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To change my name from Elizabeth

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awkwardasfuck · 18/06/2025 23:56

God I just hate it. It sounds like lizard. It's a Christian name meaning "loved by god" and I'm a staunch atheist. It was the Queens name and I'm firmly anti royal. It was my maternal grandmothers name and she was abusive to my mum, who, in turn, has passed that trauma and abuse onto me to the point where we are no contact. Ive always been called Lisa but I don't like that much either.

I've been going by Lis, pronounced "Liss" but what can I move to? Urgh.

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bridgetreilly · 20/06/2025 15:06

How about Isla? It’s not related and has an entirely different sound but sort of looks a bit in the same family,

VickyEadieofThigh · 20/06/2025 14:38

Waterweight · 20/06/2025 13:18

Not quite what she said though is it ? It was a family name & she wasn't close to those family members + socially it's known as royal name & she's not a big fan of the royal family

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Did you not see I was joking...?

Waterweight · 20/06/2025 13:18

VickyEadieofThigh · 20/06/2025 12:15

You can dislike and change your name for whatever reason you like. But using "It was the Queen's name and I'm anti royal" is daft. Many perfectly nice women are called Elizabeth - it's my middle name (I can be a bit of a mare, mind) and my oldest school friend's first name (she is frequently a lot of a mare - perhaps you have a point)...

Not quite what she said though is it ? It was a family name & she wasn't close to those family members + socially it's known as royal name & she's not a big fan of the royal family

VickyEadieofThigh · 20/06/2025 12:15

You can dislike and change your name for whatever reason you like. But using "It was the Queen's name and I'm anti royal" is daft. Many perfectly nice women are called Elizabeth - it's my middle name (I can be a bit of a mare, mind) and my oldest school friend's first name (she is frequently a lot of a mare - perhaps you have a point)...

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awkwardasfuck · 20/06/2025 12:15

LlynTegid · 20/06/2025 12:10

Fair enough and apologies if I have brought up bad or worse memories.

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No need to apologise! It's a coincidence!

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LlynTegid · 20/06/2025 12:10

awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 18:35

I'd then be copying my cousins name as well as using the name of someone who was quite a bully to me - I also really don't like the name in general

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Fair enough and apologies if I have brought up bad or worse memories.

Strawberryfields18 · 20/06/2025 11:23

awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 20:51

I'm thinking of just moving away from Elizabeth in all it's forms to be honest, I've never liked it, or Lisa, or any of the dims since I was old enough to know what my name is.

I don't know how many other people go through that but I feel ready to change entirely.

Calista or Lis still for short as suggested up thread kind of speaks to me

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Calista is a lip balm. You could end up being called Lippy. I'd be more inclined to change my perception of my name & become the wonderful Elizabeth rather than change my name.

seven201 · 20/06/2025 10:26

Alyssa also nice

seven201 · 20/06/2025 10:25

I know an Elissia who is sometimes called Liss. Go for it, enjoy whatever new name you pick!

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awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 23:15

ElfAndSafetyBored · 19/06/2025 22:47

Loads of good suggestions here. Do it! I’d go for Beth personally. Or Libby. Or Betsy. Which one feels more ‘you’ though?

I'm not keen on keeping the Elizabeth at all nut out of all of them I do like Libby (although it does make me think of the sabrina the teenage witch antagonist 🤣)

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ElfAndSafetyBored · 19/06/2025 22:47

Loads of good suggestions here. Do it! I’d go for Beth personally. Or Libby. Or Betsy. Which one feels more ‘you’ though?

DisabledDemon · 19/06/2025 22:32

There's always Buffy!

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awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 22:22

CeraUnaVolta · 19/06/2025 22:13

Since you also don’t like your middle name, why not take up both suggestions and rename yourself
Calista Balonz
😊

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I think this is the only answer!

