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Trifficultly · 19/06/2025 11:13

DH and I both WFH. He is full time, I do 5.5 hours, 3 a week (16 hours total). He has a designated home office whilst I work in the house. It makes sense when he does more than double the number of hours, but as time goes on (we're now into the 5th year) not having a designated workspace is becoming increasingly irksome. I feel like I have considered all the options, but perhaps there's something I'm missing.

Options I've considered and the reasons they don't work:

  • Work from the master bedroom - no desk, no room for a desk, and in the summer it's stiflingly hot
  • Work from the kids room - has a desk, however it's increasingly untidy in there which makes it tough to focus. I'm trying to teach them to look after and clean their own spaces rather than me always doing it, which is a long and slow project. They've reached a point where they don't want me moving and messing with their things which I respect, but just kinda rules that out as a working space
  • Booking into a shared working space takes a bit percentage of my minuscule wage.
  • Make space in DH's office - we did try this but he often has confidential calls to make. Also he likes to chat, which when I have so few working hours I don't really have time for.
  • Moving and extensions are WAY out of our budget.

The two things I mostly do are:

  • Work from the kitchen table - though the chairs aren’t very comfortable. It’s a communal space, so my partner often comes in for coffee, lunch, or just to pass through en route to the bathroom etc, which, while fair, is distracting. I can’t exactly kick him out, but having him pottering around making lunch and cleaning up (better than not cleaning up!) or trying to chat about other things isn’t ideal when I’m trying to work. The kitchen is also often messy from breakfast, and even though I used to tidy it up before starting work, that’s fallen away over time with school runs and general life stuff. Five years in, we’ve lost that early motivation to keep things perfect. Have tried asking him his lunch schedule so I can also schedule mine for the same time, but it's often that he just grabs a lunch when he can. Not everything works to a schedule.
  • Work from the lounge - Working here means sitting on the couch, which isn’t great. I can blow up an exercise ball and balance a bit of wood between furniture to make a makeshift desk, but it all has to be set up and packed away each day. Since I’m usually squeezing work in around childcare, the kitchen wins out just because it’s less hassle. The lounge is often full of half-finished Lego and kids’ forts, which I love for a family space but not a working one!

It's one of those things where it kinda worked in lockdown, we muddled through, but I'm steadily realising this is our life and it doesn't look to be changing anytime soon. Will be needing a workspace for 5-6 hours 2-3 x a week for the next 5 years or so. Need to sort it out!

Wondering if the internet hive mind can see a solution I've missed.

OP posts:
Dominicus · 19/06/2025 12:50

I work part time too and have a small foldable desk and chair in the bedroom. I also have a fan as it gets hot.

CaptainSevenofNine · 19/06/2025 12:46

I have a secretary desk in the lounge. (A hideaway desk). My “commute” is setting up the desk and putting it away at the end of the day. I have a riser for my monitor and a proper chair.

Ddakji · 19/06/2025 12:45

nhsmanagersanonymous · 19/06/2025 12:25

I assume your employer is thinking that you are a professional and an adult who shouldn’t need to be told not to work amidst the breakfast bowls or with a plank of wood balanced on the sofa….

Its stuff like this that’s really harming the reputation of home working

Well, quite. It’s not like lockdown where people had to make do (one of our youngsters was using his ironing board as a desk. Impressed that he had an ironing board, to be honest).

If you apply for a WFH or hybrid job, the assumption has to be there that you have a suitable workspace, just as I assume if it’s office based, that’ll also be suitable - I don’t send prospective employers some kind of checklist to complete before I consider their offer.

UncharteredWaters · 19/06/2025 12:39

You share the office or you jointly pay for one do you to go to a ‘working space’

Chocolateorange22 · 19/06/2025 12:33

Do you definitely not have the option of building a garden office at all? Our set up is the same as yours hours/number of days etc. I work in the 4th tiny single bedroom and DH is outside. He is mostly in calls all day and will have the call booming and I can't be dealing with that all day. I'm rarely on calls and like silence to concentrate. When we moved into this house we just extended the mortgage slightly to have the capital to build the office outside. It's on the ground where a huge shed once stood and used some of the space to create a small shed at the back. It came in a lot cheaper than I expected because we didn't have the extras in and went for smaller windows, one door, cheaper cladding etc.

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 19/06/2025 12:29

What about a Couch master Cycon desk.
They are great for WFH and can be put under the couch when not in use?

