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Friend dating ex

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MrsRaspberry · 20/06/2025 09:10

As the title suggests a close friend of mine is dating my ex which I will start by saying totally isn't a problem as I was the one who ended the relationship after him accusing me of aborting his baby when I'd had a miscarriage. Friend knew this too. She messaged on a group chat on WhatsApp two weeks ago saying she was seeing some guy and sent a pic of him and told us the guys name(this wasn't my ex) then days later on the same group chat she says "guys name"says hi I'm like oh who's he and she put a pic up. I was like oh that's my ex Lol she said yeah I know he told me. So they've been seeing one another all of a week. She's saying they're discussing marriage etc like I'm happy for her but it just seems like she WANTS me to be jealous and find it awkward when I don't I have no interest in the guy. Our friend asked who was going to a stripper night and she pipes up with "well I have my own stripper now-oh sorry MrsRaspberry must be awkward for you" like no it isn't at all..she's even said it in the group chat like I know it must be awkward for you but we just click naturally. Like is it just me or is she wanting to try to make things awkward for some attention?

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HelloCheekyCat · 20/06/2025 13:16

It's difficult to get the balance in anything you say because you could come across defensive. I dont actually know what to suggest 😆
Adding him to the group.chat is beyond weird! Are any other boyfriends in it?.not that he is even a boyfriend yet of.course. Can as admin kick.him out?!

OnAMissionToLoseWeight · 20/06/2025 13:16

It sounds like she is insanely jealous of you and is looking to get a rise that she can dramatise!

I would respond to her next post with: Funny how you think I’d care 😂. That chapter's closed – no hard feelings at all.

If she then persists: “If someone has to keep pointing out how ‘awkward’ something is, maybe they’re the ones feeling awkward. I’m good – hope you are too.”

I would genuinely reconsider this friendship. Not bc she is dating your ex but bc she clearly has issues with you and wants to cause drama.

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MrsRaspberry · 20/06/2025 13:07

saraclara · 20/06/2025 13:00

Since she's making those comments publicly, I think you need to respond on the group chat, just so that she can't pretend to the others that you're jealous.

So I'd respond to any comments like "well I have my own stripper now-oh sorry MrsRaspberry must be awkward for you" with a relaxed "not at all awkward! I'm glad for you both and hope you'll be as happy as (partner) and I"

I did say not awkward at all but she still does it..with any mention of him it's like oh must be awkward.ive a good mind to address it in the group chat and say something like well no it isn't awkward as I've already stated so why try to make out like I'm bothered when I'm not. Two of the friends (her being one of them) knows that he accused me of aborting his baby and that being part of the reason we split. I'll put it there in the group chat if she keeps it up....she's also added him to the group chat too. It's laughable. It's been all of a week today that they went on their date and shes said in the past few days about marriage/blessing ceremonies and that he's agreed that's what they'd do etc etc and she's introduced him to her child too

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saraclara · 20/06/2025 13:00

Since she's making those comments publicly, I think you need to respond on the group chat, just so that she can't pretend to the others that you're jealous.

So I'd respond to any comments like "well I have my own stripper now-oh sorry MrsRaspberry must be awkward for you" with a relaxed "not at all awkward! I'm glad for you both and hope you'll be as happy as (partner) and I"

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MrsRaspberry · 20/06/2025 12:51

amigafan2003 · 20/06/2025 12:38

Response to group chat "Why would I be jealous of you dating someone with premature ejaculation, smelly breath and anal prolapse (I over did it on the pegging one evening)?".

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To be fair he is a bit of a tramp he didn't wash half the time 🤣

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TheCurious0range · 20/06/2025 12:43

Sorry MRsR if that's awkward
Nooo really isn't, very happy with my decision to end things, and it was so long ago! Good luck!

Witchling · 20/06/2025 12:42

So they've been seeing one another all of a week. She's saying they're discussing marriage etc

What an idiot

Caroparo52 · 20/06/2025 12:42

She's not your friend. This will only end in tears. Drop her asap

Mauvehoodie · 20/06/2025 12:40

She's making it awkward! It also sounds like they're both red flags galore with marriage chat after a week and the way he treated you. I'd just grey rock/ignore and maybe just a simple "don't worry, not awkward at all. Hope all works out".

Mamadothehump · 20/06/2025 12:38

Whenever she mentions the awkward thing, simply reply with ‘no fucks given’

amigafan2003 · 20/06/2025 12:38

Response to group chat "Why would I be jealous of you dating someone with premature ejaculation, smelly breath and anal prolapse (I over did it on the pegging one evening)?".

