Piss taking neighbour

Keep the ladders, you bought the property and the previous owners did not inform you that anything remaining in the property was owned by neighbours.

Parcel - I'd be glad of not having the burden on deliveries for neighbours being brought to yours! I regularly got this when I moved here and with a newborn baby, it was a pain in the ass. I stopped taking them in after being woken up several times, then tripping over them for days until they bothered to come get them.

Neighbour can cut the side of the hedge on their property themselves.

Check that there are no nesting birds before trimming a hedge March - September, you cannot legally trim it IF there are nesting birds in it.

Four issues here:

1. Trimming the hedge. Was a bit cheeky of him to ask but "sorry, don't have time but you're welcome to trim whatever is on your side," as a previous poster has suggested, is all you needed to say.
2. Parcel. It was actually much more polite of your neighbour to suggest someone else, who he has probably previously checked with if they mind taking parcels in.
3. Ladders. Surely this doesn't happen without any sort of previous conversation?!?
4. You immediately deciding that he is "a prick" and mentioning the "usual religion and culture" of your neighbours.

It could be that prick and the other neighbour always take in each others' parcels, or are good friends or something. Maybe he was being rude about you, maybe he was simply speaking dismissively to the delivery person who a prick is bound to view as beneath him.

Personally, I would have trimmed the hedge on his side because it is your hedge and it is a neighbourly thing to do.

I wouldn't drop the ladders off because it will look really petty. Who cares what prick thinks, but he is not the only neighbour.

I'd bide my time and see how things develop with other neighbours, keep your tinder dry for now.

Are you 100% sure he wasnt saying not to leave it with you as a favour? My neighbour specifically asks for parcels not to go to our house because we had a spate for a few weeks and I kept popping them over to her and she went "god this is such a pain for you, I'm going to add a note so they go to someone else's house".
I appreciate you heard the tone, but equally you do sound maybe a little quick to assume.... it sounds more to me like you've done him a few favours so he's saving you the bother of looking after a parcel that isn't yours. He obviously doesn't think you're going to rob him because he's got stuff in your garage!

Ugh there’s nothing like bad neighbours to rile you up! Feel glad he is not asking you to take his parcels in too. He’d probably expect you to pop them over at his convenience.

I wouldn’t be upset by the parcel thing- I say the same but don’t have bad feelings towards my neighbours but I have a neighbour who is fine with taking my parcels and they have verbally ok’d it. I would feel a bit of piss taker if my other neighbour started being pestered with them without a conversation !

Sorry OP but you sound pretty judgemental. It seems you decided before speaking to your neighbours, that they look down on you because you have a different religion, so you're pre-judging them, without even knowing what religion they actually are, if any, seeing as you can't tell someones religion from simply looking at them.

Be careful who's advice you take on here. If you look at posts some are extremely quick to shout "Divorce!" "Gaslighting!" Over something trivial like DH being 5 minutes late from work.

I'd wait it out because it's hard to tell. Hedges he may have asked as you OH already had the cutter out. Package he may have reacted strongly because he thought they've already trimmed the hedge and are storing my ladders, they'll feel like I'm talking the piss if they have to start taking my parcels as well!

You said you felt like he was a prick before you even moved in, so maybe it's your subconscious bias seeing all the things he does in a bad light/or thinking he's judging you where in reality you think that based on your judging of him.

Why do you want to take in his parcels when you clearly don't like him. It's a pain and surely if he senses how you feel about him that's why he didn't want to bother you further.

And what has he actually said and done that's so personally offensive to you?

If your husband chose to cut his hedge that's his decision. He needn't do it again.

How do you know people dislike you based on your religion/culture?

Sorry but it's your hedge your responsibility! Why aren't you offering to keep your hedge tidy and expecting him to tidy it for you?

it’s clear the neighbours look down on us as we do not follow the typical religion and culture that most of the street share.

Are you going to elaborate on this titbit OP?

OP, does your neighbour have a key to your garage?
If he's storing massive ladders there he could potentially store other items further down the line.
I would definitely want any key back and wouldn't be happy to store someone else's ladders in a limited storage space.

British culture often means we dance around things very passive aggressively. I'd be polite but firm and just engage in a conversation; tell them what's on your mind, ask if they have any personal issues with you (besides the hedge trimming), and if they don't seem sincere, suggest they take their ladders back. At least by engaging in an open dialogue you'll have a better idea whether it is just a misunderstanding, or if they take personal issue.

As others have noted, I would also verify (elsewhere) if they really are his ladders.

Do you even have proof these ladders are actually his? EVERYTHING that is in your house/shed/garage etc and on your property when you buy it is YOURS! If the neighbour really did own the ladders then he’d have been told this and told
to move them or he’d lose them as law overrules everything

where as I’m intrigued that someone thinks they can tell someone’s tone of voice - with regards to them as people - via the medium of a ring doorbell.

sorry OP you sound very very hard work and looking for offence at every opportunity

One of our neighbours, not immediately next door, positively told us to get anything that has to be left diverted to them because they work from home and are always around. It could be something similar he knows them and he knows they will be in and don't mind accepting parcels.

I am intrigued, I'm 75 years old and have never lived anywhere that has a predominant religion and culture. Nobody ever talked about such things, some went to a place of worship but that was their business, who cares?

Your neighbour sounds horrible. Be superficially polite but distant from now on. You've done nothing wrong. I daresay other neighbours aren't keen on him either but just ignore him.

It is actually your responsibility to trim your own hedges.

Ah! That’s a new thing! No sock puppeting from the OP without effort then!

I’d like to think that we have proven ourselves as nice normal neighbours.

Nice neighbours cut their hedge when it spills over onto another neighbours property. At least, that's what I do. He probably doesn't want you taking your parcel because you won't cut your own hedge that's on his property. You've got things the wrong way around.

To be honest, OP, it sounds like you have a massive bee in your bonnet about not fitting in. Nutty neighbours are not a thing anyone wants.

Someone possibly sounded a little annoyed on a Ring doorbell

That's not treating people like shit

Or any close relative or dog. Just because you have a bad day does not excuse treating people like shit.

So people are only allowed to be annoyed/let their voice show off their emotions if their nan just died?

It's 2025

Can we stop using gaslighting to describe "someone has a different opinion to me"

Try it, MN have made it much more difficult than it used to be. You can only do it by registering as a separate person.