YellowGuido · 19/06/2025 12:28

MagpiePi · 19/06/2025 11:33

I was going to suggest a fold up desk in the lounge.

Something like this so you could leave pens and papers in place.

This is the kind of set up I have, and it works really well. It’s also a lovely feeling folding it up at the end of the day / week / before annual leave :D

WonderingAboutBabies · 19/06/2025 12:25

Do you have a good sized or shaped hallway? My old flat had a funny shaped hallway with a little alcove which worked so well for WFH!

nhsmanagersanonymous · 19/06/2025 12:25

Ddakji · 19/06/2025 12:18

I don’t think my employer has ever stated any “required standards” for WFH!

I assume your employer is thinking that you are a professional and an adult who shouldn’t need to be told not to work amidst the breakfast bowls or with a plank of wood balanced on the sofa….

Its stuff like this that’s really harming the reputation of home working

Ddakji · 19/06/2025 12:18

MsFelicityLemon · 19/06/2025 12:14

Yes, it's surprising to read there's an employer who agreed to have a employee without a dedicated workspace that complies to the required standards.

I don’t think my employer has ever stated any “required standards” for WFH!

MsFelicityLemon · 19/06/2025 12:14

Yes, it's surprising to read there's an employer who agreed to have a employee without a dedicated workspace that complies to the required standards.

Trickedbyadoughnut · 19/06/2025 12:09

Can you shift your hours around? So is there any potential to start early and do a few hours in his office or work after he's finished?

I'm assuming neither of you can go into your employers at any point?

No space for a pull-down desk in a hall/end of the landing/pulling out of the airing cupboard?

MrsEMR · 19/06/2025 12:04

Have a similar situation & I’ve been looking at the LUNDTOFT sit/stand desk from JYSK. It is on wheels so could be moved into the home-office when not in use. I’ve also had my eye on the IKEA VATTENKAR storage box to keep my paperwork together. Although DH is WFH less & less so I’m normally in the home-office now.

Amba1998 · 19/06/2025 11:59

Fold away desk cabinet or look at inspo on the internet for under stairs solutions. They look quite good

minipie · 19/06/2025 11:58

Desk in the lounge and ensure kids tidy lounge up before bed seems most sensible. Perhaps DH could be in charge of tidy up seeing as he’s benefitting from the home office.

And tell your DH not to chat! I bet you don’t wander into his office and start a conversation.

nhsmanagersanonymous · 19/06/2025 11:57

I am embarrassed to read this. To work from home you need a workspace. How on earth did you get into this position?
Just a desk in bedroom or lounge and live with it

ExpressCheckout · 19/06/2025 11:50

It sounds to me like you'd benefit from a rota. He has three days a week, you have two, or half-days etc. It seems a bit odd that a space in your shared house only belongs to 'him', if you see what I mean.

123ZYX · 19/06/2025 11:50

Ddakji · 19/06/2025 11:32

DH and I share the office (spare room). If he has calls to make he goes into another room to make them, but this isn’t a frequent thing so it might not work. But your job is just as valid as his and so you are just as entitled to a proper work space as he is.

If you can’t share his work space due to his calls, then he can’t use your workspace (the kitchen, for example) to chitchat etc. While you’re working it’s your workspace.

We do similar and I try to arrange my more important calls for days DH is in the office (for you, that would mean your DH arranging calls for your non-working hours).

Your DH needs to accept you’re not there to chat - maybe try putting headphones in (even if you’re not listening to anything) as a reminder

ThePoshUns · 19/06/2025 11:48

Do you have a bay window in any of the rooms? I put a desk in mine and proper chair , it’s a nice little space to work from.

1MuffinSocks · 19/06/2025 11:47

I have this in the living room and fold it away for the weekend. Not loads of space but does the job if you just have a laptop.

www.habitat.co.uk/product/4469867?clickPR=plp:4:25

teatimefortiger · 19/06/2025 11:38

Good away desk sounds like it may be the way forward. Do you have space on a landing for a small desk?

Luxecalmeetvolupte · 19/06/2025 11:37

Local library?

Shedmistress · 19/06/2025 11:37

Buy a nice chair and use that at the kitchen table. When you are done, put your paperwork on the chair and wheel it to a corner somewhere out of the way.

Bjorkdidit · 19/06/2025 11:36

No chance of him going to his employer's office on the days you WFH so you can use his desk in peace?

Otherwise the sharing of an office and you wear headphones, so you can't hear his calls and also so you can ignore his chit chat?