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To create a fuss about my son not having access to water today in school

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Icantfeelmyface · 19/06/2025 21:58

Hello .
My 8 year old son is a bit of a fidgeter, and has difficulty with keeping still . He has a replacement teacher for the past 6 weeks and he has struggled with various issues relating to her " shouting at him all the time " and him feeling picked on everyday no matter what he does .. won't get into the detail but meeting was held and she reassured me that this wasn't the case and she works on praise as well .. .. he told me after the meeting the teacher said in front of the class " why you telling your mum that I'm picking on you "?... Decided to leave things and move on... However today he comes home from school and tells me he had no water the whole day as the teacher said he was fidgeting too much with his bottle and told him to put it away from the table . All the other kids had their bottles on their table . He has said he had a few sips at lunch time and then nothing until after school club at 4 pm 😳
Am I being unreasonable to email the head teacher ?

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scotstars · 20/06/2025 19:10

Water bottles just another thing for teachers to manage. If they weren't being squeezed soaking children, sucked on like babies bottles, flipped in the air or children asking out to refill them during teaching they were being knocked over ruining kids work, art etc. Or the best 1 leaking water bottles in the bag that ruined everything in it. I stopped allowing them on desks they were in a box in class children could grab them after finishing a task, at break or lunch and no one complained

RustySpoons88 · 20/06/2025 19:08

Sounds like he was being a distraction / was playing with his water bottle instead of focusing on his learning. He had water before school, at break, at lunch and after school so I’m sure he’ll survive. Complain if you want to but nothing will come of it.

luckylavender · 20/06/2025 19:03

I survived the summer of 76 without access to water bottle in the classroom. We all did.

Mounjaronew · 20/06/2025 19:00

Navigatinglife100 · 19/06/2025 22:09

It's was yuk!

when i was p1 many years ago I loved cold milk. The blooming nuns used to bring the crate in in the winter and put it in front of the fire so it was warm and going off before we got it. Never ever will forgive them.

GiveDogBone · 20/06/2025 18:59

If water was that important to him he could have just behaved himself.

Happyhettie · 20/06/2025 18:49

Your child was not denied water. Your child couldn’t sit with the bottle on the table without it causing issues so rather than your child getting repeatedly told off, the teacher moved it so your child and those around them could get on with their work.
Water bottles are a pain in the neck and I don’t blame the teacher for saying he couldn’t have it on his table. The other managed to not mess about with their water bottles and could keep them on their tables. Actions have consequences.
Only a few sips of water at lunch time was his decision.

You can email the head teacher but what a waste of time for them. Speak to your child about not fiddling with the bottle instead and then it won’t be a problem.

hazelowens · 20/06/2025 18:49

Iwontlethtesungodownonme · 19/06/2025 22:08

And the drink on offer in the morning break was the little bottle of full fat milk that had been left on the school steps in the full sun all morning 🤢🤢🤢

I can't drink milk because our milk was put against a radiator and we were made to drink it. I was very sick afterwards and I haven't drank milk by itself since. When I was in hospital having my oldest this midwife said I had to drink the milk because I was being sick and milk would help, I told her I couldn't drink it or I would be sick again. Drank the milk as she was standing over me and was promptly sick on her shoes. If I drink milk it tastes she smells like the farm manure smell.

Sallyssn · 20/06/2025 18:39

Part of your job as a teacher is to look after their welfare or pass it on to classroom assistant.

MrsWeasley · 20/06/2025 18:38

In our school the pupils keep their bottles on the side and drink when needed. I’d be very surprised if the teacher didn’t allow him a drink, it sounds like she just asked him to put it somewhere safe.

Sallyssn · 20/06/2025 18:35

Maybe but you can't focus and concentrate when you are dehydrated.

catlover123456789 · 20/06/2025 18:34

I always need a drink next to me. I can't focus without it. I notice in meetings I'm often the only one with a drink. Staying hydrated is important and denying access to water is inhumane. Sounds like this isn't about water though, it's about the teacher. Bringing up that private meeting in front of the whole class is out of order.

AmyDudley · 20/06/2025 18:26

He did have access to water, he had access at lunch time when he chose to drink very little, and he had access during lessons when he chose to dick around with his bottle and it was removed. So two good chances for water and he blew them both. Never mind, he'll know what to do and what not to do next time if he wants to be able to have a drink.
To quote the Grail Knight, 'he chose poorly'.

ERthree · 20/06/2025 18:19

I think your son has a great imagination and you think he always tells the truth.

Pineapplecolada1 · 20/06/2025 18:16

He was probably being a pain with his water bottle. At 8 he will be aware when he can have a drink and water does not need to be on the desk.
teacher bashing again! Do you really believe that a teacher would deny a child a drink!!!!

