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To be really worried about being single at 35

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Groolish · 20/06/2025 11:24

Just that really, what if I have lost my looks?

I was so pretty in my 20’s and early thirties and I feel so rubbish that my ex had all my best years and now I might end up single forever. Am I just having a bad day?

OP posts:
MarshySee · 20/06/2025 11:40

Groolish · 20/06/2025 11:35

I suppose I just feel unattractive because I am old

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I was still being ID’d for alcohol at 39

MarshySee · 20/06/2025 11:39

My best year OP was 37 !!

At 35 I was a hugely fat 15 stone and single

At 37 I’d slimmed down to a skinny mini 8 stone and had a new lease of life 🙌

PollyBell · 20/06/2025 11:38

What is wrong woth being happy in yourself and not needing a man to make you feel good about yourself?

Cynic17 · 20/06/2025 11:38

1)You're obviously not old
2) Why would you want a partner who only cares about looks?
3) What's wrong with being single?

katmunchkin · 20/06/2025 11:37

Try being 39 and in this situation 🤣

HonestAquaMember · 20/06/2025 11:37

I used to feel like this! I'm 30, twin sister always in long term relationships. I started doing things by myself. Cinema, theatre, day trips, zoos...enjoy your own company and the freedom to do what you want, when you want!

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Groolish · 20/06/2025 11:35

Pottedpalm · 20/06/2025 11:33

Hang in there! One DC split from long term partner at 36 and now at 38 has a lovely partner and a new baby. They are so happy it’s a joy to see.
Other DC met partner at 35 and is married with a one year old 😍

I suppose I just feel unattractive because I am old

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Pottedpalm · 20/06/2025 11:33

Hang in there! One DC split from long term partner at 36 and now at 38 has a lovely partner and a new baby. They are so happy it’s a joy to see.
Other DC met partner at 35 and is married with a one year old 😍

Original poster
Groolish · 20/06/2025 11:33

Ihopeoneday · 20/06/2025 11:25

You're just having a bad day.

You think?

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Ihopeoneday · 20/06/2025 11:25

You're just having a bad day.

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