Make up on the train: get up ten mins earlier

Well, according to some users I am an absolute slob for daring to apply makeup in public.

Which seems a little judgy. But if it makes them happy….🤷‍♀️

My child is profoundly disabled. He doesn’t sleep. He has to be closely supervised every waking minute. His specialist transport picks him up 15 minutes before I have to leave the house and that’s how long I have to shower, get dressed, and get out of the door. Where would you like me to find the 10 minutes?

Lack of class? You mean first class 😂

I do mine in the train, but in the loo. Usually takes 2 mins max.

the train was strangely empty today so I had a whole “business” compartment for myself.

I had an enjoyable commute and definitely didn’t jostle anyone whilst applying sunscreen, lipstick and mascara. And it wouldn’t concern me if somebody walking by wanted to judge me my lack of class. 😜

People are often a poor judge of when their behaviour is infringing on others. You claim that putting on make up etc takes as much arm movement as raising and lowering a coffee cup. Well, it clearly didn’t today - hence the inspiration for OP’s post.

Some people won’t realise and some won’t care.

People sit, drink, eat, read, talk, sleep listen music and also do their makeup on trains.

Some people manage to do all these things without infringing on their neighbours.

some people won’t even manage to sit down without man spreading, elbowing their neighbours, emitting unpleasant odours…

I reserve my outrage for those that actually are inconsiderate and not those that could potentially be (which could be everyone / any kind of behaviour if done without care. Even just sitting).

And I do find it a bit silly (and admittedly patronising) to suggest that those of us who do care about not infringing on their seat neighbours won’t be able to sit, read, drink or apply some lipstick without jostling or elbowing.

I agree with you op - it's personal grooming so do it at home! Also where does it stop? I've been covered in Someone's nail filings, watched people
picking their teeth, cutting nails and don't get me started on wearing hair rollers out and about - or pjs! Not very classy at all!

😂 I've got to say fellow commuters' perceptions of my class were extremely low on my list of priorities, back when I did this every day 😂

I used to leave the house about 6:40 to get the 6:52 train to get into work on time, and twice a week after work would go to a class which was about 2 and a half hours, sometimes 3, before getting home sometime after 10.

Eventually I finished the course and moved house so I wasn’t commuting between cities, but for a while, yeah, I used to do my makeup on the train.

I was careful with my elbows and didn’t use setting spray.

was too tired to be bothered with your opinion!

now I just don’t bother with makeup!

Wouldn't you? I'd think, good for him.

Now THAT would get the Mumsnet masses frothing.

Ha! Hello! Yes here I am because I was addressing a point made in a thread that interested me. That okay with you hun?

A lot of internalised misogyny going on here

Nonsense. I wouldn't be happy with a bloke applying his make up whilst on the train.

I literally could not give a flying fk what anyone thinks of me putting make up on anywhere

Yet here you are, ranting away.

If I saw someone putting shit in their Tesco trolley I’d definitely pay attention. 😂

Makeup? You're complaining about makeup on public transport? 😂

Come to NY. 😂🐀

Did you wake up on the wrong side of bed? Cheer up!

HARD AGREE!

Do I do it? No. Do I care if someone else does it? No.

It doesn’t make a noise or smells or disrupt me on my journey so I simply don’t care. I’ve been disturbed on trains far more by loud phone calls, people not using earphones, spilt drinks or food, and spreading elbows from people working on the train where there is insufficient space.

In that context I can’t get worked up over someone applying mascara on the train. If granted a wish to remove an annoyance from trains then make up wouldn’t register.

Agree that you can think what you want of people. And get as irritated or annoyed about it in your own head about it as you wish. And moan about it to like-minded souls if that’s your bag.

Also believe that a lot of what you’re assuming about said people (words used on here so far in relation to the crime of make up on public transport have been: disorganised, lazy, performative, weird, disgusting) is definitely a reflection of your own inner workings than actual reality. When in fact you have NO idea why that particular person is putting make up on on a train instead of at home on that particular day.

Of course they can. But I do think it's a measure of how judgemental, or otherwise, a person is. I think society could do with being a bit more 'live and let live' where the unimportant stuff is concerned.

@ruethewhirl anything done in public is open to evaluation by others. If I see someone doing something unusual in Tesco, then I'm going to be looking and evaluating that. If I saw you applying your make up whilst you were doing your shopping, I would definitely be having a few thoughts about it. If you are just doing the bog standard putting shit in your trolley, I probably wouldn't be paying a vast amount of attention. If you are sitting on the train looking at your phone / book / paper then I'm not giving you much thought either.

People don't get to dictate to strangers what they may or may not do but they can certainly think about it, and disagree with it in their own heads, if they want to.

I've never said anything about dictating. I am irritated by it. Doesn't mean I think I should be able to ban it. I will just remain irritated.

Not offended, not furious, not thinking they are behaving unacceptably. Just irritated, as I said.

Imagine thinking you could dictate other people to this degree. Mental.

It’s a very fixed logic. Black and white thinking.
I shared an example above. Of when some woman basically shouted at me on a bus for rushing some make up on. That morning I hadn’t been ‘disorganised’ I’d been very organised but my kids had different ideas and when one got upset because of something to do with school just as we were leaving, I took five to calm her down before we left. So the five mins I would have been doing my make up I was comforting my daughter instead so she could go to school feeling safe and loved. That okay by you? Or should I have told her her emotions didn’t fit with my schedule?