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I hate every single modern song and I can’t put my finger on why!

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CherriesAndBerries5 · 20/06/2025 10:16

(To start, this isn’t me trying to be ‘edgy’ I just genuinely don’t understand!)

I’m 28 and I love music. I listen to a huge range of music. I like indie and rock and also dance and fun songs.
I also have some awful dance and pop songs that I absolutely love! I know there were some really cheesy pop songs in the 10s and some I absolutely love. There are some rap songs that I enjoy too.

However… there’s not a popular song out there right now that I don’t absolutely despise. Most songs I have to turn off when they come on. And I don’t understand why because is it really much different to some of the songs in the 10s that I was indifferent to?

What I don’t understand is how all my friends are loving and singing along to all of it?

Lose control by teddy swims? God awful.
Beautiful things by benson Boone? I have to turn it off.
Too sweet by Hozier? One of the most dull and boring songs I’ve ever heard.
Tipsy? Fucking irritating.
Pink pony club? The most bang average song I’ve ever heard, why is everyone raving about it???

I’m not sure I can put my finger on it, I am open to listening to all sorts and I’ve always liked most songs but why do I hate every single one now (and why does everyone love them)??

OP posts:
BurntBroccoli · 21/06/2025 13:42

milkandblackspiders · 21/06/2025 13:19

For those on this thread who have found 'new' music that they love, can you tell me how? Where do you hear it? My kids want to listen to radio 1 but that is full of absolute crap. I don't want to be one of those middle aged people who insist that music was better 'in my day' but my spotify is full of bands I've been listening to for at least 15 years and the music it suggests I might like is often even older!
I like indie bands - they seem to have faded in popularity in recent years.

I listen to Radio 2 on an evening. Jo Whiley (7pm- 9pm) always puts some good music on that I’m frequently Shazaming!

Also Liza Tarbuck on Saturday’s at 6pm (also Radio 2). Quite obscure old stuff sometimes too but good!

Recent Shazams:

Purple Snowfkakes - Say She She
Candyman - Muireann Bradley
Don’t Fall Asleep- Jacob Alon
Speyside - Bon Iver

babyproblems · 21/06/2025 13:27

I always think this to myself!
In fact I’ve started listening to more jazz and soul because I can’t find much new music I like 😂 honestly I think it’s a rubbish standard and it all sounds the same. Also I still loathe how modern music objectifies women.

hamstersarse · 21/06/2025 13:25

hamstersarse · 21/06/2025 13:24

I think music reflects the zeitgeist of the time, and today’s music has violent, angry, nihilistic vibes to it

It’s not happy like ABBA or sad and reflective like Amy Winehouse….its angry

I meant to add I think the drugs being used also come out in the music

Coke and ket = angry

hamstersarse · 21/06/2025 13:24

I think music reflects the zeitgeist of the time, and today’s music has violent, angry, nihilistic vibes to it

It’s not happy like ABBA or sad and reflective like Amy Winehouse….its angry

milkandblackspiders · 21/06/2025 13:19

For those on this thread who have found 'new' music that they love, can you tell me how? Where do you hear it? My kids want to listen to radio 1 but that is full of absolute crap. I don't want to be one of those middle aged people who insist that music was better 'in my day' but my spotify is full of bands I've been listening to for at least 15 years and the music it suggests I might like is often even older!
I like indie bands - they seem to have faded in popularity in recent years.

PickAChew · 21/06/2025 13:12

There is a lot of AI involvement in modern music and too many cases of someone who just had to press all the buttons. Pet hate is hyperactive drum machines. Just plain irritating.

There is some fabulous music out there, too, though. I keep a little stack of my CDs next to my stereo that I swap out from my collection, occasionally, and currently, in amongst the King Crimson, Radiohead, PJ Harvey and The Smiths are a couple by Public Service broadcasting - largely electronic but far from soulless - and The Waeve.

TempsPerdu · 21/06/2025 13:08

Jasmin71 · 20/06/2025 10:44

Overproduction and auto tune on vocals.

Music by robots ! It's all so samey as well...

