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To eat DP’s treats?

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squashedalmondcroissant · 19/06/2025 21:03

Lighthearted!

Dp has a slightly annoying habit of buying treats (ice cream, chocolate milk etc) and then never bloody eating them! He very rarely eats sweet things and normally only buys treaty things if they are on offer. Occasionally he’ll get given things eg, some chocolate bars from his parents from last Easter. He’s had stuff that’s actually gone out of date because he wants to have it for a ‘special occasion’ but then either forgets he has it or refuses to eat it when I suggest it because it’s not a special occasion. Obviously if it was a really special treat for a present, or if it was something he bought for a specific occasion I wouldn’t touch!

Today I really fancied some chocolate and the only stuff we had in the house was DP’s last year’s chocolate bars. Wibu to eat some since he’s probably forgotten it’s there and won’t eat it?

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TheAutumnCrow · 25/06/2025 08:26

Cerialkiller · 23/06/2025 07:45

Not if she has left it in a cupboard for a year!!

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Quite. It’ll be way past its ’use by’ date.

The partners who are the subject of threads have usually helped themselves in the few days immediately after Easter.

OP: I’d probably rebuy the chocolate etc and eat the older stuff, and attempt some form of stock rotation. Otherwise it’s going to run the risk of being wasted.

FinallyHere · 25/06/2025 07:58

What’s all this about chocolate ‘going out of date’. It may develop a bloom but it really doesn’t go off. It’s perfectly safe to eat it no matter how old it is.

TheFormidableMrsC · 24/06/2025 16:00

I think if he’s just not eating them and they’re sitting there then yes I would. However, I’d probably also replace it. I have a “treat” box for me. I calorie count so everything I buy is within my limits and it’s there if I fancy it. What pisses me right off is going in there and my gannet son has raided it. I’d rather he just asked me. Also, I get plenty in for him each week so he doesn’t have to eat my under 100 cals stuff. So I’m a bit on the fence with this one!

BankHolidayMonday · 24/06/2025 15:52

I understand separate finance, but I think it's beyond weird to have separate-snacks or separate food 😂

ZoggyStirdust · 24/06/2025 15:51

DeSoleil · 23/06/2025 10:44

He knows what he’s doing. He buys it or stores presents knowing full well your sweet tooth will drive you mad wanting to eat it and then when you do, he can either be argumentative or slyly put you down indicating that you’re a glutton.

There should be a monthly prize for the most outrageous leap by a poster. This one would probably win it

ZoggyStirdust · 24/06/2025 15:50

Sofiewoo · 19/06/2025 21:30

All hell breaks loose on mumsnet when a partner or son eats chocolate belonging to a poster. It’s selfish, rude, entitled and greedy when it’s done by a man.

If he wants to save his chocolate for a special occasion that’s his choice, get your own if you have already eating yours.

This is correct but tbh either way round I think it’s ok if you then tell your partner “I’ve eaten your snacks but I’ll replace them when we next shop”.

DeadMemories · 24/06/2025 15:48

My ex was like this. He would buy himself treats and then only have half. It would then sit in the cupboards for months till i threw it out.

But nobody, neither me nor the kids were allowed to eat it. Even if it had been in the cupboard for 6 months and he forgot about it we were not allowed to touch.

90% of the time i never told him i threw it out and he never noticed. The times i did tell him i threw away his old and stale crisps he wasnt bothered. But woe betide anybody who ate it.

MrsClatterbuck · 24/06/2025 15:43

While visiting a family member who lives abroad DH discovered on our last day a load of good quality chocolates think Godiva brand. My relativive had received these from clients. Some were out of date or nearly out of date and Dh being a bit of a chocoholic was a bit disappointed that we were leaving shortly.

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squashedalmondcroissant · 24/06/2025 15:35

AdaColeman · 22/06/2025 22:56

Haven't you got your own treats to eat? If not, why not?
Get yourself a selection of things you like, and keep it topped up, then it won't matter what he does with his treats!

I did get given the same amount of chocolate at the same time, took me probably six months to eat it as I don’t have a big sweet tooth and I’m trying to lose weight so I’d probably have one or two squares at a time. Very occasionally I get a real craving for sweet stuff and it is a bit frustrating to have to go out and buy more when I know there is some already in the house that isn’t being eaten 😂

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whatsagoodusername · 23/06/2025 12:44

We have an established rule that treats belong to the owner for a designated period of time, then they belong to the house. Usually 24 hours for fresh bakery items that go stale quickly, a week for slightly longer lasting items, about a month for long lasting things like chocolate. Works pretty well and food doesn’t go to waste.

