Make up on the train: get up ten mins earlier

I have a very high energy 4 year old DC and an 80 minute commute. Doing makeup on the train is a sensible use of my time that I'd otherwise just spend doomscrolling on here (I barely get chance to make my hair presentable never mind anything else). However I don't spray anything, I agree that that's rude.

I will add, I don’t do it myself, I lack the dexterity

I actually enjoy seeing what products people are using, sometimes it gives me ideas and I make note 😂 I mean there’s more annoying things ppl can be doing on the train. My top bugbear is eating a smelly meal and chewing it with mouth open like a cow.

I posted something similar @Trainarmrestfairyunder a different username many years ago. I had my arse handed to me on a plate for being judgey and essentially, a misogynist

Fast forward at least 10 years and I still think putting on a full face on public transport is antisocial.

It shows how long it is since I took the train anywhere, I had no Idea women were comfortable about doing this.
Circa late 80's, I remember my friend having a go at me at a European outside café bar for applying a touch of lippy with a compact mirror before we left the table. She was quite right and it obviously stuck with me all these years 😂

That is literally how it is though. You are the irrelevant people for whom I don't make an effort. What kind of crippling self importance would you need to have to think strangers should dress up for you? That's honestly fucking creepy.

If the seating arrangements allowed applying my lipstick without infringing on antibody’s space? Sure.

But I think that was my original point (either to you or someone else). The person elbowing and spraying the OP would probably have sworn up and down that she wasn’t infringing on anyone’s space or doing what the OP said she had done.

People are often a poor judge of when their behaviour is infringing on others. You claim that putting on make up etc takes as much arm movement as raising and lowering a coffee cup. Well, it clearly didn’t today - hence the inspiration for OP’s post. That’s why I think it’s probably better to lay off applying make up (and many other activities besides!) when sitting directly next to someone else.

Brazen train make-upper here - been doing it for years. My moisturiser has had time to settle, if I've rushed I can wait until I feel a bit cooler and THE LIGHT IS BETTER ON THE TRAIN!!

Some people just have no standards. I've seen a woman cutting her toe nails with a nail clipper on the train.

Can you imagine our grandparents every having contemplated this?

I like it- I enjoy seeing how other people do their makeup.

Sooner a woman taking up space putting on mascara than being squashed between two manspreading guys in suits.

I love watching the transformation. I have try hard to not look like I am staring (which I am) - although I have never come across someone spraying stuff, I would draw the line there.

> You’re taking up two seats
Not if I needed a seat they wouldn't
I'd insist they move their crap, and any jabbing with elbows would meet with a sharp nudge in return just as they were applying mascara

I do not like people spraying stuff around on public transport. It has triggered asthma before.

If there were no single seats available and you had to sit beside someone, would you still apply the make up? If not, not a problem. If you would, I suppose that runs the risk that you would accidentally elbow or spray someone.

If the seating arrangements allowed applying my lipstick without infringing on antibody’s space? Sure.

Putting on lipstick and mascara takes about as much arm movement as raising and lowering a coffee cup, which most people seem to easily manage without jostling the person next to them.
and yet nobody seems to be outraged by the “risk” of them jostling somebody…

How is me applying some lipstick and mascara any different?

(I wouldn’t use a spray btw. That is just inconsiderate, I absolutely agree.)

Normally I'd think YABU but not if she got the spray in your face! Or was talking up a lot of extra room from it.

Many moons ago I used to have a stupid long commute. I'd roll out of bed hardly dress, brush teeth, make a coffee and leave. My 1st train was usually very quiet and I would do my make up. Which since I can remember has been BB cream, a light eye shadow and a small bit of mascara.

You sound miserable x

I'm on the fence here - I don't travel regularly enough for things to become irritating, but if I do see someone apply make-up it kind of fascinates me. An hour?!!! Just how? I'm done in 5 mins

Can you explain why it's unclassy? Perhaps with reference to other unclassy activities. Also, can you say why that's important?

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“Decorating an egg” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I'm often a hot, sweaty mess dealing with toddlers and dogs going three different places in the morning and physically can't apply my make up in the house. I regularly apply it on the go and while I tend to drive, I'd happily apply it on the train if I caught one and not give two shits what you thought about it. Hth.

But I do care more about presenting to people I know in real life than you, total random on the train who’s opinion I don’t care about.
You think me not caring what you think of me is a personal slight? God forbid some of us don’t give strangers that much control over our lives!

In your imagination?
Because people in Paris are commuting, rushing their very young kids to school, biting into burgers, drinking coffee on the go and shock horror applying makeup.

I remember seeing a woman doing a full face from start to finish on a commuter train a few years ago, I did find it a little quirky, exactly the same as when I sometimes used to see a guy razor his face walking back from school drop-off (with a battery powered shaver). In both scenarios it felt a bit much. I absolutely wouldn't bat an eye at a quick powder, dash of blusher or lipstick applied/reapplied - I'm sure I remember reading once that the late Queen would use a powder compact in public 😄

I know it's not rational, but I regard doing make-up as similar to picking one's nose or cutting one's toe-nails... not to be done in public. I also regard it as a bit of a personal slight, in other words "you want to present to the world in your made-up, more glamourous way, but you don't respect me (and the other people on the train) enough to do it before you see us. We're the irrelevant people for whom you don't make an effort. Thanks."

Not saying its rational but that is how it makes me feel.

Not a big issue.