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MPs vote to decriminalise abortion

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AirborneElephant · 17/06/2025 19:34

AIBU to be thrilled! Sorry if there’s already a thread, couldn’t see one.

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ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:46

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:44

So is abortion still a criminal offence if the mother uses a backstreet DIY procedure on herself past 24 weeks?

Surely any at home abortion past this gestation isn’t following medical protocol as it’s not allowed, so women may still face charges if they don’t carry out their own abortions the “right way”. Seems like it’ll cause more confusion.

Why don’t you try reading the law and the amendment?

TooBigForMyBoots · 18/06/2025 22:46

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:44

So is abortion still a criminal offence if the mother uses a backstreet DIY procedure on herself past 24 weeks?

Surely any at home abortion past this gestation isn’t following medical protocol as it’s not allowed, so women may still face charges if they don’t carry out their own abortions the “right way”. Seems like it’ll cause more confusion.

Maybe you're confused. Others understand it perfectly.

beAsensible1 · 18/06/2025 22:45

hamstersarse · 18/06/2025 09:44

Of course, a woman’s body is her own, and her autonomy is deeply important. But, abortion involves not just the woman’s body, but a second human life. It can be argued that from the moment of conception, the foetus is a distinct organism with its own DNA, heartbeat, and trajectory toward birth. So the decision to abort isn’t just about one body — it involves ending another human life. You may not agree that it is a human life, but that is really where the heart of this debate lies - i.e. it is subjective.

That is also not to say that women are 'incubators' — but then it is also true that pregnancy is a deeply meaningful and biologically thing and in many other circumstances society prioritises protecting the vulnerable - it is not unheard of to look after vulnerability and this is the ultimate of those scenarios!

In my view, it’s about balancing rights — the woman’s and the unborn child’s — our biology as women is not straightforward - it is very hard to argue that we can just say we come first, always - there are (unfortunately!) other considerations literally because of our biology - that is the burden of being female.

Lots of things have distinctive dna and trajectory towards life does that give them right over the bodies of the living this already in life??

eggs could’ve had a trajectory towards life, tad poles etc etc but they’re require the existence of external factors to become a life the same with humans.
existence is governed by the external. That for humans in the woman who choose wether grow it or not.

forcing people to grow others because of your personal beliefs is overstepping in the extreme. Mind your own womb

women’s rights and values cannot and should notcome at the expense of their capability to house pre term foetus. Babies are not a passive thing they should be an active choice always

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:44

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:24

Also stabbing a baby to death is not how abortion is performed so no idea why you think that’s relevant to decriminalising abortion

So is abortion still a criminal offence if the mother uses a backstreet DIY procedure on herself past 24 weeks?

Surely any at home abortion past this gestation isn’t following medical protocol as it’s not allowed, so women may still face charges if they don’t carry out their own abortions the “right way”. Seems like it’ll cause more confusion.

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:40

Hoooray · 18/06/2025 22:39

And that isn't abortion, and thus continues to be illegal

It’s painful really trying to explain this!

Hoooray · 18/06/2025 22:39

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:37

A minority kill their babies shortly after birth, who’s to say they wouldn’t do it during childbirth? Perhaps if they thought they would be free from any criminal investigation.

Not common but not impossible either.

And that isn't abortion, and thus continues to be illegal

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:39

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:34

It was during childbirth when she started (allegedly as case ongoing).

Those who do carry out DIY abortion at full term but not during labour are unlikely to be following medical protocol, as official routes are no longer allowed without medical need.

But abortion is what we are discussing - so if a woman arranges a termination outside of formal legal arrangements then that will no longer be a criminal offence that’s prosecutable

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:37

Hoooray · 18/06/2025 22:27

So she's going to have a cryptic pregnancy (which only happens in roughly 1 in 2,500 pregnancies), go into labour, decide she doesn't want to have a baby, somehow manage - again, while in labour - to get her hands on a needle containing some kind of fatal substance, wait until the baby is in the birth canal, then put her hand up her own vagina in order to inject the baby (crucially managing not to inject herself), and then pass this off as an abortion? Or she's going to use 'a tool' to do the job instead? As in, insert a tool into her vagina while she's in labour in order to kill the baby?

