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To wonder if it’s rude to ask how old someone is?

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theydidreallywell · 20/06/2025 13:20

DD(4) is constantly asking people how old they are. I’ve been told it’s rude and to stop her, it hadn’t really occurred to me it was rude but wondering if it actually is.

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DiscoBob · 20/06/2025 13:26

To adults I'd say it is rude. Though most would laugh it off coming from a four year old. For children to ask eachother's ages I think is common and fine.

I'd say probably the older the person, the more intrusive or rude it might seem.

Some younger men from different cultures sometimes ask my mum her age. She doesn't like it at all! No women ever ask it.

Drummend01 · 20/06/2025 13:23

She’s a child, it’s harmless. I don’t know why as a society we are so hung on up ages, it’s a privilege to get older.

If someone didn’t want to answer they could just say any random number. A child isn’t going to know

FuzzyPuffling · 20/06/2025 13:22

Yes, it's impolite.