To leave kids in bed whilst I run

I think this is fine if you arent going running in woods alone, for example. Minimise the risk to yourself as well as them as even if tou fell and broke your ankle for example, you want to be where people are so someone can find you and you can get back to the kids easily.
Also, if thevkids are unlikely to fight or cause an issue. I have an 8 and 11 year old and they are in a wind up phase and I can't leave them alone together right now even in a room without some sort of war erupting.

This all seems to be based on a 2017 study. I'd like to think that alarm developers in conjunction with the fire service responded to the report and made smoke alarms a lower frequency.

I think totally fine as long as eldest ok to keep an eye on 8 year old if they wake up

We've considered this situation for when our children are a little older. We l have an Alexa in the kitchen and although they do not have phones yet they can both already use this to call us which is another thing I'd consider getting for the younger two.

I’d wait until one was awake. If there was a fire, or emergency, are you confident the 14yo could wake up and organise the others appropriately?

Mine were all deep sleepers, so even as teens we made sure at least one was up before we left the house. As adults, if they are not up, tough, they have to ‘adult’ in an emergency and it’s on them. That’s different to saying ‘oh, well, be it on you’ when they are kids/tweens/teens though.

But you said you exercised and looked after your kids, if you're off running when they're awake, you aren't looking after them then either.

For me, the risks are smaller at 6am when they're asleep than at 6pm when they are awake and looking to keep themselves occupied.

All actions have risk, we have to choose the smallest risk based on the information we have.

Btw I do think OP should be fine having her jog, but if it's causing her anxiety or if ExH might weaponise it, then exercising at home is a great option. There are loads of Caroline Girvan HIITS and dumbbell routines on youtube, and Heather Robertson, and and8 fitness, and JustDance... not saying OP has to use those, but they are a great option for a sweaty workout in your living room.

Such as? Id be interested in seeing this

There's an array of devices for HOH or Deaf people.

You exerice when they're up and able to react to a problem should one arise.
Sleeping kids left unattended is never a good plan.

This is what I was trying to get across and I’m quoting you mostly to increase the chance of more mums reading it !

Also a runner - always worked round the kids when they were too young to be left , and sometimes they came with me on their bikes or even running - they will probably be way faster than you - mine were

A great learning opportunity. The eldest can learn what s/he needs to do. Perhaps this is phone you if something worrying is happening, or leave the house if it's really serious. At 14 they should be able to judge that.

You'll minimise risk. Nothing in the tumble drier etc. Make a rule of no cooker, no kettle, no shower till you get back. Probably the biggest risk - still tiny tiny - is that you take a tumble and can't get back, but that's so unlikely.

When did you exercise? Because as a single parent, working full time, I genuinely have no time to do this when I'm not with my children in some capacity.

What about parents that are hard of hearing then? My kids always used to alert me to sounds I couldn't here when they were small. Electric meter beeping as running low, washing machine, knock on door

Risk is risk? No. That's not how risk works. Different things have different risks. Her kids will almost certainly not spontaneously combust is OP goes for a run. Lack of exercise almost certainly will shorten OPs life span and healthy life expectancy. Different things have different levels of risk.

@Gloriia

maybe this is the only time op has to exercise though,
? What with work, after school clubs, making tea in the evenings etc

Yep. Risk is risk.

The kids need to be supervised, sorry it is inconvenient I agree.

Just exercise when they're awake so at least they've got a chance of getting out of the house quickly if a 'microscopic risk' should arise.

My DS and l have Life360 on our mobiles so they can see where l am and vice versa.

Ive always exercised, I just looked after my kids too. They're older now but there is not a chance if have left kids sleeping and gone out.

@Gloriia

yep. Microscopic risk.
Op needs to exercise.

Right. Although the way people go on they wouldn't leave their 18 yr old alone

Eldest would need to be awake and happy to be in charge the whole time. Then it’s fine

If you were talking about a run after work, I'd say go for it as long as your eldest was babysitting the others. However, we had a fire alarm once go off, all the adults in the house woke up and all of my children (including my then 9 year old) slept through it entirely which scared the life out of me. None of my children are deep sleepers and could wake up easily if I shut a door. If your 14 year old is tired, they may forget they are watching the 8 year old at that time in the morning too. Would they be able to get all of the children together and out a window/door in the case of a fire?