To think it's OK to carry my toddler while pregnant

how did the random person even know you're pregnant given you're only three months pregnant? And it seems very odd that stranger would start talking to you about vagina prolapse

You're pregnant, not disabled; none of their business.

I'd be more concerned about your 2 year old being 19kg than the actual act of carrying a toddler whilst pregnant.

I don't think the weight of the 2yo matters at much for all we know Op could be 6ft herself.

I don't know why so many are being dismissive of the risks. Its well known that ligaments relax during pregnancy, meaning pregnant women are more prone to injury in pregnancy and the time afterwards.

If it was an employer asking a pregnant employee to lift 19kg, they'd be required to carry out a risk assessment, including minimising the reasons to lift and training on how to lift, bend knees keeping back straight and keeping the weight centered.

But wiggly toddlers aren't well known for standing still so Mum can get a good hold before trying to lift without putting her back out or putting strain on the pelvis.

Lots of mums do the hip carry to so the weight isn't evenly spread, one hips lifted while the spine gets twisted to balance the load.

I mean .. prolapse, yeah possibly. But what else are you supposed to do?

Well it kind of changes things as her 2 year old is the size of a 5 year old so explains why people are commenting

I'd encourage your child to walk. My 3 year old is 18kg and on the 91st percentile for weight. I can't lift her and walk for extended periods without getting tired and I'm not pregnant. In your shoes I'd be using a pram on anything but short journeys. Having said that I had 2 under 2 and absolutely picked up my eldest whilst pregnant and she was a lot lighter than your child. I did have back pain though in that pregnancy which was excruciating.

So what I'm getting at is it's not that you can't lift your 2 year old but do so when sitting down or if standing or walking then short periods. I'd use a pram or reigns depending on what your child prefers and if there is another parent around on days out I'd get them to do the lifting. Your child will still get plenty of cuddles and lots of love but adjust your movements so you don't develop discomfort.

What the circumstances that you are regularly needing to carry your toddler for 5 minutes? Do you have a pushchair?

I was going to say it’s fine until I saw they are 19kg? I weighed my 3 year the other day and he was 13.4kg, so would have been lighter when I was pregnant (I now have a 3 month old). I couldn’t carry him for long, but it was fine that I did but I wouldn’t have been able to or wanted to if he was 19kg. I spent most of my pregnancy encouraging him to walk more anyway!

I was off the scale as a kid because I was also off the scale for height. It depends on the correlation between the two. That’s why BMI exists, you can’t go off weight alone!

I have never weighed more than 9 and a half stone, but I am tall.

Yes, someone has to be on the 100th centile, but until we eradicate obesity and everyone is a healthy weight, you probably don't want to be on the 100th centile.

Carried my 6yo on my back and my 3 year old on my front and danced around the house and garden with them the whole way through my third pregnancy.

my trainer told me that if it feels comfortable, and I’m ‘hugging’ my bump in with my core and breathing / being intentional with my movements then it’s all fine.

you know your body. You’re in charge.

Surely weight of toddler is important, as a heavy toddler will put more strain on the body.

My DS is 99centile for height and weight but he's still only just gone 18kg at 26 months. Your daughter must be very big. Agree with other pp. More walking! Is she super tall? My son is the average height of a 3 or 4 year old so carries the weight well.

I’m 36 weeks pregnant and (out of absolute necessity) I’ve had to carry an oven, a fridge-freezer and lots of other household items when I was around 6 months pregnant. Just trust your body, you’ll know when you’re over doing it.

Sure, but it’s still very much a pile on to the OP going ‘are you SURE? Your child can’t POSSIBLY be on the 100th centile?’ Etc. someone has to be, you know!

Well, she’s also 15.5kg (I think - not too good with metric) at 22 months, which is probably pretty similar to the average weight of a 4 year old. She’s slim and tall. Her aunt is a model so I imagine it comes from that side of the family. Shes at the top of the centiles and so is OP’s child. It’s just irritating to question the weight as if such children don’t exist! In my case my daughter is just tall but even if OP’s child is overweight it’s still rude to derail the thread

Which could be anywhere between 2 and 13 months younger than the OP's child.

Either way, if your child gained more than 4kg in the next year that would be very rapid weight gain.

Well, it is unusual. We are allowed to comment you know.

A 2yo who resembles a 3yo is common. A 2yo the size of a 5yo is not common! But in any case I'm sure op will be back to clarify, I think it must be a typo and/or mixing up lb and kg (say, 29lb instead of 19kg).

It’s very rude to keep derailing the point and the question of the OP to comment on how heavy her toddler is.

A 19kg 2 year old? Crikey.

My 5yo is 19.5kg

Yes, but she’s only 22 months.

The difference here is if you had previous pelvic issues. I was crippled with pelvic girdle pain during my pregnancies so I couldn't lift 19kg and with my history of loss id be very wary but that's more me than anything. I'm already thinking of how I'll manage dd when I go again but ill just have to but I will be encouraging her to walk more at that stage to spare my ligaments when Im pregnant again.

It’s only slightly over the 99th centile. Some children are on the 100th centile or off the scale. It happens. They grow at different rates. People always think my under 2 year old is at least 3 due to her height and speech ability.