NewPinkJacket · 23/06/2025 11:12

DeSoleil · 23/06/2025 10:44

He knows what he’s doing. He buys it or stores presents knowing full well your sweet tooth will drive you mad wanting to eat it and then when you do, he can either be argumentative or slyly put you down indicating that you’re a glutton.

Blimey, are you a flat earther? 🤦‍♀️🤣

DeSoleil · 23/06/2025 10:44

He knows what he’s doing. He buys it or stores presents knowing full well your sweet tooth will drive you mad wanting to eat it and then when you do, he can either be argumentative or slyly put you down indicating that you’re a glutton.

IsItSnowing · 23/06/2025 09:03

I'd ask first. If you know he'll say no then don't eat them.

Hoogey · 23/06/2025 08:19

DublinLaLaLa · 19/06/2025 21:12

Just eat the bloody chocolate! In this house, unless it was a present or for a specific occasion (say, guests the following day) all treats are fair game! It doesn’t matter who went to the shop to buy them.

Just make up a special occasion 🤷‍♀️

MumChp · 23/06/2025 07:57

Sofiewoo · 19/06/2025 21:30

All hell breaks loose on mumsnet when a partner or son eats chocolate belonging to a poster. It’s selfish, rude, entitled and greedy when it’s done by a man.

If he wants to save his chocolate for a special occasion that’s his choice, get your own if you have already eating yours.

Saved for the bin.

Cerialkiller · 23/06/2025 07:45

Sofiewoo · 19/06/2025 21:30

All hell breaks loose on mumsnet when a partner or son eats chocolate belonging to a poster. It’s selfish, rude, entitled and greedy when it’s done by a man.

If he wants to save his chocolate for a special occasion that’s his choice, get your own if you have already eating yours.

Not if she has left it in a cupboard for a year!!

Theunamedcat · 23/06/2025 07:40

Is the chocolate even in date?

Theunamedcat · 23/06/2025 07:40

Sofiewoo · 19/06/2025 21:30

All hell breaks loose on mumsnet when a partner or son eats chocolate belonging to a poster. It’s selfish, rude, entitled and greedy when it’s done by a man.

If he wants to save his chocolate for a special occasion that’s his choice, get your own if you have already eating yours.

It's last years and it's June ffs

MumChp · 23/06/2025 07:37

I ate the last easter bunny last night. Nobody has claimed it. If not it would be binned soon. It's summerhols in a minute.
If you leave things around for ages it'll be eaten. We don't eat each other new/not so old stuff but left stuff, no issues.

MermaidMummy06 · 23/06/2025 07:35

In our house it's the quick & the hungry when it comes to treats. If you don't eat it, expect someone else will (I have a 12 year old DS).

jaggededger · 23/06/2025 07:33

Blimey, you’ve done well to last this long. In this house it would be left alone for a week then be fair game, especially given his history of not eating it.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/06/2025 23:09

I think you should just get enough of the things you like for you, and forget his exist.

My dd is a bit like your H - she keeps treats forever and has been known to let them go off. Much too the consternation of my hoover DS, who can’t rest knowing there’s uneaten chocolate etc in the house!

However I’ve had to put down a firm line and say her stuff is hers to keep because people should feel they can make things last if they want.

AdaColeman · 22/06/2025 22:56

Haven't you got your own treats to eat? If not, why not?
Get yourself a selection of things you like, and keep it topped up, then it won't matter what he does with his treats!

T1Dmama · 22/06/2025 22:47

I wouldn’t eat the year old or out of date stuff 🤮
Eat some fresh stuff and if he eventually asks where it went I’d have forgotten by then anyway so won’t be lying when I say ‘I’m not sure, maybe it got thrown out’

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squashedalmondcroissant · 19/06/2025 22:40

Judellie · 19/06/2025 21:28

Just eat it. It seems if you ask him, he'll say he's saving it for a special occasion, so don't bother

Yes exactly, he’ll say no! Which would be fine if he wanted it, since it is his after all..but then he doesn’t eat it! Seems a shame to have tasty things in the house that literally go out of date and get wasted 😂

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