Smiler168 · 20/06/2025 18:09

Navigatinglife100 · 19/06/2025 22:09

It's was yuk!

Put me off milk for life 🤢

bridgetreilly · 20/06/2025 18:00

earlgreyandlemon · 20/06/2025 12:25

Yes... and also... why does anyone care how much water other people drink?

Give people access to it and they can simply drink it when they want it.

Why on earth is it a problem? Why would you argue that denying children water is better than just letting them have access to whatever they need? It's water ffs.

Edited

Tell me you’re not a teacher without telling me you’re not a teacher.

SendBooksAndTea · 20/06/2025 17:15

CoffeeCantata · 20/06/2025 13:14

If you're a teacher and don't mind the cult of continuous water-sucking, respect.

If not - let me tell you that the fussing over water bottles, wanting to refill them at stupid times, knocking them over, losing them, muddling them with other children's, fiddling with them in class, making silly noises with them...the list goes on.

Yes, it's really hot - so all rules should be relaxed. But under normal weather conditions children don't need to to be drinking water ALL the time. And again - it's become yet ANOTHER job for teachers - checking children are drinking their water and having to answer to parents if they don't or won't.

Precisely.

Violinist64 · 20/06/2025 17:08

*about their parents, l should say.

Fundayout2025 · 20/06/2025 16:52

Alltheyellowbirds · 20/06/2025 14:56

Goodness, your poor mum!

Tell me about it. Luckily Granny wasn't told she was meant to be dead. My dad was not best pleased either

Violinist64 · 20/06/2025 15:40

Fundayout2025 · 20/06/2025 14:34

She might not have said it at all. At the age of 8 my brother could tell some amazing lies. After he told my dad he was late in as my maternal grandmother had died( divorced parents) my dad sent a condolences card to my mum. She didn't know anything about it so obviously very stressed. Neither her nor granny were in the phone at the time so she had to go to the phone box and call the phone box in granny's village and ask whoever answered to go knock on her door and ask her to ring her in the ( phone box,) number. Or if no answer go call back

Granny was alive and well but dad never believed a word my brother said with double checking with someone after that

What a shock for your poor mother and and grandmother. As you can gather, l think the child in the op knows exactly what he has been doing and why he is in trouble for it and is trying to wriggle his way out of it - successfully as far as his mother is concerned. I remember reading words from a wise primary school teacher, who told the parents that she would not believe everything she was told by the children as long as they did not believe everything their children told them about the teacher. In the case of a rather naughty boy like the one in the op, this is especially important.

Alltheyellowbirds · 20/06/2025 14:56

Fundayout2025 · 20/06/2025 14:34

She might not have said it at all. At the age of 8 my brother could tell some amazing lies. After he told my dad he was late in as my maternal grandmother had died( divorced parents) my dad sent a condolences card to my mum. She didn't know anything about it so obviously very stressed. Neither her nor granny were in the phone at the time so she had to go to the phone box and call the phone box in granny's village and ask whoever answered to go knock on her door and ask her to ring her in the ( phone box,) number. Or if no answer go call back

Granny was alive and well but dad never believed a word my brother said with double checking with someone after that

Goodness, your poor mum!

Boomer55 · 20/06/2025 14:54

Do kids now need immediate access to water at all times? Must be a new thing. 🤷‍♀️

Fundayout2025 · 20/06/2025 14:34

Violinist64 · 20/06/2025 09:34

Can we be sure that the teacher actually said this? (S)he could have said that (s)he had been talking to his mum and that she was disappointed in his fidgeting and lack of concentration when he should have been working, or words to that effect. Children often misinterpret what has been said and he is feeling singled out and that he has been "picked on" yet again.

She might not have said it at all. At the age of 8 my brother could tell some amazing lies. After he told my dad he was late in as my maternal grandmother had died( divorced parents) my dad sent a condolences card to my mum. She didn't know anything about it so obviously very stressed. Neither her nor granny were in the phone at the time so she had to go to the phone box and call the phone box in granny's village and ask whoever answered to go knock on her door and ask her to ring her in the ( phone box,) number. Or if no answer go call back

Granny was alive and well but dad never believed a word my brother said with double checking with someone after that

Zippedydodah · 20/06/2025 13:44

Aaron95 · 20/06/2025 11:15

Oh I had almos forgotten about the warm milk in the tiny bottles. And yes the occasional lumps in it.

And in winter it froze so the foil caps popped off…..

Zippedydodah · 20/06/2025 13:43

OntheBorder1 · 19/06/2025 22:40

Exactly the same here, we weren't guzzling water all day long back in my 60s/70s schooldays, and yet somehow we survived.

Me too.
And, oddly, we didn’t have snacks available at any time. It was breakfast, dinner, tea and perhaps an apple if you were hungry in between but generally you were told to wait until your next meal.