I think it’s the robotic element too - everything sounds sort of tinny, fake and over processed - like the aural equivalent of UPFs in food. There’s no real heart/depth to most current mainstream music. I do still like some of the newer more niche stuff that gets played on 6Music though.

suburburban · 21/06/2025 13:00

Have a listen to radio 2 at the weekend. POTP Sunday evening for example.

i agree with another poster. My DC late 20s/30s like a mix of music and were brought up with 60/70/80 as well, as the current stuff that was around

Nanny0gg · 21/06/2025 13:00

TheOriginalEmu · 20/06/2025 11:29

That’s the most ludicrous generalisation, there is SO much great music out there. Literally in your hand.
The stuff that’s popular isn’t for you if you’re over 25. But there are so many other avenues of music, my kids have introduced me to some excellent stuff, as has YouTube.
As for old songs on radio 1, they’ve always played old things occasionally, but music is consumed different these days to the 70/80/90/00, with the advent of streaming apps and tiktok old stuff often comes up for a new generation. One of the most popular songs on TikTok at the moment is a Connie Francis song from 1962!

That surprises me because of the way music is listened to now

Everyone is lost in their earbuds listening on their own

So I grew up listening to my parents and older siblings choices plus whatever was on the radio. So I was listening to music from the 1950s-70s
Then when I had my children it was the 80s-90s

Then I regressed and only listen to the music I like from there with very rare hearings of 'new' stuff - like Teddy Swims

I have never liked or understood rap or anything else that doesn't have a tune and words I understand. And obviously it' not written for people of my age

BurntBroccoli · 21/06/2025 12:55

SuburbanSprawl · 21/06/2025 11:57

Yes. And they still do.

Pop music is no longer merely about what's current. There's a canon - a heritage and a cultural history - that goes back sixty years. My kids and all their friends who hang out at our house - 19 to 23ish - are as familiar with the Beatles, Pink Floyd, Motown, Blur, Chic, Arctic Monkeys as they are with the music being made today. And there's a lot of good music being made today.

However, because of the way that music is consumed today (neither of my daughters has ever paid for music in a shop) the charts aren't necessarily representative of new music as a whole.

Actually they never were. I recently looked at the Top20 for 1973 - the year of some of the most successful albums ever released - and the singles chart, I have to tell you, was really embarrassing.

Edited

My daughter has no idea about any chart music. It’s all 80s and alternative!

BurntBroccoli · 21/06/2025 12:52

BogRollBOGOF · 20/06/2025 10:53

One of my radios is playing up and will only tune into BBC local radio, and actually they're good at picking up on more interesting emerging new music amongst the decades old classics. It's not the death by Dua Lipa that drove me off Radio 2, and I'm enjoying the break from adverts on Greatest Hits (and I was missing being exposed to some new content)

Dua Lipa has to be the most overrated artist. Not a very pleasant voice and auto tuned to death.
Cannot believe she headlined Glastonbury last year either!

Deacon Blue have new stuff out - I love their single Late ‘88.

outerspacepotato · 21/06/2025 12:34

I hate anything with Autotune. It really detracts from the voice, it makes voices sound similar, and there's a strange distortion that I hear.

3678194b · 21/06/2025 12:20

I miss the days when songs were written by one or two people!

NooNakedJacuzziness · 21/06/2025 12:16

Top of the Pops was ace - you could get Sisters of Mercy, Sonia, Bon Jovi, Kim Wilde, Sinitta and Iron Maiden all on the same show. They should bring it back!

SuburbanSprawl · 21/06/2025 12:16

Okay, not universally embarrassing. But look at this lot... There are maybe 10 of this Top50 - Bowie, Slade, I'd probably admit to liking Mud - that wouldn't cause me to put a pillow over my head. But it's hardly representative of the best new music of the year.

https://www.officialcharts.com/charts/singles-chart/19731111/7501/

Official Singles Chart on 11/11/1973

https://www.officialcharts.com/charts/singles-chart/19731111/7501/

Brefugee · 21/06/2025 12:08

but Suzie Quattro was so inspiring for girls like me.

Thanks to this thread now listening to Sam Fender.

I get lazy with music. I have Spotify but tend to listen to my favourites, or my all women playlist (have crowdsourced some of that - it is eye opening)

It galls me that i like rock music (thanks, mum) i love really good pop too. But mostly what i listen to are male voices. But the little girl breathy thing gets on my nerves.

