me dance usually refers to someone who is trying to win back a cheating partner.

This, But the behaviour you’re describing (ladette?) usually comes from a woman who really wants to be in a relationship with one of the group.

Or just prioritise his wife to be and not give a fuck what some creepy woman and possible supporters might think.

OP, it's real low class behaviour.

Yanbu to not want that type of behaviour at your wedding.

Sounds like you are marrying down, always a risk IMO!

I can see how not inviting only her, when shes part of friendship group he sees regularly, is going to potentially cause a lot of issues for him. It could end up with him ostracised from the group. I can also see why you wouldn't want her there, can you just invite her to the evening do citing numbers?

So your fiance throws you under the bus to some creepy woman because he is scared she might think less of him if he just tells her to f̶u̶c̶k̶ o̶f̶f̶ stop behaving inapproriately.

Wow.

This. ^ 'You sound like hard work' is a cheap and nasty - and predictable jibe on here. Old and worn out and overused. Lame.

I agree this.

How do you know the men are OK with it? They may be pissed off and disgusted but just not saying anything. And i the OP's husband to be IS OK with this pervy sex pest of a woman, then the OP clearly needs to call off the wedding, because he clearly gives zero fucks about her feelings. The woman is vile, and the OP's fiance appears to be enabling her. Fuck that. Call off the wedding @BarbourAnne

You sounds like you approve of her behaviour @Namechangean Why is that?