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MrsRaspberry · 20/06/2025 12:34

That's the thing....I don't care who either of them date I said I'm happy for them even cos I am. It's the fact that every time she mentions him in group chat it's always added in sorry I know this must be awkward for you....it really isn't because I don't care so it just feels like she wants it known to the rest of the group that she's with my ex and wants to justify it when she has no need to

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Blanca87 · 20/06/2025 12:34

MrsRaspberry · 20/06/2025 12:09

Best on it though most of us have partners myself included I've been in a relationship for over 3 years now so it's not like we're all single and jealous about it lol. Saying that she told my other half she has bigger tits than me and tried to stick em in my fellas face and he told her to piss off 🤣🤣

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Ah that makes sense then, she is still really salty about that incident with your partner and has a big dose of the envies. I have second-hand embarrassment on her behalf. I have my own stripper 😂🤮

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 20/06/2025 12:25

Just smile and tell her she is welcome to your cast offs....
And ask her if his piles /genital warts /scabies has gone yet?

grumpygrape · 20/06/2025 12:23

Oh, heavens, I thought he was a recent ex. This makes it worse.
Can't work out her motives

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MrsRaspberry · 20/06/2025 12:09

DontTouchRoach · 20/06/2025 11:55

Your 'friend' sounds completely nuts and quite unpleasant. She is definitely trying to get attention and wants to make you jealous - which is ironic because your ex is very clearly a horrible man and you are well rid of him.

If they're talking about marriage after a week, he's probably love-bombing her and she will soon find out what he's really like. He's probably told her loads of lies about you too. You are absolutely doing the right thing in your responses.

The 'I've got my own stripper' comment was not only weird but also disrespectful to the whole group, frankly - it's like she's implying that you'd all have to be single/miserable/desperate to go and see a male stripper group and that she's better than you all because she doesn't 'need' to. What a cow.

Best on it though most of us have partners myself included I've been in a relationship for over 3 years now so it's not like we're all single and jealous about it lol. Saying that she told my other half she has bigger tits than me and tried to stick em in my fellas face and he told her to piss off 🤣🤣

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DontTouchRoach · 20/06/2025 11:55

Your 'friend' sounds completely nuts and quite unpleasant. She is definitely trying to get attention and wants to make you jealous - which is ironic because your ex is very clearly a horrible man and you are well rid of him.

If they're talking about marriage after a week, he's probably love-bombing her and she will soon find out what he's really like. He's probably told her loads of lies about you too. You are absolutely doing the right thing in your responses.

The 'I've got my own stripper' comment was not only weird but also disrespectful to the whole group, frankly - it's like she's implying that you'd all have to be single/miserable/desperate to go and see a male stripper group and that she's better than you all because she doesn't 'need' to. What a cow.

TheYouYouAre · 20/06/2025 11:47

I think you are doing the right thing in your responses so far. I would stay neutral, don’t listen to some of the suggestions for loaded comments. Say ‘happy for you both’ in the group chat if she mentions it again so she can’t spin any angle to your other friends. Hopefully she will pipe down about it soon enough if she isn’t getting the reaction she hoped for out of you.

Ardmac1 · 20/06/2025 10:45

I would respond: Haha! You’re welcome to him! 😂

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 20/06/2025 10:30

She sounds strange like she would prefer you are upset about it.

I would just respond with no problem at all. Avoid sending any messages with negativity. From the sounds of things it will please her. But you can just shut it down by being neutral all the time.

grumpygrape · 20/06/2025 10:27

£10 says he told 'friend' he'd ended it with OP

Round3HereWeGo · 20/06/2025 10:25

"Haha, don't be silly, couldn't care less :) x"

And if she says something again after that say
"I already told you, I really don't care! Do people really get so bothered about who their exes are dating? 😂"

And if it happens again, after you've given her multiple chances to calm down about it, just say
"Why do you keep saying that? I told you I REALLY don't care. Stop being weird about it. I left him for a reason. I don't want him and it makes no difference to me who he ends up with! Be happy with him and chill xx"

PollyBell · 20/06/2025 10:23

Other than having both bad taste in men how on earth is she a friend, there doesn't seem much intelligence there really

Why do you really get out of this friendship yourself?

MayaPinion · 20/06/2025 10:21

He’s not dating her to get back at you, is he? That could be the source of the awkwardness and one up mashup on her part. I’d just reply, ‘Haha, no worries. It wasn’t serious and we moved on long ago. You and him are much better suited 😁’

whitewineandsun · 20/06/2025 10:17

Imagine being this desperate for a man. She's not your friend, but you should already know that.