You're right - I absolutely don't believe this is possible, or something that exists outside of the insane landscape of your mind.

And you think there are enough women who would have cryptic pregnancies, and then decide once in labour to kill the baby, for it to be worth drafting the legislation for the specific purpose of preventing this outcome, even if the result of that is that many, many more women who have still births or late stage abortions face the trauma of unjustified criminal prosecution?

A minority kill their babies shortly after birth, who’s to say they wouldn’t do it during childbirth? Perhaps if they thought they would be free from any criminal investigation.

Not common but not impossible either.

beAsensible1 · 18/06/2025 22:37

blueshedhermit · 18/06/2025 01:49

Backstreet abortion has been legalised.
Women will be able to abort up to birth at home.
How will they be expected to dispose of the infant's body?

Wtf are you on about? You been eating paint again?

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:36

MsDDxx · 18/06/2025 22:29

I agree.

Personally I think abortion is wrong in ALL circumstances save for serious medical issues for either the baby or the mother.

Some ‘babies are more worthy than others’ ie you basically accept that the mothers life is more important in the case that she might die ( those babies don’t matter) but they do count if the mother doesn’t want to be pregnant for any other reason?

I have more respect for 💯 pro life people

but thankfully you don’t make the law

you NEVER have to have an abortion - you don’t get to dictate that other women have to have a baby

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:34

NHSinterviewupcoming · 18/06/2025 22:25

Of course it’s relevant. People keep mentioning it.

A mother stabbing a newborn is a different thing all together

It was during childbirth when she started (allegedly as case ongoing).

Those who do carry out DIY abortion at full term but not during labour are unlikely to be following medical protocol, as official routes are no longer allowed without medical need.

DuncinToffee · 18/06/2025 22:32

MsDDxx · 18/06/2025 22:29

I agree.

Personally I think abortion is wrong in ALL circumstances save for serious medical issues for either the baby or the mother.

Then you don't have an abortion, your body, your choice. You just don't get to tell other women what to do with their body

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:32

Viviennemary · 18/06/2025 22:29

It would seem so. A self induced abortion up to birth is now to be legal. It's horrific.

Oh dear - no abortion law hasn’t changed in any way

Hoooray · 18/06/2025 22:30

Viviennemary · 18/06/2025 22:29

It would seem so. A self induced abortion up to birth is now to be legal. It's horrific.

Nope, not what the law says.

MsDDxx · 18/06/2025 22:29

Oatshakenespresso · 17/06/2025 20:28

This. I wholeheartedly agree. People forget that it’s an actual babies life

I agree.

Personally I think abortion is wrong in ALL circumstances save for serious medical issues for either the baby or the mother.

Viviennemary · 18/06/2025 22:29

Beebeedoo · 18/06/2025 22:06

sorry has the limit to have an abortion changed?

It would seem so. A self induced abortion up to birth is now to be legal. It's horrific.

Hoooray · 18/06/2025 22:27

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 21:49

Perhaps the woman doesn’t know she was pregnant so only takes action once she realises what has happened during childbirth.

I didn’t want to go into the specifics because I didn’t feel it necessary but as you’ve asked several times and believe it not possible, a woman could end her baby’s life during labour by fatally injecting the baby once accessible, using a tool to fatally harm the baby, amongst other possibilities. Rare but not impossible.

Does this count as an abortion as she’s still pregnant so therefore totally decriminalised, or a potential criminal offence because she is in labour which changes things? As you say, anyone having an abortion at say 40 weeks without medical need, isn’t going to be able to go down the official channels to get one anyway, so is there a difference between the two?

