Why would this man ask my daughter to move out of his way?

It is also annoying when kids/husbands/wives are obviously just there for moral support (?) when shopping and decide to stand in the way ALL THE TIME.

God, yes. Just move.

No, you’re completely missing the point.

This is a complete non-event.

He wasn't rude to politely say excuse me but maybe a bit rude for ignoring you.

Same. You're completely overthinking this.

I would also have assumed they were just bored and not actually looking to buy, as 10 year olds aren't usually the ones doing the shop.. was she blocking the fridge while looking? More than one person can usually look at the same time, but some people stand right in the middle and don't allow anyone else to look, I say excuse me to those ones too.

It is also annoying when kids/husbands/wives are obviously just there for moral support (?) when shopping and decide to stand in the way ALL THE TIME.

JUST STAND TO THE SIDE!!

He was polite so I don't really see the problem.

I would absolutely ask a child to move out of the way if I needed something off the shelf. Or anyone really - if they're just standing there looking and I know what I want. But see in the responses that there's some understanding of the reduced section in some stores that means I'd be incorrect.

I stopped bringing my kids to the grocery store for the most part as they'd just wander around getting into people's ways and it was annoying for me - so much more annoying for people just trying to get their food sorted. I would have no issue with anyone asking my children to politely move aside so the person with the actual spending power can reach something without getting weirdly close to my child.

He's just being a typical jerkmale and thinking we are inferior to him. You can't really do much about it except take heart when a man loses out to a woman.

All the people who would assume a child looking at products in a shop, isn't there to purchase anything - perhaps don't assume? Some children are young carers and shop independently from a young age. They deserve the same respect as adults 👍

Why would you leave your child standing in front of a hot drinks machine?!

It’s a really a none issue. She was in the way, not in charge of buying the shopping and he wanted to see what was reduced. He said ‘excuse me’. You sound like you’re really entitled.

I know what people can be like with the reduced section. Pushing fighting to get to food snatching off other people. I wouldn’t have a child of mine looking there without me by their side.

You'd hope there'd be enough space for two customers to stand fairly near eachother each looking in the same fridge. Without one asking the other to move.
It sounds rude, but she may have been kind of blocking off the whole section.

I worked in a supermarket for 10 years and there's a weird subdivision of people who are like competitive whoopsie purchasers. They circle around for ages waiting to see one of the staff start reducing things, at which point it can almost become physically violent as they try to get in front of anyone else.

Just be thankful your daughter was asked to move and didn't get an elbow smash to the face.

You can spot the people on here who don’t know how the reduced items system works. It’s first dibs on all the good stuff, so him asking her to move was indeed against all protocol as that means he pushed in and potentially got something good that the DD was about to choose.

And it’s funny how the man didn’t react or say “sorry didn’t realise you were choosing something, I thought you were just passing the time” when OP was telling her child she should have stood her ground.

I would also assume this. But also, the reduced fridge in the supermarket I shop in is an entire fridge section/unit, so big enough for two (or even three if one is at a bit of an adjacent angle and not directly in front) adults to stand side-by-side and look in. If she was standing centrally and taking up the entire space, could he have meant for her to move up so they can both stand there and look at the same time, as opposed to wanting her to move completely out the way of the fridge? It does my head in when people block the entire thing while perusing what item to get at the rate paint dries when with a bit of logic everyone can get what they want and move on with their shop quickly.

Yes I agree with PPs that if I wanted to access a fridge and there was a child blocking it, I would say ‘excuse me’ as my assumption would be that they are just idly browsing or standing there and my intention is to actually choose something efficiently to buy and get out of there. Couldn’t she just have moved to the side anyway? Perhaps he didn’t intend for her to move completely out of the way, but just move to accommodate him in addition to her, which is just good manners generally.

I wonder if your daughter’s discomfort was more due to what followed, as I can’t imagine someone politely saying ‘excuse me’ would cause anyone any real discomfort. Most people would just automatically shift or move to allow another person access.

I agree with this ^

It's hard to know without seeing, but I feel that saying excuse me in that context is ok. If I was standing in front of a supermarket shelf and someone else came along I would stand aside to allow them to look too, and not be bothered if they said excuse me.

I think you’re being really strange about thre whole thing. He didn’t ask her to move, he said excuse me. Which is perfectly polite. Unless this was the worlds smallest supermarket fridge I’m sure that by your DD stepping aside slightly they could have both viewed the items at the same time. A 10YO also isn’t doing a weekly shop with their own money so there’s also probably a presumption she was just waiting there randomly for her parent rather than actually perusing the items. Perhaps he also knew exactly what he wanted and just wanted to grab that but your daughter was in the way. And I can see why he ignored you tbh- probably to avoid engaging because you sounded a bit mental.

Without being there and witnessing the whole situation I’m going to say YABU.

Because if I saw a child looking at a display in the supermarket I would also assume they wasn’t buying anything due to their age and was just having a look.

He said “excuse me” not “get out the fing way!”

I think you need to give him a bit of grace and accept he most likely did not realise you asked your 10 year old to go get something from the shelves.

Because there are so many women who have been bought up to be people pleaser, made to feel guilty and this filters down to their girls. Always reading about it on here. Not their fault but things need to change. I, for one will not lay down and accept it.
I speak up for all women and girls in a polite manner, it reminds men and boys even for a momoent or two that women exsist in a capacity to speak out.
I have been the victim of abuse and dv many years ago.
But age has allowed me to speak and I will always stand up for a woman or girl if I felt they needing support.

He probably assumed she wasn’t shopping, just waiting for you. So long as he was polite then I can’t actually see an issue…

I would have made the same assumption and as a mother of 4 who has taken her 10 yo shopping yes they mostly just stood around waitng for me so inadvertently got in people's way. As he polity said excuse me I really don't understand your issue?