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For not wearing summer shorts

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anxioussmess · 19/06/2025 10:26

im 40 and have reasonably nice legs although not very long as im only 5 foot 3, but I literally live in summer dresses as opposed to shorts and a strappy top. Am I the only one who does this?

sometimes I feel a bit frumpy and mumsy (I an
a mum also lol) but then my belly isn’t small and dresses cover it up.

in my 20s and early 30s I was always showing off my good figure in next to nothing lol

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zeibesaffron · 21/06/2025 12:19

I don’t wear shorts, trousers or jeans - I wear leggings for the gym - but that's it - skirts and dresses all year round!

Wincher · 21/06/2025 12:01

I’ve just given in to Facebook advertising and bought some of those Halara shorts you always see. They are weird material but soooo comfy! I have short ones for running/the gym and longer ones for the rest of the time. They are great!

Lemmywise · 21/06/2025 11:45

I like shorts for practical reasons as I do a lot of walking and working out and they are best for this activity. A skirt would not suit this. I do like to look nice but most of the time I am going for comfort and practicalities

I am in my 40’s and own about 10 pairs of shorts, plenty of women do, but it’s a choice. Why would you think shorts means daisy dukes? There are so many styles and options. Shorts do not mean your ass is hanging out

I have walked past a few women lately in the heat covering themselves in leggings and looking self conscious and I really empathise as I used to feel this way, as I am older I now don’t give a shit what someone else thinks about how I look. I wish more women would gain confidence to just wear whatever the hell they like. I wasted so many years afraid to wear shorts

none of us are perfect and life is short, wear what’s best for you. No one is looking at your imperfections usually we are only thinking of our own!

cramptramp · 21/06/2025 11:42

Why would not wearing shorts be unreasonable? If you don’t want to wear them, don’t wear them.

Disturbia81 · 21/06/2025 11:40

LemondrizzleShark · 20/06/2025 22:15

I am 45. I have never seen anybody in their 40s in shorts, except hiking or on the beach. And shorts never look good on anyone, unless your name is Daisy Duke.

Who are all of these school run mums in shorts?? All the mums on my school run have come straight from work… definitely not in shorts.

Most mums are wearing shorts and strappy tops at my kids school, or summer dresses

KatieDidIt · 20/06/2025 22:30

I wouldn’t be without my shorts. I have many styles, and I look forward to the warmer months so I can get them on. Aged 58 and luckily still very trim. My DH in his builder shorts, let’s just say, it keeps that spark alive. 😉

LemondrizzleShark · 20/06/2025 22:21

OvergrownHaha · 19/06/2025 12:40

I feel shorts should never be worn in adulthood by anyone of any age, sex, or body type, unless actually engaging in some form of athletic activity.

Agree! Didn’t wear them when I was 16 and weighed 7st, wouldn’t wear them now. Other people can if they want to, but OP is definitely not alone in not liking them.

Even DS8 is refusing to wear school shorts because it apparently isn’t cool (he’s happy to wear jersey shorts at the weekend).

LemondrizzleShark · 20/06/2025 22:15

I am 45. I have never seen anybody in their 40s in shorts, except hiking or on the beach. And shorts never look good on anyone, unless your name is Daisy Duke.

Who are all of these school run mums in shorts?? All the mums on my school run have come straight from work… definitely not in shorts.

Tbry24 · 20/06/2025 22:10

I’d never worn shorts until a couple of years ago and got a pair for gardening. I always think they look awful on everyone but now I’m 50 I don’t care anymore what anyone else thinks.

minnienono · 20/06/2025 21:56

I see more dresses than shorts myself. I think of shorts as being scruffy myself, much prefer dresses

feelingbleh · 20/06/2025 21:54

I live in shorts and tshirts i only own 1 summer dress

Atina321 · 20/06/2025 21:45

1SillySossij · 19/06/2025 10:52

Yabu and this is the reason no shops ever stock any summer dresses because nobody ever wears them.

