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It's gone 10pm and the neighbours are still making noise in the garden

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Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:04

My alarm goes off for a 12 hour shift in 7 hours. It's Thursday night. Why are some people so unbelievably inconsiderate.

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ThePoshUns · 19/06/2025 22:19

What are they doing? I have only just come in from my garden, husband and I sat talking.
i used to work shifts and as annoying as it is you can’t expect the world to stop for you.

OnTheBoardwalk · 19/06/2025 22:19

Is it a one off?

are they trying to get something finished or does it happen all the time?

bluecurtains14 · 19/06/2025 22:18

Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:15

Good to know, once it's 11pm I'll file a council complaint.

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I wouldn't if you're a homeowner and eill ever want to sell

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Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:18

vodkaredbullgirl · 19/06/2025 22:16

I do a night shift with very little sleep.

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Different people with different health conditions need different amounts of sleep. I know what I need to be able to function and do my job properly.

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TerrifiedandWorried · 19/06/2025 22:18

Mine have just started cutting their hedge with electric trimmers

Subbyhubby · 19/06/2025 22:17

do you know if next door is a SAHM? Sometimes it’s hard for people who don’t routinely leave the house to do their work to appreciate how the other half manage with regards to sleep ect.
im with you OP, A lot of people where I work seem to treat Thursday like (and this a quote from them) “the new Friday”. What on earth is new about it? Thursday has been around for donkeys years, and if you treat it as a Friday you STILL have to go to work on Friday. Fridays day of work doesn’t just disappear. It really winds me up when people come in hungover on a Friday. Just get drunk on a Friday or even not at all, and just enjoy alcohol without having to leave the Friday meeting to vomit in the loo.

Spirallingdownwards · 19/06/2025 22:17

AffIt · 19/06/2025 22:15

Jesus christ, what is WRONG with you people?

The OP is right, Thursday is a working day for the vast majority of people and an expectation to have shut the fuck up by 10pm is entirely within the bounds of normal behaviour. That's just common decency.

Seriously, the amount of people on here who'd start a fight in an empty room...

Perhaps those who are pointing out the legal position aren't starting a fight in an empty room but pointing out the legal position so that OP is aware of it.

Kittybelle123 · 19/06/2025 22:17

I’m with you OP. Same situation here. Truly hope they quieten down by 11pm. Sadly my neighbours have form and are unapproachable, so I won’t be holding my breath. I’ve tried ear plugs; I’ve yet to find some that are comfortable and in a strange way, they just highlight the situation in my mind and make me more agitated, some just have to sit it out. Good luck and solidarity OP!

vodkaredbullgirl · 19/06/2025 22:16

Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:10

If your alarm also goes off at 5am and you can manage in 5 or 6 hours of sleep and then do a 12 hour shift on your feet then I'm impressed.

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I do a night shift with very little sleep.

Justchillinhere · 19/06/2025 22:15

Bluetooth headband, set your echo/phone whatever one has the alarm, for 2 hours music or however long you like, your alarm will go off through them in the morning

AffIt · 19/06/2025 22:15

Jesus christ, what is WRONG with you people?

The OP is right, Thursday is a working day for the vast majority of people and an expectation to have shut the fuck up by 10pm is entirely within the bounds of normal behaviour. That's just common decency.

Seriously, the amount of people on here who'd start a fight in an empty room...

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Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:15

Spirallingdownwards · 19/06/2025 22:14

Councils/police are only interested if noise occurs between 11pm and 7am.

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Good to know, once it's 11pm I'll file a council complaint.

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LemonLass · 19/06/2025 22:15

I empathise @Donaldduck22 but that doesnt help you.

I hope they pack it in ASAP but will no doubt be a hot, sticky night so likely many will have trouble getring enough sleep tonight?

Maybe head off your mumsnet for the night and listen to something calming? Some posters will engage in this like a "fun sport" and wind you up?

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Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:14

minipie · 19/06/2025 22:12

If you’re tired/heavy sleeper enough to sleep through your alarm you’re tired/heavy sleeper enough to sleep through the neighbours surely?

I personally hate neighbour noise and think people should be more considerate but you’re not being consistent. Earplugs are a perfectly sensible suggestion

I struggle to get to settle and sleep with noise, once I'm asleep, due to being so exhausted, I can't hear an alarm through earplugs. I don't think that's unusual.

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FruityCider · 19/06/2025 22:14

What do you mean by making noise? Loud music? Not on. Talking? I'd let it go as people are enjoying summer. Commiserations though as I do know what it's like by to have to get up at that time. Hope you get some rest.

Spirallingdownwards · 19/06/2025 22:14

Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:08

Some of us are up at 5am

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Councils/police are only interested if noise occurs between 11pm and 7am.

Crepey · 19/06/2025 22:12

It's the one reason I hate this weather, people just go nuts, I do the classic of headphones lol, so I can't hear the screaming kids, they've gone in now though, past 10 on a weeknight is crap op, we used to have a screechy loudmouth next door, who was ten times worse in the summer, they fucked off eventually, but I was contemplating murder at times, hopefully they'll piss off in soon🤞

TiagoOne · 19/06/2025 22:12

They can lawfully make noise until 11pm. You’ll just have to cope.

minipie · 19/06/2025 22:12

If you’re tired/heavy sleeper enough to sleep through your alarm you’re tired/heavy sleeper enough to sleep through the neighbours surely?

I personally hate neighbour noise and think people should be more considerate but you’re not being consistent. Earplugs are a perfectly sensible suggestion

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Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:11

McCartneyOnTheHeath · 19/06/2025 22:11

Are you sure? I can easily hear my phone alarm through silicone earplugs.

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Yes I've tried it

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cheapshoes · 19/06/2025 22:11

Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:07

No I can't use earplugs or I wouldn't hear my 5am alarm

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I use earplugs regularly and always hear my alarm still.

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Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:11

DontTouchRoach · 19/06/2025 22:10

That doesn’t mean the rest of the world has to follow your schedule.

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It's called being considerate to other people.

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McCartneyOnTheHeath · 19/06/2025 22:11

Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:07

No I can't use earplugs or I wouldn't hear my 5am alarm

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Are you sure? I can easily hear my phone alarm through silicone earplugs.

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Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:10

DontTouchRoach · 19/06/2025 22:08

That doesn’t mean they’re in bed at 10pm. I work every day too but I don’t think I’ve been in bed at 10pm since about 1989.

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If your alarm also goes off at 5am and you can manage in 5 or 6 hours of sleep and then do a 12 hour shift on your feet then I'm impressed.

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DontTouchRoach · 19/06/2025 22:10

Donaldduck22 · 19/06/2025 22:08

Some of us are up at 5am

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That doesn’t mean the rest of the world has to follow your schedule.

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