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For not wearing summer shorts

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anxioussmess · 19/06/2025 10:26

im 40 and have reasonably nice legs although not very long as im only 5 foot 3, but I literally live in summer dresses as opposed to shorts and a strappy top. Am I the only one who does this?

sometimes I feel a bit frumpy and mumsy (I an
a mum also lol) but then my belly isn’t small and dresses cover it up.

in my 20s and early 30s I was always showing off my good figure in next to nothing lol

OP posts:
ilovesooty · 19/06/2025 12:48

OvergrownHaha · 19/06/2025 12:40

I feel shorts should never be worn in adulthood by anyone of any age, sex, or body type, unless actually engaging in some form of athletic activity.

That's nice. Apply that judgement to yourself if you want to. I don't imagine most people will care what you think.

RaininSummer · 19/06/2025 12:43

I never wear shorts. So unflattering on me.

OvergrownHaha · 19/06/2025 12:40

I feel shorts should never be worn in adulthood by anyone of any age, sex, or body type, unless actually engaging in some form of athletic activity.

Jamesblonde2 · 19/06/2025 12:36

If you’re concerned about what it looks like (and some people aren’t) then dresses will USUALLY look better than shorts and strappy vest in the UK. Comfier too. Lots of nice non-frumpy dresses.

godmum56 · 19/06/2025 12:35

I never tan, never have and cannot be bothered to do fake so i never wear shorts and my legs are permanently deathly white.

Purplecatshopaholic · 19/06/2025 12:32

I got back into shorts recently and am really enjoying wearing them and actually getting the legs out! I’m a committed dress wearer normally though, so easy to chuck on and go, lol.

BogRollBOGOF · 19/06/2025 12:30

TorroFerney · 19/06/2025 12:06

Why do we all think we have to look pleasing to others I wonder? Not criticising anyone but that seems to be the overriding thing, I can’t be letting people see my x, no one wants to see my y.

I know why of course because we’ve been taught that and a lot of men feel they are owed it ie hardly any clothes on an acceptable body but an unacceptable one to the male gaze should be covered but it’s rubbish isn’t it.

fair Enough to not wear the thing if you don’t feel comfortable but not because you think others won’t.

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Sometimes I'll wear shorts because I want to feel the sun (vitamin D) and fresh air on my body and they're more practical for moving around in. Sometimes I want to waft around in a long dress. I'll wear whatever works for that day.

Shorts have become more popular again in the last few years, but they're not compulsory. Maybe it's my age range but I'm seeing a good number of mature women realising that they don't have to be some kind of mythical perfection to wear shorts and are getting their legs out for the first time in years.

When I was adjusting to postnatal changes in my body, I decided that at 30, I was not hiding my now changed body for the next 50-60 years of my life, and actually I would still wear bikinis and cropped tops if it suited me. Admittedly I go for higher waists for physical and mental comfort, but I am still happy to air out above my naval and I don't think that my post-natal body is a shameful thing to always be hidden. The more we see the range of human bodies, the easier it is to love the body we live in.

Todayisaday · 19/06/2025 12:30

I never wear shorts, have never worn shorts unless say on a hike in the heat on holiday, which doesnt really happen very often. I hate things round my waist. Hate trousers, jeans etc.

pottylolly · 19/06/2025 12:24

I have horrible legs but do wear shorts on holiday - I like them floaty or structured not the boden 4 inch chino types that flatter no one. Having said that I do prefer dresses

Cheshire71 · 19/06/2025 12:22

I only wear dresses for work. At home I wear cropped trousers and short sleeved tops.

YellowGuido · 19/06/2025 12:21

Who is policing what you are wearing??
Choose whatever clothes make you feel nicest / comfortable 🤷🏼‍♀️

terracelane23 · 19/06/2025 12:19

I can’t remember the last time I wore shorts or a summer dress. I wear jeans.

AgathaSueJeffToo · 19/06/2025 12:09

I am 5 ft tall and overweight so Im round. I like shorts as I dont get chub rub. If I wear a dress a wear shorts.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 19/06/2025 12:08

BIossomtoes · 19/06/2025 10:51

There’s this weird British belief that the more flesh you expose the cooler (temperature wise) you’ll be. It just isn’t true. Billowy dresses and loose trousers are far more comfortable in heat. I hate shorts, they look good on almost nobody.

So true! Speaking as one who lived for many years in very hot climates.

Long, loose clothing in light (as in both weight and colour) cotton is the best. Linen can often be too heavy. Synthetics should be avoided as far as possible.