So she's going to have a cryptic pregnancy (which only happens in roughly 1 in 2,500 pregnancies), go into labour, decide she doesn't want to have a baby, somehow manage - again, while in labour - to get her hands on a needle containing some kind of fatal substance, wait until the baby is in the birth canal, then put her hand up her own vagina in order to inject the baby (crucially managing not to inject herself), and then pass this off as an abortion? Or she's going to use 'a tool' to do the job instead? As in, insert a tool into her vagina while she's in labour in order to kill the baby?

You're right - I absolutely don't believe this is possible, or something that exists outside of the insane landscape of your mind.

And you think there are enough women who would have cryptic pregnancies, and then decide once in labour to kill the baby, for it to be worth drafting the legislation for the specific purpose of preventing this outcome, even if the result of that is that many, many more women who have still births or late stage abortions face the trauma of unjustified criminal prosecution?

NHSinterviewupcoming · 18/06/2025 22:25

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:21

I don’t think it’s really relevant about whether this has previously happened, more whether this is now decriminalised if this does happen.

Looks there is a current case going through in the US, the question is whether this would now warrant a criminal investigation if it happened in the UK or not https://people.com/mother-allegedly-stabbed-newborn-death-letter-opener-giving-birth-11695536#:~:text=Officer%20Melissa%20Yates%20of%20the,to%20the%20hospital%20for%20treatment.

Of course it’s relevant. People keep mentioning it.

A mother stabbing a newborn is a different thing all together

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:24

Also stabbing a baby to death is not how abortion is performed so no idea why you think that’s relevant to decriminalising abortion

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:22

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:09

So your stance is that if a woman carries out a DIY abortion whilst pregnant at 40 weeks that’s decriminalised, but if a woman carries out a DIY abortion once labour has started at 38 weeks then it’s no longer decriminalised?

Of course this is not what happens in the vast majority of cases by any means, but clarity is needed in terms of what is decriminalised and these things are not always clear cut.

Let me ask it in a different way

if a women in labour has a placental abruption - is rushed to surgery and action is taken to save her - but the baby dies - is that abortion?

no it isn’t it’s a medical emergency subject to a different investigation

so why can’t you grasp that an action committed during active labour is nothing to do with the abortion law frame work?

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 22:17

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:09

So your stance is that if a woman carries out a DIY abortion whilst pregnant at 40 weeks that’s decriminalised, but if a woman carries out a DIY abortion once labour has started at 38 weeks then it’s no longer decriminalised?

Of course this is not what happens in the vast majority of cases by any means, but clarity is needed in terms of what is decriminalised and these things are not always clear cut.

I’m not a lawyer but a diy anything during active labour isn’t an abortion

NHSinterviewupcoming · 18/06/2025 22:12

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:09

So your stance is that if a woman carries out a DIY abortion whilst pregnant at 40 weeks that’s decriminalised, but if a woman carries out a DIY abortion once labour has started at 38 weeks then it’s no longer decriminalised?

Of course this is not what happens in the vast majority of cases by any means, but clarity is needed in terms of what is decriminalised and these things are not always clear cut.

Can you link to an instance of a woman carrying out a DIY abortion during Labour please?

SouthLondonMum22 · 18/06/2025 22:11

Beebeedoo · 18/06/2025 22:06

sorry has the limit to have an abortion changed?

No. It is still 24 weeks.

Lilac90 · 18/06/2025 22:09

ghostyslovesheets · 18/06/2025 21:57

Yes that the normal reaction of any woman suddenly experiencing stomach pain and such - not to seek medical advice when it start but to wait until you see the head then think - totally rationally and with malice of for thought- I’ll kill this baby

So your stance is that if a woman carries out a DIY abortion whilst pregnant at 40 weeks that’s decriminalised, but if a woman carries out a DIY abortion once labour has started at 38 weeks then it’s no longer decriminalised?

Of course this is not what happens in the vast majority of cases by any means, but clarity is needed in terms of what is decriminalised and these things are not always clear cut.

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