Page 9 | To leave kids in bed whilst I run

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Wanttodobetter · 18/06/2025 08:44

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 18/06/2025 08:39

Ok let’s be honest it’s the morning and you have a 14 year old. He is not going to be responsible for the younger kids at that time in the morning if he’s like a usual sleep deprived teen.

I generally think aswell that you know your children best. But I wonder that as you have asked this question is there something that you are particularly concerned about that you have not shared?

I’m not particularly concerned about anything, I trust all of my children and the elder 2 are responsible. I have a difficult ex-husband who is likely to use it against me. I just wondered what the general consensus is as it’s not something I have done before but equally, now they’re all older, it would be nice to squeeze in a bit of time to exercise.

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Cailin66 · 18/06/2025 08:41

Horserider5678 · 18/06/2025 08:06

Are you mad! What happens if there was a fire, your children would most likely not survive! A family friend’s house caught fire at the weekend, the fire brigade said if they had been asleep they’d all have most likely died! Do you run when they are awake! Anyone who tells you it’s ok is truly deluded.

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That's ridiculous. Completely over the top.

PurpleThistle7 · 18/06/2025 08:41

I think I’d loop twice so I passed the house every 10 mins. I’d be totally relaxed about it if they were awake but I get twitchy leaving sleeping children. Am sure my children could cope with most things if they were awake but they are groggy when they wake up and I’m not sure they’d be capable if something did happen. Am assuming you’ve prepped all of them about what to do in case xyz etc?

Moonlightexpress · 18/06/2025 08:40

AmelieSummer25 · 18/06/2025 07:40

Why??

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In case something happans and at least someone is awake. Just an extra precaution. Everyone on here saying its fine its fine but its always fine till its not and then ppl soon change their tune about kids being left alone if something terrible happens and the bad mouthing and judgement starts.

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 18/06/2025 08:39

Ok let’s be honest it’s the morning and you have a 14 year old. He is not going to be responsible for the younger kids at that time in the morning if he’s like a usual sleep deprived teen.

I generally think aswell that you know your children best. But I wonder that as you have asked this question is there something that you are particularly concerned about that you have not shared?

greencartbluecart · 18/06/2025 08:38

I would make sure that they know that’s what you plan to do

and leave a note in the kitchen

8 is quite young and might get very scared so ideally am at home workout would be better - skipping in the garden for example - could you do something like that ?

Expatornot · 18/06/2025 08:38

It’s fine. And as another poster has said, given it’s only a 30 min run you will never be more than 15 mins away.

Fundayout2025 · 18/06/2025 08:30

Horserider5678 · 18/06/2025 08:06

Are you mad! What happens if there was a fire, your children would most likely not survive! A family friend’s house caught fire at the weekend, the fire brigade said if they had been asleep they’d all have most likely died! Do you run when they are awake! Anyone who tells you it’s ok is truly deluded.

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And what is OP is in the house with them? Where's the guarantee that shed wake up if there was a fire?

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Wanttodobetter · 18/06/2025 08:23

Horserider5678 · 18/06/2025 08:06

Are you mad! What happens if there was a fire, your children would most likely not survive! A family friend’s house caught fire at the weekend, the fire brigade said if they had been asleep they’d all have most likely died! Do you run when they are awake! Anyone who tells you it’s ok is truly deluded.

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It’s not easy to do my run when they’re awake. They have to get to school and I have to get to work.

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Ihateracism · 18/06/2025 08:20

Wanttodobetter · 18/06/2025 07:28

I suspect they’ll still be sleeping when I get back as plan to go early! I’ll remind everyone the night before and leave a note just in case they forget.

Depends how early (earlier the better so they’re all asleep) and how old the two middle children are. The 14 year old might be annoyed if 2-3 of their siblings are primary age.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 18/06/2025 08:19

AmelieSummer25 · 18/06/2025 07:40

Why??

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Because otherwise they may not wake up easily in case something happens and IMO an 8yo is too young to be left to wake up alone.

Horserider5678 · 18/06/2025 08:06

Wanttodobetter · 18/06/2025 07:24

I’m a single parent to 4 children, youngest 8 and eldest 14. I want to run for 30 mins locally early morning whilst they’re still asleep. 2 have phones and I’ll leave a number of a neighbour. That’s fine right?!

Are you mad! What happens if there was a fire, your children would most likely not survive! A family friend’s house caught fire at the weekend, the fire brigade said if they had been asleep they’d all have most likely died! Do you run when they are awake! Anyone who tells you it’s ok is truly deluded.

fungibletoken · 18/06/2025 08:06

That sounds ok. You mention you'll leave the number of a neighbour - presumably you'll bring your phone with you too? Worth doing that whether or not you have children at home.

Radra · 18/06/2025 07:49

I think it's fine.

I actually think a sensible 8 year old is fine to be left for 30 mins even without the 14 year old

GladiatoooorsReadyyyy · 18/06/2025 07:46

If the 14yo is happy to keep an eye on the 8yo if necessary I’d say this is absolutely fine

yestothat · 18/06/2025 07:43

Absolutely fine, as long as you tell them in case any wake up, what they should and shouldn’t do, what time you’ll be back etc

AmelieSummer25 · 18/06/2025 07:43

Wanttodobetter · 18/06/2025 07:28

I suspect they’ll still be sleeping when I get back as plan to go early! I’ll remind everyone the night before and leave a note just in case they forget.

Absolutely fine IMO!

Tiredofwhataboutery · 18/06/2025 07:40

I’d say that’s fine. I often do the early morning dog walk while the dc are still snoozing. Really you won’t be far and they can call if an emergency.

AmelieSummer25 · 18/06/2025 07:40

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 18/06/2025 07:26

Personally I’d make sure the oldest was awake before I left.

Why??

merrymelody · 18/06/2025 07:39

It depends on where you live, really.

SleepWalkingtoSeville · 18/06/2025 07:37

I agree, sounds totally fine.

ChineseAlan8910 · 18/06/2025 07:31

I run up and down our road or do a route that goes past the house multiple times. If they kids want me they come out and wave or sometimes high five me.

Iheartmysmart · 18/06/2025 07:31

I used to leave DS at home when I took the dog for a morning walk from when he was around nine. We both had phones and DS knew he could go round to the neighbours house if he needed any help. I used to get home to find DS had sorted the dog’s breakfast and made me a cup of tea!

YinYangalang · 18/06/2025 07:30

I left my 8 nearly 9 year old alone to nip to the shops and dump etc. He was fine. All grown up now and likes his independence. As a child I walked to school on my own (with friends and 7 year old sibling) from 5 years old, up the back lane. I know times have changed but what you suggest sounds fine to me (apart from the running 😂).

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Wanttodobetter · 18/06/2025 07:29

socasuallycruelinthenameofbeinghonest · 18/06/2025 07:28

Absolutely. I left mine at around 10/11 for this. Run 15 mins one way, turn round and run back. Unless you’re super fast you won’t ever be more than 2 miles away!

Ha not fast! So will always be within 5k.

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