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For telling my bf i don’t want to visit my cousin on our vacation?

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Millijille · 19/06/2025 20:14

My bf got really well along with my cousin last year when we visited him on our holiday, He lives in spain where we are heading this year to because we didn’t get to do everything we wanted to last year. Problem is that i got stunged like crazy by mosquito’s in the place he lives since its more up the hills where those damn tiger mosquitos where everywhere.. my legs where hurting at least for a week by itching.. and not to say that last time my cousin also invited a friend with a pretty big untrained dog that scratched my legs, arms.. so im just not that thrilled i told my bf. I could go for like a day out a restaurant or a beach with cousin and his gf. But he implies it was soooo nice to spend a whole day at his place, because he would want to spend a whole day with them that it was the best day of the whole vacation, im an introvert and don’t like hanging around people to long.. i said yea for u but for me it wasn’t. Plus taxi or buss barely go where my cousin lives. Making it a pain to get back to the hotel. Im not close with my cousin.

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Millijille · 20/06/2025 02:38

@IReallyLoveItHere nah nothing really mansion at all, just regular house up the hills ish with an small ok pool. I think sometimes my bf gets bored of only being around me so this feels good for him to also be around someone else but feels weird since it my cousin he only meet once and he really nagging me to visit them

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Rayqueen · 20/06/2025 02:36

One of my parents has ended up in hospital on 2 abroad holidays from reaction to mosquito bites they just do not like her at all and she now refuses to go certain places abroad and in the uk because she could end up with hospital stays it got so bad

Millijille · 20/06/2025 02:35

@DestituteDesperate urg im annoyed to be honset by that, because i dont know why he wants to meet up with my cousin so bad by wanting to go to their place and visit. And i also got a bitt off when we did so many other romantic and fun activities but visiting my cousin was his favorite day last year. Like are ur fr..

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IReallyLoveItHere · 20/06/2025 02:34

Do they live in a mansion or have cool stuff he likes like nice cars or gadgets or whatever? So basically he's getting to live a life out of his reach for a day or two?

Its odd, meeting them somewhere is fine but just say no to the visit, it sounds like a slog.

Millijille · 20/06/2025 02:31

@Guavafish1 i know it gonna go like «oooh but we just see when we are there, noo rush!» and then My bf wanting to stay til late.. since last time clock was heading 9pm and i did tell him to book while we still here singe they can take some time. So i told him that i don’t trust him with that. Since we where offered to stay over last time wich i did not want

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Millijille · 20/06/2025 02:27

@steff13 Im blood type O meaning mosquitos favorite bufe😭

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Guavafish1 · 20/06/2025 02:05

I wouldn’t go it your sensitive to mosquitoes bits… maybe you can visit in the morning and make pre booked taxi to bring you back before dusk!

DestituteDesperate · 20/06/2025 02:03

That fact you’ve offered to meet the cousin and partner else where to mitigate the insect bites but your BF is still insisting on going up to their gaff, is weird.

steff13 · 20/06/2025 02:00

I've never heard of tiger mosquitoes. Does insect repellant not work on them? So they sting? The mosquitos here just bite. They always go after me though. It has to do with your blood type, I think.

Millijille · 20/06/2025 01:43

@Zanzara No because my bf barely got bitten at all.. so mf did not understand my pain by not wanting to visit my cousin🥲, by saying that if we meet them at somewhere else it be sooooooo little time! That going over is better like he trying to guilt trip me because i dont want to

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Zanzara · 20/06/2025 01:27

Most people on here will not understand how bad tiger mosquitoes are, OP. I too have encountered them. YADNBU.

Millijille · 20/06/2025 01:10

@MauriceTheMussel like i get that he got along with my cousin but he only meet him one time😅 plus I don’t want to go over cousins home and be bitten by damn mosquitos. Also im Not traveling to spend time with cousin

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MauriceTheMussel · 19/06/2025 22:18

It’s your cousin, and I think it’s frigging weird your bf is the one sort of reaching for him, IYSWIM?

Millijille · 19/06/2025 21:21

I just don’t want to come out as mean or boring but it wasn’t worth the mosquito bites

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