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To create a fuss about my son not having access to water today in school

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Icantfeelmyface · 19/06/2025 21:58

Hello .
My 8 year old son is a bit of a fidgeter, and has difficulty with keeping still . He has a replacement teacher for the past 6 weeks and he has struggled with various issues relating to her " shouting at him all the time " and him feeling picked on everyday no matter what he does .. won't get into the detail but meeting was held and she reassured me that this wasn't the case and she works on praise as well .. .. he told me after the meeting the teacher said in front of the class " why you telling your mum that I'm picking on you "?... Decided to leave things and move on... However today he comes home from school and tells me he had no water the whole day as the teacher said he was fidgeting too much with his bottle and told him to put it away from the table . All the other kids had their bottles on their table . He has said he had a few sips at lunch time and then nothing until after school club at 4 pm 😳
Am I being unreasonable to email the head teacher ?

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cryinglaughing · 20/06/2025 06:08

He knows how to get his water bottle returned to him, stop fidgeting and disrupting other children's learning.
Get him told! Rather than pandering to him, educate him to sit still, listen and get on with his work.

moose62 · 20/06/2025 06:03

You say your son figits a bit. Have you ever seen him in a school environment? Perhaps was constantly fiddling with his water bottle disrupting the rest if the class. Low level disruption in a class can be really destructive so making hin put the water away was probably all the teacher could do. If he was thirsty he should have drunk his fill at break time.

SendBooksAndTea · 20/06/2025 06:02

It sounds like your child is struggling to make the right behaviour choices and then complaining that there were consequences. I expect he was allowed to go to his bottle a couple of times during the afternoon, he's just being stroppy as he didn't like not being allowed to keep it with him. If he hadn't messed with it, disrupting and distracting the class he would've had it on the table like the others. As a parent I'd be explaining that today he needs to behave.

Lilactimes · 20/06/2025 05:57

Maybe on this occasion try backing the teacher @Icantfeelmyface and say to your boy he needs to try not to fidget if he wants to keep his privilege of access to water outside of break and lunchtime?
teacher may like it and it may save the head some work?

Lilactimes · 20/06/2025 05:53

SheSpeaks · 19/06/2025 23:19

My DC don’t take a water bottle to school at all. They have a juice box at lunch usually.

They have never asked to or been required to take a water bottle or have one on their desks.

I also genuinely don’t remember my DD having a water bottle in the classroom @Icantfeelmyface Big drink at breakfast, water fountains at school, lunchtime drink and then sometimes I’d meet her at school gate with a drink/ juice box on warmer days.
Water bottles in the class room sounds like a temptation and a pain for the teachers and they’re never far from a break and a drink.

sashh · 20/06/2025 05:04

mummysmagicmedicine · 19/06/2025 22:38

Yes he was fiddling but that doesn’t mean he should be denied access to water!!

The correct thing to do would’ve been to ask him to put his bottle under the table so he’s not tempted to fiddle but can still access it. He may have been thirstier at break/lunch but kids very often forget to drink so that can’t be used against him. I would flip too

So he can kick it, and so can the others at the table.

Hedgehogbrown · 20/06/2025 04:55

Everyone saying it didn't do you any harm.. being thirsty allt he time in the 70s and 80s when you are a small child was really shit. The dinner ladies at our school used to stop us using the fountains at break time too. Our only liquid was warm in homogenates milk which we would get into trouble for if we didn't drink it. It was awful. People used to smoke in our face then as well, is it ok for that to happen to a child now?

WileyCyrus · 20/06/2025 04:19

vipersnest1 · 19/06/2025 22:36

Oh, the joys of water bottles….
You either get the creakle crankle of the deliberately sucked in and then released sound of the plastic bottle or the eek, eek, eek of the ones which have a stopper being screwed back in.
It’s truly harmonious to the ears.
And yes, I don’t die of dehydration at school either.
Find something complaint-worthy, OP.

Don’t forget the almighty, deafening clang of a metal one bouncing off the table and onto the floor. I duck and cover every time! 😬😂

PregnantBarbie · 20/06/2025 04:11

RobertaFirmino · 19/06/2025 22:02

We didn't have water bottles when I was at school and I didn't die of dehydration. Not even once.

Well, you generally don't die from it twice tbf.

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/06/2025 03:44

Navigatinglife100 · 19/06/2025 22:09

It's was yuk!

