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To declare that I’m 14 stone and 5 ft?

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CelticMaiden · 17/06/2025 09:32

Yes I weighed yesterday in Boots. I’ve finally gone up to 14 Stone.

Im doing something about it - cutting calories and last night went out for a gentle run

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pushthebuttonnn · 17/08/2025 21:56

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 17/06/2025 09:50

This is tongue in cheek but go on antibiotics- I've lost nearly half a stone after 3 days on them. Luckily I was ten stone so not quite so overweight but now down to 9 and a half ish

I got my tonsils out and lost about 2 stone 🤣

RowsOfFlowers · 17/08/2025 21:49

lovethepuppies · 17/08/2025 21:40

@RowsOfFlowers yes size four . As it turns out I’m only very slightly built and not the ‘big boned’ woman I’ve been thinking I am for years 😂 I’m in the healthy bmi range for my height and look in proportion as I’m tiny , height wise . On the upside , I fit children’s clothes so get to wear some pretty zany outfits these days!

Girlllll, we need to talkkkk.
I have no idea where I’m going wrong with my weight loss but naturally I’m very skinny too, at least I was until I hit my late 20s.

lovethepuppies · 17/08/2025 21:40

@RowsOfFlowers yes size four . As it turns out I’m only very slightly built and not the ‘big boned’ woman I’ve been thinking I am for years 😂 I’m in the healthy bmi range for my height and look in proportion as I’m tiny , height wise . On the upside , I fit children’s clothes so get to wear some pretty zany outfits these days!

CelticMaiden · 16/08/2025 21:26

ohreallyIsee · 16/08/2025 20:12

I've managed to lose just over a stone since the beginning of June, I'm now 13st 3, I'm already feeling the difference

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉

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tommyhoundmum · 16/08/2025 20:48

JustMy2Penneth · 20/06/2025 21:57

I’m same height and weight, just finished couch to 5k, knees are fine, I jump rope and cycle, no knee issues but weight also stagnant so massively cutting portion sizes now.

We use smaller dishes too.

lotsofpatience · 16/08/2025 20:24

Lose weight is simple but requieres strong will : eat less exercise more.

RowsOfFlowers · 16/08/2025 20:19

lovethepuppies · 16/08/2025 18:13

I was 4’11’ and 18 stone 6lb so I feel your pain op. The main thing is you are doing something! I started over two years ago and am now a size 4 and maintaining a healthy weight for my height.

A size 4?!

Crunchymum · 16/08/2025 20:15

ohreallyIsee · 16/08/2025 20:12

I've managed to lose just over a stone since the beginning of June, I'm now 13st 3, I'm already feeling the difference

That's amazing 👏

Well bloody done.

ohreallyIsee · 16/08/2025 20:12

I've managed to lose just over a stone since the beginning of June, I'm now 13st 3, I'm already feeling the difference

Crunchymum · 16/08/2025 19:37

How are you getting on @CelticMaiden ?

Hope its been going well for you.

Cirkitts · 16/08/2025 19:35

Hope its going well OP, I had a similar reality check a few years ago and after bumps along the way have been maintaining for a year now.

CelticMaiden · 16/08/2025 19:33

lovethepuppies · 16/08/2025 18:13

I was 4’11’ and 18 stone 6lb so I feel your pain op. The main thing is you are doing something! I started over two years ago and am now a size 4 and maintaining a healthy weight for my height.

Congratulations that’s fabulous 🎉🎉

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lovethepuppies · 16/08/2025 18:13

I was 4’11’ and 18 stone 6lb so I feel your pain op. The main thing is you are doing something! I started over two years ago and am now a size 4 and maintaining a healthy weight for my height.

JustMy2Penneth · 20/06/2025 21:57

StooOrangeyForCrows · 17/06/2025 10:24

OP, don't run yet. You'll knacker your knees. Wait for that and see it as a goal to lose weight for. Fast walking will do you as much good and 90% less impactful on your joints. Give them time to catch up.

Go you!

I’m same height and weight, just finished couch to 5k, knees are fine, I jump rope and cycle, no knee issues but weight also stagnant so massively cutting portion sizes now.

RosyDaysAhead · 18/06/2025 18:32

Zov · 17/06/2025 20:00

I agree. Sod that for a game of soldiers. No way in hell would I use zepbound. Just googled it, and the side effects are horrific. 😱

Zepbound is marketed at Mounjaro in the UK. The side effects are brutal for some users, but I’ve been on it for 5 months and honestly when you are so overweight it impacts daily life, those brutal side effects are really manageable to get your life back

fetchacloth · 18/06/2025 15:46

I'm in a similar situation OP.
I've managed to lose 7 kilos in the last year by reducing carbs but it's been hard work. Also I've been walking more which I think has helped.
Being the wrong side of 50 isn't helpful though. If I could afford it I would get Mounjaro 😩.
Good luck with your weight loss journey 💐

Crikeyalmighty · 18/06/2025 11:40

@KT1113 yep in that instance it’s very easy to suddenly save a lot of money and that has to be factored in - I wasn’t doing that and ate pretty well anyway ( just too much it seems) so for me I have actually spent far more on food , be that with MJ or as of last 6 weeks without MJ

KT1113 · 18/06/2025 11:15

Absolutely agree, it is a significant cost, which is why I spent so long dallying about before starting. However, I genuinely have saved an absolutely eye watering amount on food, so for me it more than balances out, but I was living on literal junk and multiple meals out/takeaways a week - obviously not everyone will be the same.

