To leave kids in bed whilst I run

No I didn't say "go looking for her", I said "locate" meaning they would know the route she took.

That's not what I meant at all.
I meant that one of the kids could call an adult and report that their Mum has not returned as expected. The kids would be in a position to tell the adult exactly the route their Mum took.

When I left my child alone he always knew to call an adult if there was something he didn't know how to deal with - make sure he's safe and then get help.

It's sensible in any situation that someone knows where you are.

I used to do that, I did tell them the night before so they didn't wake up wondering where I was.

Enjoy your run!

I'm a latch key kid and at 14 was getting my sister and I ready for school as my mum left for work at 6.30 and my dad 7. My mum would phone at 7.30 to make sure everything was ok

I'd probably gently wake the 14 yo the first time I went out just to remind them of the plan.
Leave a note with the time you left, the route you are taking and the anticipated time you'll be back as well as contact details

They're asleep, not dead.

My partner can sleep through a thunderstorm, a screaming baby, a car alarm. It's extremely annoying. But he'll wake up if someone makes enough noise or if he's shaken awake. Should I not leave our child with him? Does he need a responsible adult with him at all times, too?

@Gloriia

they would get dressed. Why are you acting like children are completely useless and stupid??

I did exactly that, OP, when my ds was 10. I ran a circular route so I was never more than a km away from the house. DS knew I went and was happy with that. I was out for about 30 mins and always had my phone with me.

There were two rules. DS wasn't to answer the door and he wasn't to do anything involving heat - boil the kettle etc.

When he was 12, I upgraded to Park Run and was gone for 70 minutes.

Personally I'd never leave them alone while they were all sleeping. I would be happy to leave a 14 year old in charge as long as they were up & about & capable of the responsibily.

My kids all have me (and I have them) on Snap Maps, so would be able to literally follow my every move if they so wished. Perhaps this is an option (at least for the eldest) if that is a worry.

That's not what they said though. "Locate" does not mean wandering around in PJs... I don't know why you'd jump to that, unless it's what you think your kids would do...

But unless the 8yo is completely incapable, they'd go and wake the 14yo if they needed help. If they trip and fall headfirst into a bucket and can't get out in the pantry....I wouldn't hear them either if I was there because I sleep like a log with the fan on.

Are other parents not sleeping at night in case anyone has an incident and can't call for help?

I was responding to a pp who asked if the kids knew the route so they could go looking for her should they require a responsible adult for any reason.

We never said it was the same—it’s something to consider as an alternative option, seeing that the XH has form for holding things against OP, and possible concerns of the youngest waking up first. Just throwing out options which might help OP in the short term.

Yes those very attentive 14 yr olds who would sleep through ww3. Yep, brilliant supervisors of other kids.
They were all asleep officer! I've no idea how this accident/incident occurred I was jogging you see.

If your teenagers would do that, you've failed as a parent. That's on you.

What wouldn't be ok though? What would go wrong for an 8yo at that time of morning that couldn't be handled by waking up a teenager or waiting for mum to get home? What kind of things are you anticipating?

Great plan. 4 kids wandering around in their pj's looking for Mum. It gets better .

You actually can do this, open the door and leave, works well.

They're asleep! They aren't supervising or making sure things are ok. If they were up and awake then fine, but not asleep.

Hmm thing is kids tend to need an adult around. Inconvenient I know.

You can't just naff off and keave 4 kids asleep in a house. Well she can and she is but nope, it is neither safe nor ok.

How would we all feel if at school the teacher popped out for half an hour and left kids unattended. Bet there'd be lots of frothin folk on here.

Get a treadmill, do a Davina dvd.

I'm pretty sure social services would have no concerns about a this. At all.
You think a child should not be home alone until at least 14 years old?

It’s fine as long as you let them know beforehand.
Tell them the night before that you’ll be running between this time and if anything happens go to the eldest 2.
I’d also leave some croissants or something out in case they’re hungry and you don’t want the youngest messing around with toasters.

@Gloriia
she sounds perfectly organised. There is nothing wrong with what she is proposing. What exactly is your issue with it?

Fine (lone parent here).
Do they know the route you're taking in case YOU have a problem and they need to locate you?

That's plenty old enough to be left for half an hour. There's 4 of them, and the youngest is plenty old enough to look after themselves in the morning.
"Arrange your life better"? Are you offering to come and babysit so a single mum of 4 can exercise? Several times a week for the next decade? That's so kind of you!