As for the OP, not many people look good in shorts anyway. Dresses are far more forgiving if you’re not a 5’ 8” size 10.

TorroFerney · 19/06/2025 12:06

Why do we all think we have to look pleasing to others I wonder? Not criticising anyone but that seems to be the overriding thing, I can’t be letting people see my x, no one wants to see my y.

I know why of course because we’ve been taught that and a lot of men feel they are owed it ie hardly any clothes on an acceptable body but an unacceptable one to the male gaze should be covered but it’s rubbish isn’t it.

fair Enough to not wear the thing if you don’t feel comfortable but not because you think others won’t.

BigDahliaFan · 19/06/2025 12:03

I'm wearing shorts more this year as I've had my varicose veins done and my legs look nicer than they have in years. I've also lost a stone and a half and that helps too!

But I rarely wear them day to day - mostly becasue I live in the north and it's rarely warm enough. I'll wear them for walking the dog or gardening.

If I'm on holiday or travelling or out and about I often find loose-ish dresses are more comfortable and cooler.

Ddakji · 19/06/2025 12:02

Disturbia81 · 19/06/2025 11:59

Same. I covered up a lot in summer as a teen and remember I was always melting, while everyone else seemed so free and letting it all hang out. Truth is no-one cares! We’re the only ones living in our bodies and feeling the temperature. I have a friend who is a size 30-32 and she wears short summer dresses, dungarees etc and no-one bats an eyelid, and she gets to stay cool and be who she wants to be

Yes. I’m always telling DD that no-one else can see her “flaws”, these things are always so much more visible to ourselves than anyone else.

Though she is a gazillion times more confident that I was at 15, which is nice to see.

Disturbia81 · 19/06/2025 11:59

ilovesooty · 19/06/2025 11:33

Agreed. I just wear what I like and in fact I take very little notice of what anyone else wears anyway.

Same. I covered up a lot in summer as a teen and remember I was always melting, while everyone else seemed so free and letting it all hang out. Truth is no-one cares! We’re the only ones living in our bodies and feeling the temperature. I have a friend who is a size 30-32 and she wears short summer dresses, dungarees etc and no-one bats an eyelid, and she gets to stay cool and be who she wants to be

EvilDJ · 19/06/2025 11:50

I’m building up to wearing shorts out and about. I wear them on holiday and round the house but not quite there yet for just going about my day.
I don’t really like wearing dresses casually either. I feel overdressed in them but also feel like I’ve forgotten to put something on.
I wear jeans and t-shirts mostly.

StanfreyPock · 19/06/2025 11:49

After decades of avoidance now I DNGAF and wear shorts a lot. The more you wear them the more the legs tan (or weather, here in Scotland). If anyone is offended by my chunky knees, that's their problem.

Last year I made a matching linen shirt & shorts combo for going to Greece and it was lovely and cool.

Just wearing the damn shorts! 😎

ShiftingSand · 19/06/2025 11:48

BIossomtoes · 19/06/2025 10:51

There’s this weird British belief that the more flesh you expose the cooler (temperature wise) you’ll be. It just isn’t true. Billowy dresses and loose trousers are far more comfortable in heat. I hate shorts, they look good on almost nobody.

I remember a male fashion expert on This Morning many years ago saying that shorts belonged on the beach or in the garden and there were other more stylish ways to stay cool in hot weather. This stuck with me for some reason. I noticed that there were some chilly looking ladies in the local supermarket wearing tiny shorts today and my first thought was, “save them for the beach”😂

KPPlumbing · 19/06/2025 11:46

I don't wear shorts. I actually think they make most people look lumpy and frumpy. And I'm a toned size 8.

I like a nice neat, sleek summer dress. Or jeans with a well fitting, good quality vest (with thick straps) - I'm never too hot in jeans, I don't get why so many people are.

ImFineItsAllFine · 19/06/2025 11:43

I've got a massive arse and rather a lot of cellulite so never wear shorts in public. I find loose dresses are much cooler when its hot. On the school run it seems to be mostly palazzo type trousers, floral midi dresses or capri-length leggings (for the gymwear crowd).

CluelessAboutBiology · 19/06/2025 11:42

I would love to be able to wear shorts but no one wants to see my legs. I’m quite portly so the shorts would be wider than they are long!

Ddakji · 19/06/2025 11:35

I wear shorts (cargo style) at home and a dress in the office. I shave my legs but they are as white as snow - so what?

I also look frumpier in my shorts than dress but again, who cares?! Super comfortable.

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