Crikeyalmighty · 18/06/2025 10:45

I do think some people forget to factor in the cash if you don’t qualify on NHS ( and most don’t) - it’s a lot of money to find every month for many people -and yes I know you can’t put a price on health , but if you haven’t got that spare , you haven’t - and it’s easy to say well you will save on food - I certainly didn’t as I massively upped the quality of what I was eating, more berries, more salmon, more chicken breast, more good salad etc - which is why whilst I think MJ is a great option for many, it’s not fair to poo poo people who say they don’t want to take MJ or really need to try losing weight without it - it can be uncomfortable to say you can’t afford it for months on end - especially if you have lots to lose.

KT1113 · 18/06/2025 10:39

Noodledog · 17/06/2025 22:15

I checked your BMI and you'll be eligible to get Mounjaro on the NHS. I don't understand why people would prefer to go down the normally hopeless route of calorie counting if they had an alternative that would actually work.

Not unless she has 4 qualifying co-morbidities and a BMI of 40+ (which she doesn't).

Also you do have to calorie count with mounjaro to lose weight, you still need to be in a caloried defecit, the medication itself doesn't make you drop weight if you're taking in more than you use up.

Crikeyalmighty · 18/06/2025 10:03

@Jazzyyyy yes the lady who runs my dance excercise class is clearly a stone or maybe two overweight but is absolutely fit as a fiddle, very toned, very pretty and looks super well- I think BMIs are great as a guide, but don’t tell the whole picture - my best friend in her 40s is well within normal range and runs a lot but has multiple issues with health and doesn’t eat that well either.

spoonbillstretford · 18/06/2025 09:52

BlotAnExpert · 18/06/2025 09:42

Yes but it isn't as simple as calories. One poster mentioned Slimming World being muller lights and curly wurlies, well you might lose weight but that is in no way healthy, it will cause massive blood sugar rushes leaving you starving again and mess up your gut bacteria. Eating higher protein and complex carbs will keep you fuller for longer.

Yes, you overall need to eat less (usually) but if you change your mindset about food, making it nourishment and fuel rather than comfort and punishment you will likely find this easier. The nutrionist will do this, just dramatically cutting calories will do the opposite.

The diet industry is so toxic and relies on people losing weight and then gaining it again so they come back for more. We need a huge amount of education to reset people's understanding of food.

Yes, I agree. I'm on the Nutracheck Facebook group and people post all kinds of beige meals and crap that they can have for 1700 calories or whatever and I don't say anything but think 🙈

My point was the other way round, it's not just about eating a balanced diet and the weight falls off- if that were the case I'd be very skinny, it's about the amount of food you have.

FilthyforFirth · 18/06/2025 09:44

Crikeyalmighty · 18/06/2025 09:24

@FilthyforFirth well done!! I did a month on MJ but decided not for me as not keen on feeling like I’ve got a hangover combined with heartburn 3 days a week - I have however stuck to the principles of high protein, low carb, lots of water and 11 weeks later am down from 95.1 to 87.1 - still losing at same rate- just without feeling crap - mind you I have always eaten well, just clearly slightly over what I need at 63 to actually lose -

Thank you! So my problem is, I dont eat particularly well, so the food noise being quieter has been the biggest change for me. I dont eat out of boredom or stress or sadness etc.

Well done on your approach, clearly working really well for you :)

Jazzyyyy · 18/06/2025 09:44

Crikeyalmighty · 18/06/2025 09:28

@Jazzyyyy indeed - on paper I should look great at around 9stone 3 ( I’m 5ft 4) - but I no longer do at 63 - I’ve got big boobs and too low just makes me look old- I look much better at 10 to 10stone 8 and toned . Which is where I am aiming back for - only 3 stone to go !

Yeah I feel you on that - I’m not 63, but I have big boobs too lol

obviously there’s limits to this and they’re not necessarily promoting obesity but some studies have suggested being slightly overweight after a certain age can have some positive health outcomes in later life. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/some-excess-weight-is-healthy-for-older-adults/

BlotAnExpert · 18/06/2025 09:42

spoonbillstretford · 17/06/2025 12:25

"Simply eating healthy food" was how I stayed at around 13 stone odd for many years. My appetite is an extremely unreliable narrator, particularly when it comes to losing weight - it's great at telling me what I need but not consistently eating less than I need for a long period! Particularly when I do a fair bit of exercise as well, it's hard to balance.

The amount you eat is absolutely key therefore calories play a part. However protein and fibre intake is absolutely key.

There is a local nutritionist who says things like "just eat healthily" and to be fair has lots of good recipes. But when I calorie counted their meal plans they were also low in calories as well as high protein and fibre.

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Yes but it isn't as simple as calories. One poster mentioned Slimming World being muller lights and curly wurlies, well you might lose weight but that is in no way healthy, it will cause massive blood sugar rushes leaving you starving again and mess up your gut bacteria. Eating higher protein and complex carbs will keep you fuller for longer.

Yes, you overall need to eat less (usually) but if you change your mindset about food, making it nourishment and fuel rather than comfort and punishment you will likely find this easier. The nutrionist will do this, just dramatically cutting calories will do the opposite.

The diet industry is so toxic and relies on people losing weight and then gaining it again so they come back for more. We need a huge amount of education to reset people's understanding of food.