Death of a grandparent triggered worry about parents

I think you should allow yourself to feel the worry, then park it and move on. It might not be easy but you won't always feel it as strongly as you do now, you're grieving so everything is heightened. I always try to remind myself that grieving is worth it because of the love they gave you while they were alive, so although it will be hard it's worth it for the life and love she's given you.

Take comfort in that your Grandfather had a long life your parents hopefully have good 20/30 years left
Sadly death is inevitable I lost all my grandparents when i was in my 20,s but they all lived untill their mid 80 s
My mum died in January this year she wss 82 and in frail health, it's heartbreaking becsuse you are never ready to lose a parent
But I know she's at peace now.

I know exactly. I used to worry so much about what id do, i was so close to my own mum, and worried all the time. My dear 83 yr old mum passed on Monday. Its heartbreaking. But don't waste your time worrying, go be with her, do stuff, make memories, live life. Don't waste it worrying.

The loss of someone close often triggers us realising, more generally, that we are actually all mortal.

I lost a few family members and friends when I was young and was sad about losing them, but it was only when I lost my Mum I realised how she tethered me to the world. Now, I've just got Dad and my brother, both in ill health and it's changed my relationship with them in that I make sure I care and keep in contact because one day they won't be here.

My Mum died relatively fast from cancer but she did know for about 3 months. She actually told us that, although sad because she thought she had plenty of living to do, she still felt she'd been given the easier hand as the first of us to go.

Tbh she had been quite ill since I knew her and my parents were healthy and well at the time

I felt that when my MiL from my first marriage died. None of my friends had lost a parent and it just wasn't on my radar at the time. It really made me think about my own parents. Neither of my parents are with me now I've lost them both but I remember that time quite vividly.

I think a lot of people can relate to how you are feeling and everything you described is quite common after you lose a loved one.

I lost 2 pregnancies and it triggered death anxiety in me, I am recovering from that at the moment and I am doing a lot better.

Life is so fragile and short, grief can make us worry about losing someone and wonder how we will cope.

Sometimes we need to bring ourselves back to logical thinking. Yes it’s inevitable, but we are wasting time worrying if it’ll happen tomorrow or in 10 years. Enjoy the time you do have with your parents.

I am confident that in a couple of months this anxiety will fade and you will be feeling better

Between ny husband and I we have 6 parents (two of them step) and one passed away a few years ago. The remaining ones are age between 82 and 72 so we know things could happen at any time (there is some ill health). The thing is, at some point they’ll all get poorly and/ or die. It’ll be rubbish. Worrying about whether that’s tomorrow or in 10 years won’t change it. Make sure the practical things are sorted, POA, wills etc and that’ll make a horrendous time slightly less stressful.

Worry is futile. The future is never promised. You could be hit by a bus in 3 months and you'd have wasted those 3 months worrying about a future that wont happen.

Live today as though its the only day, don't entertain worry about the future or guilt of the past. You cant change any of those.

Go and live today.