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Help me with a RAGE

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 14:22

My mother has pissed me right off and I'm fuming

ASD son, benefits, decorating, overstepping, gaslighting, abuse....
Long boring list but whatever

Join me in a rage

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BucketHatWoes · 22/06/2025 01:59

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 18:24

Not you
your son!

two days you’d also told your narc mum to “fuck off” but it would seem… she didn’t listen?

Were she and ex at your property renovating your son’s bedroom?

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Yes I told her to fuck off, no she does not listen

My ex was decorating Ds room on my mothers instructions

Ex caused about 2k worth of damage

I told him to repair the damage or stay away

but according to them I'm nuts

They hate each other but are having lots of cosy chats about how terrible I am

Meanwhile I have spent 2 days cooking lovely indian food and watching the Forsyte Saga on netflix

And DS is very happy I spoke up for him

So no RAGE here anymore, peace is restored in my house :)

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Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 18:24

BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 18:22

Did I spend years zombie like, gosh it hasnt felt like that..

not 2 days, but yes there has been a lot of shit going on and he has coped very very well

when the shit hits the fan and hes not being gaslighted/manipulated/mollycoddled by my family he does great

so yes, he is doing very very well

(mrs mumsnet policeman) done on purpose lol

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Not you
your son!

two days you’d also told your narc mum to “fuck off” but it would seem… she didn’t listen?

Were she and ex at your property renovating your son’s bedroom?

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 18:22

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 17:44

after years of doing nothing, zombie like and very depressed, two days after posting you were at breaking point with him… “he is much better”.

wow! You should update your thread because you left it with the situation seeming very bleak!

Did I spend years zombie like, gosh it hasnt felt like that..

not 2 days, but yes there has been a lot of shit going on and he has coped very very well

when the shit hits the fan and hes not being gaslighted/manipulated/mollycoddled by my family he does great

so yes, he is doing very very well

(mrs mumsnet policeman) done on purpose lol

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Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 17:44

after years of doing nothing, zombie like and very depressed, two days after posting you were at breaking point with him… “he is much better”.

wow! You should update your thread because you left it with the situation seeming very bleak!

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:56

rainbowstardrops · 19/06/2025 16:52

Hahaha!!! I thought about watching something but I was so bloody desperate to sleep! Didn’t happen though. Then my bloody brain goes into overdrive and thinks it’s a really good idea to think about everything that’s on my mind etc.

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Listen to the Archers, the most soothing thing ever

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:53

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 16:36

South east
blazing sun
no wind
late twenties
heaven

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I've spent 20 mins trying to post a pic off my puppy but no joy :)

and of course DS is asleep so cant do the tech for me:)

(anyone from my other thread,DS is doing much much better :))

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rainbowstardrops · 19/06/2025 16:52

BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:30

Big bang theory and crisps get me through the night!

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Hahaha!!! I thought about watching something but I was so bloody desperate to sleep! Didn’t happen though. Then my bloody brain goes into overdrive and thinks it’s a really good idea to think about everything that’s on my mind etc.

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 16:36

BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:32

16 and big grey clouds, sligo town

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South east
blazing sun
no wind
late twenties
heaven

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/06/2025 16:33

I’m exhausted rather then enraged today

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:32

Martymcfly24 · 19/06/2025 16:24

You must be nowhere near Galway it's 24 degrees and sunshine.

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16 and big grey clouds, sligo town

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:30

rainbowstardrops · 19/06/2025 16:21

That’s fine. I’m just not entirely sure what you’re venting about but vent away! And it’s clearly a big deal to you.
Ah, west of Ireland. I’m south of England and bloody melting!
I’m with you with menopause and chronic pain sadly. Also didn’t have nearly enough sleep as have been awake since 3.30am because I’m so shitting hot and uncomfortable.

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Big bang theory and crisps get me through the night!

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Martymcfly24 · 19/06/2025 16:24

BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 15:54

Not hot here, wish it was

Windy with spitty rain

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You must be nowhere near Galway it's 24 degrees and sunshine.

rainbowstardrops · 19/06/2025 16:21

BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:12

I'm just venting, so no big deal

West of Ireland is always windy and spitty

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That’s fine. I’m just not entirely sure what you’re venting about but vent away! And it’s clearly a big deal to you.
Ah, west of Ireland. I’m south of England and bloody melting!
I’m with you with menopause and chronic pain sadly. Also didn’t have nearly enough sleep as have been awake since 3.30am because I’m so shitting hot and uncomfortable.

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:15

Ashipcalleddignity · 19/06/2025 16:02

Me. Menopause. Hormones. Chronic pain 600 million out of 10. Sick to absolutely fucking death of the utter injustice of being a woman. Can't sit outside because I have UV allergy. Hate the summer. Sweaty titties.

With you with the menopause and chronic pain, my watch thingy said I got three hours sleep last night

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:12

rainbowstardrops · 19/06/2025 16:03

Have I missed something because I don’t really understand your post?
Sorry if I’m being thick but it’s bloody sweltering here and I can’t stand the heat!
Where do you live for it to be windy with spitty rain completely missing the point

I'm just venting, so no big deal

West of Ireland is always windy and spitty

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 16:10

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 15:58

So really does beg the question …. Why are you interacting with your mother about such issues as decorating and your son.

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I dont know, I keep going back like a lost fucking puppy, only to get kicked away every time

She was so cruel to me on the phone today I didnt know what to do, so I I started a AIBU thread :

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rainbowstardrops · 19/06/2025 16:03

Have I missed something because I don’t really understand your post?
Sorry if I’m being thick but it’s bloody sweltering here and I can’t stand the heat!
Where do you live for it to be windy with spitty rain completely missing the point

Ashipcalleddignity · 19/06/2025 16:02

Me. Menopause. Hormones. Chronic pain 600 million out of 10. Sick to absolutely fucking death of the utter injustice of being a woman. Can't sit outside because I have UV allergy. Hate the summer. Sweaty titties.

CarpetKnees · 19/06/2025 16:00

Difficult to join you in a rage, when we have no idea what the issues are.

So yes, YABU to post for some sympathy without giving people some information about what you want us to be angry about.

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 15:58

BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 15:57

Could bring up the crackhead brother but I think you have had enough

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So really does beg the question …. Why are you interacting with your mother about such issues as decorating and your son.

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 15:57

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 15:53

Oh so another family member….

bloody hell, the way people live

Could bring up the crackhead brother but I think you have had enough

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TY78910 · 19/06/2025 15:55

So what do we do here… are we all smashing our phones against the wall?

Lovageandgeraniums · 19/06/2025 15:55

It's a fabulous day for rage gardening. Dump a bucket of water on the fuckers (plants) or throw the water at them while shouting 'fuck youuuu'. Also works when pruning as you snip the life away from them.

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BucketHatWoes · 19/06/2025 15:54

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/06/2025 14:36

Decorating?

It’s hot, everyone’s grumpy, why choose to rage. Sounds exhausting.

Not hot here, wish it was

Windy with spitty rain

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Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 15:53

Oh so another family member….

bloody hell, the way people live

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