If I close my eyes I can still smell, and taste it now... uuuuugh.

Sorry OP, agree with PP's here, if he only had a few sips at lunchtime he was clearly not thirsty - tell him he must have a good drink at break and lunch, as well as before school. And not fidget with stuff.

MathiasBroucek · 20/06/2025 00:59

RobertaFirmino · 19/06/2025 22:02

We didn't have water bottles when I was at school and I didn't die of dehydration. Not even once.

To be fair, the people who did die aren't on MN ;-)

JimmyGrimble · 20/06/2025 00:52

I let my class have water bottles in the classroom today - on the floor by their chairs only. I also told one of them to put his back and ask for his drinks when I spotted him squirting water all over the floor on purpose. Once when he asked me I was in the middle of giving instructions so said no. I dread to think what he told his mum - I’m expecting a summons from the EHCR in the morning. Oh well. They’re nine by the way.

Theroadt · 20/06/2025 00:43

theotherdown · 19/06/2025 22:04

I’m reading this totally differently to the title, to be honest.

There is a massive difference between ‘if you can’t stop crackling / bashing / messing about with your bottle it will have to go away’ and ‘you may not drink.’

OP needs to work with her son on learning coping strategies so he lessens the fidgeting

Itallcomesdowntothis · 20/06/2025 00:42

ButteredRadish · 19/06/2025 23:05

Are you joking?! It was nearly 30 degrees today!

And? I grew up without water bottles and had constant 30 degree weather for months in school. This is getting ridiculous. A couple of days of hot weather and it’s like an Armageddon.

Itallcomesdowntothis · 20/06/2025 00:40

So you totally and utterly believe word for word what an eight year old told you with full context? There is one born every minute.

I have children. They aren’t always key witness reliable- you should know that.

Don’t be one of those parents. Cause frankly you are on the verge.

elliejjtiny · 20/06/2025 00:39

Children (and adults as well probably) should be drinking a whole drink roughly every 90 minutes rather than constantly sipping. A continence specialist nurse told me that she is seeing an increase in children with continence problems because they are sipping from water bottles and their bladders are tiny because they aren't drinking proper sized drinks.

LoafofSellotape · 20/06/2025 00:35

RobertaFirmino · 19/06/2025 22:02

We didn't have water bottles when I was at school and I didn't die of dehydration. Not even once.

Not even in the summer of 76!

usedtobeaylis · 20/06/2025 00:28

God people banging on about what they used to do forty years ago is boring. We've moved on.

6 years olds fidget, it's normal. He should have had more access to water during the day like every other child. It's not a reward for not fidgeting.

The end.

Ablondiebutagoody · 20/06/2025 00:24

You are being melodramatic. Presumably he could have had another sip between the afternoon lessons if he was thirsty.

PluckyBamboo · 20/06/2025 00:14

Sorry but the teacher has 20+ other kids to educate and sounds like your DS is being disruptive. A couple of hours without water won't do him any harm and will maybe teach him there are consequences.

Lardychops · 20/06/2025 00:06

Even ‘few sips’ irritates me lol
Have a bloody drink fgs - down a blinking cupful , wipe your mouth on back of sleeve and crack on for a few hours! Xx

Lardychops · 19/06/2025 23:49

I babysat my DGC tonight - all 5 of them and the faff at bedtime of the waterbottle lugging and tiny sip faffing - also the sound of the plastic on the teeth of the two little ones drove me potty.
I took the bottles away and brought up a mug of water each and told them to have a proper drink and then go to sleep and then removed the mugs.
Bloody bottles were more of a distraction than anything discouraging actually quenching their thirst property before laying down thirst satiated and going to sleep!

HeyWiggle · 19/06/2025 23:40

by law he needs to be able to access water if he needs it. A couple of sips on a hot day which reached 32 degrees centigrade is not enough. I’d ask him not to fidget with his water and the teacher to ensure he has water access. Explain he had non today.

BashfulClam · 19/06/2025 23:39

Iwontlethtesungodownonme · 19/06/2025 22:08

And the drink on offer in the morning break was the little bottle of full fat milk that had been left on the school steps in the full sun all morning 🤢🤢🤢

You could get a drink from the tap in the classroom if you asked but the water was vile. It tasted and smelled like when you leave a glass of water sitting too long and was lukewarm. I think it was stored in a water tank.

onehorserace · 19/06/2025 23:35

Make contact with the teacher first to get the two sides of the story.