Leaving job after 3 weeks - feel like a failure

It takes bravery and strength to say this is not for me and to do something about it. This is your one life, you need to do what is right for you..definitely not embarrassing, it’s inspiring.

I wish i’d done this, but let go at 6 months asnI just didn’t fit in. I knew from early on, like day 3 but ignored it but by week 3 I knew for sure burnley stuck/obligated etc.

It's a much braver decision to accept it's not working out and leave. You're a much stronger person than you think for doing this. Well done and congratulations in advance on the awesome job you're going to get next!

Trust me when I say this, one day you will look back on this and be glad you had this experience, because you will have learned about 100 lessons.

I'm now a Chief Exec and run a business but earlier in my career I took a job I thought would be great and it wasn't. One day the boss pulled me into a room and effectively told me it wasn't working out and if I didn't quit they'd fire me. I was heartbroken and embarrassed.

But I learned not everyone can do every job, I learned resilience, better understood my own skills, better understood the job I wanted to go for. And now I lead an organisation myself, I can spot when someone in my team isn't going to work out, I know how to handle it, I have empathy. Honestly, I'm glad it happened to me. Am I scarred from it? Not at all.... nothing to be ashamed of, it's not for you so you move on. You'll feel so much better once you're out. Good luck.

I left my last job after 4 weeks, it was hideous and just completely wrong for me. Bosses were absolutely vile and the whole shebang was just about screwing clients for every last penny whilst providing an absolute joke of a service. The relief when I quietly left my keys on my desk was amazing, I emailed to say I wouldn’t be coming back and then had to put my phone to airplane mode for the weekend as the boss rang me over 30 times leaving abusive messages and threatening me with legal action! I have a lovely job now and don’t have the shit job on my CV

I left a job after about 8 weeks. Within a a couple of weeks I knew it wasn't right, a job came up with my previous employer, effectively a promotion, and I jumped at it. I've never looked back. Absolutely the best decision for me.

Run dont walk.

It's not you, it IS them.

Hand in your notice either tomorrow or Friday.

Ots not failure- its good boundaries.

In your 20s you dont have childcare and mortgage payments and im guessing you are living at home?? In which case there is ZERO holding you there.

They sound like arseholes. Read your OP back who WOULD thrive in thst environment
You are being set up to fail.

Get out now and dont look back. Honestly in 12m you wont care one jot about these idiots or this job.

Did similar move early this year for similar reasons. Left after 3 months. I'm interviewing now and hoping to get something soon. But I wasn't going to waste my energy on a company where the MD didn't even remember my first day starting on the job!

I would offer them constructive feedback when you resign, even if this is via email after you tell them you’re leaving.

It may work out differently for your replacement if they’re made aware how you’ve been made to feel. Good luck for your interview!

You’re not a failure. You’ve recognised this isn’t the job for you and are making changes. That’s a positive thing, not negative.

I walked out of a second interview once because I just knew it wouldn’t be right for me. They seemed really shocked when I stopped the interview and said I didn’t want to go any further. I felt such relief leaving the building. Don’t feel you’ve failed by going with your gut feeling. It’s actually brave.

I left a job after 10 days. I hated it. No shame in realising it's not for you so don't stay and let it get you down. Go to the manager say thank you for the opportunity but you've realised this isn't the job for you and you're leaving. That's all you need to do. Wishing you the very best of luck for your dream job.

There's no failure in realising that you aren't going to put up with crap and prioritising your mental health.

You should be proud of yourself.

Just be pleased you came to the conclusion that it wasn’t a healthy fit for you now. There’s something to be said for knowing yourself well enough, that you can look at the situation, and realise it isn’t right for you.
It’s better to waste three weeks, rather than trying to tough it out, and keep being unhappy in a job you hate for six months or a year, etc.
Try to recognize the elements in this job, that made it unworkable for you, so you don’t make the mistake again.
Also, best to leave it off your CV.

It's a very positive thing to have realised this early OP.

Don't see it as a failure, it's anything but.

Having made the mistake of staying years in a job that was a disaster for me from the outset, I applaud your courage in realising that it isn't right for you and being proactive in moving on. Hold your head high. I wish you every success in moving forward.

I've had a couple jobs where I ignored the giant red flags in the first few weeks/ interview process. I regretted not leaving when my gut was screaming to get out. This is not failure, you're saving yourself from a shitty situation, I'd call that brave.

Look at it this way , they've let you down.
The md is out of order being hostile and they certainly haven't been very welcoming to you.
Leave and don't look back.

Don't blame yourself OP, blame the company.

You made the right decision to leave.

There's no shame in this OP. I started a job when I was your age that in hindsight I shouldn't have stayed at. Do what's right for you.

I think you should be incredibly proud of yourself. You gave it a go and it’s crap so you’re off to find something much better. The alternative is staying there and letting your soul slowly shrivel up until you’ve convinced yourself that you can’t find anything better.

Well done.

@Happyfeet82 you are not a failure, you tried and it’s not for you and there’s no shame in that xx

They wouldn’t think twice about getting rid of you. Don’t give this any more thought. Thank them for the opportunity but it’s not a good fit for you.

You dust yourself down. You get back out there. Sometimes a job just isn’t a good fit. It happens
Tell the manager in email.Be factual. You don’t need to go into details or elaborate other than leaving
Resist temptation to not nuclear telling them any home truths. Keep it Cordial and cool.You still need to nominate them as a reference
Good luck in your interview - don’t be disheartened by this. One iffy job does not define you

Please don’t feel like a failure! I think it takes guts to say, nah, this is not for me.

Working somewhere you’re unhappy is soul-destroying. Don’t look back!