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To not send DD10 into sport day tomo..

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SchmortzDay · 19/06/2025 15:57

For context, DD is very active - she plays for the local girls football club and is part of a swim team and gymnastics club. But she hates sports day with a passion and always seems to be assigned a ‘novelty’ race, which causes her anxiety and embarrassment. She’s asked to be in a normal activity and has been fobbed off 2 years in a row.

She doesn’t have time off ever, hardly ever unwell and I’ve never done something like this before, but given it’s also going to be 30°c here tomo afternoon, I’m inclined to make an exception and let her have a day off at home (‘sick’). She’s a good kid and hasn’t asked for the day off, but I know it would be very well received.

What’s the verdict MN’ers!?

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BallerinaRadio · 19/06/2025 16:10

I'm not when sports day became such a big ordeal, there's been loads of posts about it and I don't get it.

It was just something we did when I was at school. I was never any good at it but I never asked my parents to keep me off school. It's a few minutes out of their day and then it's over.

Arlanymor · 19/06/2025 16:05

I’d say get to the root of it. If participating in a novelty race is so traumatising to her that it causes her anxiety and embarrassment then that’s a conversation that has to be had with the teacher in charge. Doesn’t she want to go to support her friends, even if she doesn’t participate? Does the school make it a nice social occasion as well as the sport component, so would she miss out on this?

I’m not a fan of kids missing things which are part of normal school life because that’s not how it works in the world of work or elsewhere. I just think it’s a poor way to fix a more deep rooted issue. Temperature is not an issue, the school will be fully aware and make the necessary arrangements. Plus she hasn’t asked.