Jabberwok · 21/06/2025 12:00

Listened to a couple you list. And I'll quote Jack Good the man who created itvs first pop music programme, Oh Boy! "they didnt even play in tune before I came along". Like the people who produced those songs, he missed the point, the excitement, the spontaneity, the ooomphh has been taken out of them. They are polished, rounded off and sound like a thousand other songs from the last 25 years.

Rages · 21/06/2025 12:00

SuburbanSprawl · 21/06/2025 11:57

Yes. And they still do.

Pop music is no longer merely about what's current. There's a canon - a heritage and a cultural history - that goes back sixty years. My kids and all their friends who hang out at our house - 19 to 23ish - are as familiar with the Beatles, Pink Floyd, Motown, Blur, Chic, Arctic Monkeys as they are with the music being made today. And there's a lot of good music being made today.

However, because of the way that music is consumed today (neither of my daughters has ever paid for music in a shop) the charts aren't necessarily representative of new music as a whole.

Actually they never were. I recently looked at the Top20 for 1973 - the year of some of the most successful albums ever released - and the singles chart, I have to tell you, was really embarrassing.

Edited

Rubber Bullets and Can The Can weren’t embarrassing!!

Rages · 21/06/2025 11:59

You can’t hate Sabrina Carpenter ‘Espresso’

you just can’t !!

SuburbanSprawl · 21/06/2025 11:57

Comedycook · 20/06/2025 10:32

I thought this the other day actually. Even songs that are 25 years old are still played a lot... during the 80s, they weren't regularly playing songs from the 1960s were they?!

Yes. And they still do.

Pop music is no longer merely about what's current. There's a canon - a heritage and a cultural history - that goes back sixty years. My kids and all their friends who hang out at our house - 19 to 23ish - are as familiar with the Beatles, Pink Floyd, Motown, Blur, Chic, Arctic Monkeys as they are with the music being made today. And there's a lot of good music being made today.

However, because of the way that music is consumed today (neither of my daughters has ever paid for music in a shop) the charts aren't necessarily representative of new music as a whole.

Actually they never were. I recently looked at the Top20 for 1973 - the year of some of the most successful albums ever released - and the singles chart, I have to tell you, was really embarrassing.

LoztWorld · 21/06/2025 11:56

Not the point of the post but how do people know what is currently popular with the youth?

I only know one of the songs listed in the OP 😳

I have 6 music on the radio a lot but it’s mostly stuff targeted at middle aged folks like myself.

How do I find out what, say, mainstream and less mainstream 17-year-olds are into?

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 21/06/2025 11:56

I think it's auto tune - I've seen people on youtube do comparisons with auto tuned and non auto tuned verions of songs. No auto tuning you can hear that singer uniqueness and a lot more emotion.

DD2 16 had small party in exam period and they were dancing to songs - many of which shocking I tend to listen to via alexa when doing jobs - Rip tide was one - 2013 - summertime sadness 2012. So not as old as many suggest but not really recent last few year songs.

One of her friends who really into music listens to Green Day - but more their older stuff - which nearly 20 years.

I suspect there's good stuff out there but it's finding it and many TV ads or you tube clips use older songs now.

I've also seen documenataries where old musician pin point period when corporate money took over industry and people on yotube pointing out lack of bands these days - as apparently music industry not so keen on them at moment.

There are clearly problems and I think it's more than MN getting old - but as other posters have said there issue in american film indurtry - I'd say in TV land and in book publishing.

OldieButBaddie · 21/06/2025 11:54

Try BBC Radio 6 Music
lots of good indie/alternative stuff

Jabberwok · 21/06/2025 11:50

Comedycook · 20/06/2025 10:32

I thought this the other day actually. Even songs that are 25 years old are still played a lot... during the 80s, they weren't regularly playing songs from the 1960s were they?!

They were, the Beatles and stones. Status Quo took the BBC to court because they were removed from the play list in the mid 90s. At the same time the BBC sacked the older, original djs and only played current music from them on.

Brefugee · 21/06/2025 11:49

Lafufu · 20/06/2025 12:24

You need to listen to the stuff that's not "popular". There's so much great music out there if you look for it.

but where do you look and how do you find?

it's all very well saying that, but do you have recs?

I've recently been seeing (because she was support for other artists i like) Amy Montgomery. She is old-school rocky. Her band is called Preyers. If you like rockier music give her a go.