It's gone 10pm and the neighbours are still making noise in the garden

Sounds like a you problem

Thats a late tea! What time do you leave for work in the morning ?

Is it perhaps because so many people do it and so many people are high on the narc pathology that it seems overused.

10pm is a bit early to be getting so wound up. Can you not sleep the other side of the house just for tonight? Fair enough you have to get up early - maybe they get disturbed by your early start, who knows?

Denying her experience and reality as if she is the problem - yes that is.

My house is a tad noisy right now - it’s Prom night - I have 7 kids getting changed for after prom - it’s a one off and I have decent neighbours

you have to be up at 5 - some people work nights and go to bed at 10am - are you silent all day to accommodate their needs

every night it would piss me off as well but once in a while - that’s life with neighbours

So interesting you say this. When I first heard/read the word I thought this is such a good way to describe what I was going through at the time but I feel like lately the word has lost almost all meaning. A little bit like narcissism. Just my humble opinion.

@Donaldduck22 I'll go research and identify a more apt word for behaviour which is being a CF to posters, denying their experience is actually happening to them and instead suggesting they are the problem and their experience is not happening. Erm, one that suitably explains this phenomenon as a one off and not prolonged.

Come on. The line - it's just my opinion - is not an accurate representation of the messed up posts on here. A really common thing on here when a perfectly reasonable experience is turned on its head like the OP's. It is in itself nuts.

Disagreeing is saying something like ' I don't mind this personally. I don't work shifts'.

CF behaviour on here and you absolutely know it. Ripping the OP a new arse because she isn't a tinfoil disposable BBQ front lawn pie head.

It's totally gaslighting - not prolonged. I'll have to thus find something more apt other than that. More eloquent than cunt fuckery perhaps. 🤷

Also it depends on your job, if you are selling shots of alcohol in a night club that’s different to being a nurse or operating heavy machinery in a factory ! But regardless of your job, it’s horrible having to go to work being sleep deprived. People should be more considerate, making noise when neighbours are trying to relax or sleep is just anti social any time of day or night. Everyone has the right to enjoy their home in peace . Parties are one off weekend events and advance notice should be given to neighbours out of courtesy and noise off at civilised time. Being a decent human being isn’t hard .

Disagreeing isn’t gaslighting. Look it up.

The witching hour?
It's 10pm you absolute muppet. Bold of you to be suggesting others are gaslighting OP when you're literally redefining the meaning of common phrases.

I dont get back from the gym until after 10, and I too have to be up for work in the morning

@Donaldduck22 yes it’s annoying. Mum is a nurse and did shift work like you so I can totally sympathise. I remember me and brother walking past her room in tippy toes trying not to wake her when she was sleeping. But it’s sadly life. You have to accept it. The weather in the UK is not always like this so people have to soak up as much of it to endure the winter (🥴 maybe that’s me projecting). Is there anyone that can take your plugs off after you’ve dozed?

Closer to 50 than 40 and I’ll be up till about 4am tonight studying. I have music on but it’s a detached house and I’ve closed the windows. I have a fan on because it’s 29 degrees even now in this room.

We’re all night owls. Used to grind my gears when kids would be outside screaming at 7am and my daughter would be fast asleep. But that’s just the deal when you’re an owl in a lark’s world.

Get a louder alarm going forward?

Um you're the only person choosing to use capital letters and exclamatives to make your point?
Pot, kettle, black!
It's 10pm, and OP has only said they're "making noise" not being noisy
People talking outside in their own garden at 10pm, call the police!

As someone who’s recently bought silicone earplugs because of my DH’s horrific snoring, no I can’t hear my alarm, and then my DH has the fucking audacity to nudge me awake and tell me the alarm is going off. And why should I have to wear earplugs just to make someone else’s life easier?

Surely the answer was to pop round and politely say I have to be up early, I know its a lovely evening, but please could you keep it quieter?

Relax. Brits rarely have weather they can enjoy their gardens in. Put some ear plugs in.

Maybe they work on a day after your night off and say the same about you, OP?

I know! Most earplugs are literally designed to block ambient background noise (i.e neighbours chatting in garden) but not an alarm blaring inches away from your head.

Put a fan on, that will block out some of their noise and most of them have timers so it will go off once you're asleep

I live in a cul de sac and it is 11.30 pm now..most have work tomorrow and kids to get to school there is a gentle buzz of families chatting (mainly about how warm it is!) and its nice. I have just made a coffee and me and dog are off to cool down outside in the garden.sat quietly and its lovely with the solar lights going and the grass slightly damp and a lovely breeze. Yes I should be in bed I am up at 6 but its very rare anyone can do this so sorry OP your just gonna have to suck it up!

There’s another thread about someone complaining about children screaming in a paddling pool at 4pm while they are trying to work. Consensus is that that’s fine, it’s what children do, and the complainers have no right to complain because they have chosen to work from home.

By similar logic, adults are fine using their gardens at nighttime and you have chosen a job where you need to wake at 5am, so it’s on you.

And I bet they curse the sound of your car leaving for the early shift!

I'm hoping that they either shut up around 11 so she could sleep or she did manage to sleep despite it and she's now fast asleep

What do you do for a living it's obviously harder than all our jobs put together