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To ask boyfriend about FB picture

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mushkaa · 18/06/2025 07:49

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year, it’s all going well. This may seem like a non issue to some, however yesterday my boyfriend changed his profile picture to a photo of me and him for the first time. Thought it was a sweet thing to do. When I went to comment on it I realised he’d turn the ability to comment off. After a quick scroll through, it’s the only photo on there that you’re not able to comment on.

I don’t usually pay too much attention to social media but this has made me feel a little uneasy. AIBU if I ask him why? I really don’t want to come across as crazy!

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Eenameenadeeka · 18/06/2025 23:27

He's your boyfriend, just ask him :)

Tapsthemic · 18/06/2025 20:49

OP, has he turned comments off on previous new profile pics? If not, then maybe he’s only realised he can do it. I’d feel the same as him tbh, as I don’t like the option for ppl to comment on new profile pics, but you should ask him about it if you’re worried

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 18/06/2025 20:37

A lot of people do this when they think they will get a million comments of "who's that?" or "congratulations" and then they have to reply to Aunt Maureen who they haven't seen in 5 years and Betty who used to babysit them haha

I deleted Facebook because I realised it was just full of people I wouldn't want to say hi to if I passed them in the street (but that's just miserable me) 😁

whynotmereally · 18/06/2025 20:32

Serpentstooth · 18/06/2025 07:50

The World is on fire and this is what worries you? Bloody hell.

The worlds on fire and people are making shitty comments on mn

mumof1or2 · 18/06/2025 20:30

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 18/06/2025 07:55

I think their point was that in the greater scheme of things there are probably far larger things to worry about in the world right now. Like the prospect of being dragged into world war three and the odd one or two long range weapons slowly being aimed in the rough direction of the UK right now. But hey, your picture on Facebook....

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I don’t think anyone was in any doubt as to what that meant! Just that the comment was unnecessary. You could give that response to every post on here.

Coconutter24 · 18/06/2025 20:25

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 18/06/2025 07:55

I think their point was that in the greater scheme of things there are probably far larger things to worry about in the world right now. Like the prospect of being dragged into world war three and the odd one or two long range weapons slowly being aimed in the rough direction of the UK right now. But hey, your picture on Facebook....

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There is always something greater going on, that doesn’t mean we can’t have our own worries or concerns

Emmylou22 · 18/06/2025 20:06

Iwillclasptheeagain · 18/06/2025 17:33

Or he might dread comments like "what happened to the other girl" which is what my uncle put on brother's engagement pic.

😂😂 Love this

Lmnop22 · 18/06/2025 20:01

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 18/06/2025 07:55

I think their point was that in the greater scheme of things there are probably far larger things to worry about in the world right now. Like the prospect of being dragged into world war three and the odd one or two long range weapons slowly being aimed in the rough direction of the UK right now. But hey, your picture on Facebook....

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Oh ok, so we should all just sit in a cupboard in silence and have no life because global problems exist and are serious? 🙄

MaryTheTurtle · 18/06/2025 19:59

You could just tel in him in person that you like the photo. Maybe he did not want the questions of who is she
Or Cute couple comments

It’s only social media

GingersOwner26 · 18/06/2025 19:43

Could he have done it by accident?

MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 18/06/2025 18:38

What is the big deal about asking him? I don't think it means anything, but what kind of relationship is it if you can't even ask him a simple question?

Disturbia81 · 18/06/2025 18:19

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 18/06/2025 18:12

If everyone could just put all their concerns on hold until we have Gaza sorted out that would be grand.

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🤣

Disturbia81 · 18/06/2025 18:18

I do this as I can’t be arsed with comments, doesn’t mean anything bad.

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 18/06/2025 18:12

Serpentstooth · 18/06/2025 07:50

The World is on fire and this is what worries you? Bloody hell.

If everyone could just put all their concerns on hold until we have Gaza sorted out that would be grand.

Iwillclasptheeagain · 18/06/2025 17:33

Or he might dread comments like "what happened to the other girl" which is what my uncle put on brother's engagement pic.

ImFckingMattDamon · 18/06/2025 17:10

Has he got locked down privacy settings? He might have done it as profile pictures are visible to the public and he doesn't want randoms to be able to be able to find out information about him by browsing his friends who have commented, as their profiles may not be private!

Sassybooklover · 18/06/2025 17:06

He's probably turned the comments off, so he doesn't receive 50+ comments, all saying a variation of the same thing. I don't think you have anything to worry about, to be honest.

MyCyanReader · 18/06/2025 17:02

@mushkaa if you are over-thinking on such a tiny irrelevant thing, then I'd suggest deleting your social media accounts. It's really not good for mental health of those with any sort of anxiety.

Not that I use SocMed much, but if I change my profile photo then I don't want/need lots of comments. It's just a photo. So I'd probably opt for no comments.

Kimmeridge · 18/06/2025 16:46

Just ask him ffs

OneMoreLifeCrisis · 18/06/2025 16:37

Men are simple creatures, it’s more likely he doesn’t want people to comment on him having a girlfriend or making a statement. I take it he hasn’t posted you before or previous girlfriends?

notatinydancer · 18/06/2025 12:30

Ask him ?? Confused

TheWeeDonkeyFella · 18/06/2025 11:58

Dangermoo · 18/06/2025 10:57

Just concentrate on the fact he's changed his profile pic, to include you. That speaks volumes. Why does it need commenting on?

This. He's done a nice thing, presumably off his own bat and not under pressure from you, so can't you be pleased with that instead of focusing over adding comments?

AmyDudley · 18/06/2025 11:54

Off to site stuff to request the forum name is changed to Theworldisonfireandnobodyisallowedtotalkaboutanythingelsenet.

swimsong · 18/06/2025 11:15

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 18/06/2025 07:55

I think their point was that in the greater scheme of things there are probably far larger things to worry about in the world right now. Like the prospect of being dragged into world war three and the odd one or two long range weapons slowly being aimed in the rough direction of the UK right now. But hey, your picture on Facebook....

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Pretty sure everyone knows what their point was. But thank you for saying it again with different words.

DontReplyIWillLie · 18/06/2025 11:06

I think the point is that it's the only photo he's done that with. So why are other people allowed to comment on other photos but not this photo which is the first time he's put OP on his page?

Is it about being “allowed to comment” on the other photos though? He probably doesn’t give a damn either way. Why would he go back and retrospectively turn off comments on all his old pictures? Who looks back through someone’s old profile pictures to comment on them months or years later?