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Piss taking neighbour

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Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:18

Moved to a nice (ish) area a few months ago, knew when I saw the new neighbour that he was a prick. Unreal how entitled the people down this street are tbh. My family and I are not stuck up yet we’re not the pits or in the nightmare neighbour bracket but it’s clear the neighbours look down on us as we do not follow the typical religion and culture that most of the street share.
So this twat hardly even says hello yet he stood at our garden fence watching as we were going to trim our hedges with our new hedge trimmer the other day and asked my partner if he would come and trim the hedge in his garden as it is our hedge that has grown over to his side. (I didn’t realise my partner hadn’t offered to do it himself and that this neighbour actually thinks it is our responsibility to do so and expects us to sort it as if it is our responsibility).
Fast forward to yesterday, a delivery guy attempts to deliver a package to this neighbour, rings his ring doorbell, I was in my garden at this point and heard loud and clear the neighbour say through the speaker that he was not home and to not leave the parcel with me but to take it to the other neighbours!
So he expects my partner to go and do his gardening yet we’re not good enough to take his parcel in? I could hear the disgust in his voice at the idea of the delivery man leaving his parcel with us.
He also stores his massive ladders in our garage because they won’t fit in his. Honestly I felt like launching his ladders over the fence for him to store where the sun doesn’t shine.
I could understand if we were scum bags and caused nuisance but we’re in bed by a reasonable time and do not make excessive noise or other anti social issues.
I realise I shouldn’t give it a second thought yet after hearing his tone about us to the driver I feel enraged at his cheek.

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Duckduck2 · 19/06/2025 06:37

I would be returning the ladders asap.

If you want to try and keep the piece you can say that you are having the garage done or there now isn’t room for them with all your own items.

OR if you are not bothered you can return them and say seeming as you don’t think we are capable of taking in a parcel for you we have decided to return the ladders as we do not want the responsibility of any items that don’t belong to us.

Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:29

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They were in the garage when we moved in, he said they were his and would we mind keeping them in there for him as the previous occupants didn’t mind. I wouldn’t mind, yet hearing him speak in that tone about us yesterday made me feel like used dirt, today I will leave his ladders on his property. I wanted to post on here to get other people’s input as I felt like maybe I was overreacting or being petty but I have woke up this morning and it’s the first thing on my mind

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PersephoneParlormaid · 19/06/2025 06:23

It is his responsibility to trim any hedge on his side. And tell him to stick his ladders where the sun doesn’t shine.
Honestly, you need to nip this in the bud now or he’ll run rings around you until one of you moves.

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Thankyou, I will be doing just that.

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Dangermoo · 19/06/2025 06:25

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PersephoneParlormaid · 19/06/2025 06:23

It is his responsibility to trim any hedge on his side. And tell him to stick his ladders where the sun doesn’t shine.
Honestly, you need to nip this in the bud now or he’ll run rings around you until one of you moves.

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 19/06/2025 06:22

Deliver his ladders outside his door asap (“sorry we need the garage for our stuff”) and try not to give the rude fucker any more headspace.

no more trimming the hedge - “sorry don’t have time, you are welcome to trim what’s on your side”

Do of this with a smile so he can’t accuse you of anything.