Interested in ratios from this board as to whether IABU or not
My brother and his wife have 5 children. I've got each child a present for bday and xmas every year of their life, though now that some children are more grown up the presents are smaller, and once they're over 21 it's generally just a card or poss a small thing like a lip balm.
Not spent a fortune, £15-£20 when young, then £10-£15 cash when teens, and £50 on 21st as a special event.
My brother gave a very clear message when he started having kids that this was important to him, and then he and his wife decided adult presents were to be stopped, so for many years I was gifting to his family 10 times a year and receiving nothing in return. I didn't complain or question it once.
I have had 2 children now, and for my daughter's 6th birthday last month they sent just a card. I finally picked up the courage /wording to question this - maybe something had gone missing in the post? And got a nice polite reply that this year they have sent just a card.
AIBU to think it's a bit shifty to accept presents for 5 kids over 20+ years but decide to stop giving presents now?
If he'd told me this decision at the beginning of the year I'd have been less annoyed but guess what? His kids birthdays have all been before mine, and I gifted cash to each.
He's not poor, on over £100K and lives in a fairly cheap part of the country.