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CeraUnaVolta · 19/06/2025 22:13

awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 20:51

Although now I do feel Balonz might be the one! 🤣

Since you also don’t like your middle name, why not take up both suggestions and rename yourself
Calista Balonz
😊

Paoo · 19/06/2025 20:53

awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 20:51

I'm thinking of just moving away from Elizabeth in all it's forms to be honest, I've never liked it, or Lisa, or any of the dims since I was old enough to know what my name is.

I don't know how many other people go through that but I feel ready to change entirely.

Calista or Lis still for short as suggested up thread kind of speaks to me

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I changed entirely, so relieving honestly not that much of a faff and after like the first month there was no accidental wrong name issues.

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awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 20:51

Although now I do feel Balonz might be the one! 🤣

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awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 20:51

DisabledDemon · 19/06/2025 20:47

Zizi's fun and it always reminds me of the fabulous ballet dancer, Zizi Jeanmaire. This was her: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0419929/mediaviewer/rm533091072/?ref_=nm_ov_ph

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I'm thinking of just moving away from Elizabeth in all it's forms to be honest, I've never liked it, or Lisa, or any of the dims since I was old enough to know what my name is.

I don't know how many other people go through that but I feel ready to change entirely.

Calista or Lis still for short as suggested up thread kind of speaks to me

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DisabledDemon · 19/06/2025 20:47

Itiswhysofew · 19/06/2025 00:18

Elizabeth's my 2nd name after my grannie. Wish it was my first, as I hate my first name, so I can appreciate your wanting to change yours.

Just do it. All you can do is hope that people will oblige.

Are you thinking of using one of the diminutives of Elizabeth, (82), or changing to a different name?

Libby
Tess
Zizi
Izzy
Elsy

Zizi's fun and it always reminds me of the fabulous ballet dancer, Zizi Jeanmaire. This was her: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0419929/mediaviewer/rm533091072/?ref_=nm_ov_ph

Zizi Jeanmaire

Zizi Jeanmaire in Folies-Bergère (1956)

https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0419929/mediaviewer/rm533091072?ref_=nm_ov_ph

PumpkinPieAlibi · 19/06/2025 19:28

RitaFromThePitCanteen · 19/06/2025 00:36

Names that could potentially lead to Liss as a nickname:

Alice
Alyssa
Melissa
Elissa
Felicity
Ellis
Amaryllis (bit out there, but still)
Phyllis (maybe not..!)

Or just Liss? I think it could work well as an unusual first name.

Adding to this OP, my name is Alicia and my closest friends call me Lis (pronounced Liss). Just another option. Branching out from that Alice, Alyssa, Elise or Elisa can all work.

gsiftpoffu · 19/06/2025 19:20

I think you should definitely change it because you have very good reasons to do so.
I'm also very anti-monarchy and I'd have hated it if I was called Elizabeth but I like Beth so I'd probably have used that instead.

You can take some time to make a list of names you like and names you don't like. It can be something completely different to Elizabeth.

knowifIcando · 19/06/2025 18:51

Lilith? The opposite of the meaning of Elizabeth whilst also being close enough to Lily that it could still be a derivative of Elizabeth.

AmberTurtles · 19/06/2025 18:43

Libby.

Lisbeth50 · 19/06/2025 18:43

Elizabeth is a great name with so many variants as everyone has said. Hannah is nice too as is Lisa.

Why not some combination of the 2? Annalise/Annelise or Lisanne? Or Alice/Alys/Alysanne?

HedgeWitchOfTheWest · 19/06/2025 18:40

Youlikepotatoesyes · 19/06/2025 09:46

I’d keep the name and go full Betty.

I popped in to say this.

I know of a young Betty: she’s cool AF and hard as nails.

Another I haven’t seen mentioned yet is Effy - I know a young Effy who is likewise super cool.

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awkwardasfuck · 19/06/2025 18:35

LlynTegid · 19/06/2025 18:27

Use your middle name perhaps?

Mary Truss and Leonard Callaghan did, for example.

I'd then be copying my cousins name as well as using the name of someone who was quite a bully to me - I also really don't like the name in general

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