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Getting lost….

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Rosie8880 · 18/06/2025 19:14

Right, so…

Sometimes when I am tipsy I seem to meet a lot of people on a night out, I become very social, make new pals, folk sometimes buy me drinks (and not just men). I’m middle aged, post menopausal, fading looks - you get the picture..!

I can really enjoy talking to people and do like the feeling of being a bit “high” off of alcoholic drinks…

Sometimes I wander off, meet people when I’m with pals and then they can’t find me - they are in a group so I just can’t understand why it would bother them. I come back to base now and then but it’s not premeditated, it just seems to happen. And I like it.

when it’s just me and a pal, I don’t do that as would find that rude.

so. I’m seeking the unleashing of mumsnet - what do you think - AIBU?

x

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Rosie8880 · 18/06/2025 19:30

user1471453601 · 18/06/2025 19:25

On dear.

When my 17 year old niece was going on holiday with her friends for the first time, she and I were chatting about all the lovely things they'd get up to.

I told her that their were two rules she must follow. One, never leave a friend alone, whatever the circumstances, and never let yourself be left alone.

You may be middle aged, you may enjoy it (others buying you drinks, really?) But you are still making yourself vulnerable.

Now, you can argue that as an adult you should be able to go and do what you please, and I'd agree. In a perfect world, you should. In this world? Not so much.

I understand that but especially as a young person for young people, but that makes me feel rather sad if being honest. Meeting others is a glorious thing - making new pals, some of my longest pals of 20 + years I’ve met this way.

it’s interesting the key concern here coming up is safety. Which I can see.

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Rosie8880 · 18/06/2025 19:25

springintoaction321 · 18/06/2025 19:21

I think you're simply seeking attention 😉

Of course! I love meeting people and attention - I like making people feel good and that includes myself

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user1471453601 · 18/06/2025 19:25

On dear.

When my 17 year old niece was going on holiday with her friends for the first time, she and I were chatting about all the lovely things they'd get up to.

I told her that their were two rules she must follow. One, never leave a friend alone, whatever the circumstances, and never let yourself be left alone.

You may be middle aged, you may enjoy it (others buying you drinks, really?) But you are still making yourself vulnerable.

Now, you can argue that as an adult you should be able to go and do what you please, and I'd agree. In a perfect world, you should. In this world? Not so much.

TheNightSurgeon · 18/06/2025 19:24

I had a friend like this, she kept ditching everyone to get free drinks then coming back again.

Had a go at everyone saying she was being sociable and it was all fine.

Ended up getting her drink spiked and it was just sheer luck I caught the guy basically carrying her out the door.

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Rosie8880 · 18/06/2025 19:24

TeenToTwenties · 18/06/2025 19:17

They are probably worried for your safety.

But why? If I’m in a venue or a pub, I’m there, they can call me, see me, they can if they want join in - but understand it’s not for everyone. So I’m happy to do my own thing. It happens when I’m alone too, on a train commuting the other week spoke to a mum with young kids while journey, took care of the kids for s while and exchanged numbers with the mum and weee meeting soon.

I am half Irish and maybe that’s something to do with it - I don’t know I just find talking to people - strangers incredibly interesting and it’s no shade in my pals at all - i like to treat severs and bar people / hosts / waitresses well and then they tend to give us free drink or a small something like starter - just because we’re friendly. I don’t do it for rewards but it’s really nice - my pals don’t mind when that happens but they do seem to mind when I wander off for a bit. Xx

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springintoaction321 · 18/06/2025 19:21

I think you're simply seeking attention 😉

springintoaction321 · 18/06/2025 19:21

Hehe - sure you do 😂

Poopeepoopee · 18/06/2025 19:19

Sounds like you can't handle your drink probably best if you stay home if you can't go for a night out without being silly, especially at your age.

TeenToTwenties · 18/06/2025 19:17

They are probably worried for your safety.