There are loads of summer dresses around, I own lots of them.

cyvguhb · 20/06/2025 06:19

anxioussmess · 19/06/2025 19:13

Soooo many replies.. thank u.. I do tend to wear dresses a lot. Even in winter I wear them with tights and boots. I guess I shouldn’t worry what I wear as long as I feel confident in it which mostly I do

What do you mean even in winter? Where are you getting that dresses aren't all year round garments?

What's the reason for your unusual views on clothing?

IhateHPSDeaneCnt · 20/06/2025 06:09

What a weird thing to be hung up about?! I have good legs but requisite - if an informal dress code - is comfort! Airy, long, loose fit Cotton dresses are more my thing. Plus easy to wash and go if away; dress up with accessories if that bothered! However, if hot, sweaty and dealing with limpet like damp fractious kids least of considerations would be to aspire to be Boden mum!

UnderFloorboards · 20/06/2025 05:37

I am the same body type as you and never wear shorts. I wear tops and long cotton skirts. I feel and look pretty good. Am in my 50s and am in no way frumpy. I don’t like how shorts look or feel on me. It’s not compulsory!

MyCoralHedgehog · 20/06/2025 05:32

Usernameisunavailable · 19/06/2025 15:33

My legs are my best feature, so I’m flashing them in shorts whenever the sun shines! Wear whatever you feel comfortable in, but don’t be afraid to wear shorts just because you’ve turned 40!

I still wear them and I’m 66!

user1471554720 · 19/06/2025 21:58

I wear shorts, coming to mid thigh, and a t shirt when wfh and on holiday. I am 52, 5ft 3 and pale. My legs tan a little, when I wear shorts in the garden, and out running.

When going to the shops etc at home, I wear three quarter length trousers (I don't know the correct name). I rarely wear dresses, unless on an evening out on holiday. I want to get a light tan on my legs. They will stay white if I wear long dresses all the time. Also, as I am so short, it is hard to get long floaty dresses which are above my ankle.

EveInEden · 19/06/2025 21:53

Where I am, I see more shorts than dresses. I wear both, although prefer shorts. I think they look fine on both men and women and never understood this whole 'difficult to pull off' for a perfectly normal piece of clothing.

LegoHouse274 · 19/06/2025 21:50

I wear shorts a lot in the summer but I know plenty of people who never do. It's just personal preference and comfort isn't it. I really don't care what other people wear and doubt anyone particularly notices what I wear likewise.

Neolara · 19/06/2025 21:48

I never wear dresses and wear shorts a lot when it's hot. I'm 56 and was contemplating earlier today that I will probably be wearing shorts into my 70s which I imagine is not that usual. Tragically, I have very average legs so it's not about showing them off. I just like shorts

Alconleigh · 19/06/2025 21:41

I’ve got very slim legs and I look like a nine year old boy in shorts. A really wizened one. Dresses all the way!

HeartShapedBox · 19/06/2025 21:32

I never wear shorts or dresses. The closest I'll get to shorts is 3/4 length leggings, and only once in a blue moon when I've actually bothered shaving. I'm in my 30's .

anxioussmess · 19/06/2025 19:13

Soooo many replies.. thank u.. I do tend to wear dresses a lot. Even in winter I wear them with tights and boots. I guess I shouldn’t worry what I wear as long as I feel confident in it which mostly I do

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JillMW · 19/06/2025 17:03

anxioussmess · 19/06/2025 10:36

Not just me then which is good to know

I guess I see lots of school mums looking trendy in their shorts and fun tops and I feel a bit frumpy in comparison

If you feel frumpy then I think it is worth a change to boost your confidence. You could try a shirt dress in a cool cotton. Choose one above the knee to let your legs out, slightly fitted with no belt is flattering to the tum.

reversegear · 19/06/2025 16:05

I’m 5’2 and shorts just look awful on me, they chop me in half short how short my legs are. I have good toned legs but I feel way more comfy in skirts and dresses.