To think it's OK to carry my toddler while pregnant

Women have always done this!

I carried two of mine whilst pregnant with my third. It's fine so long as you hold them in an appropriate way.

Um, I was at the gym lifting weights throughout most of my pregnancy and a lot heavier than 19kg.

women work in physical jobs around the world when pregnant.

you must be careful but the idea that carrying a 19kg child is bad is ridiculous

Have you had her height and weight checked recently? Her height puts her in the 92st centile which is tall, however her weight is 4kg above the 99th centile for a 2.5 year old. That's a big percentage of her bodyweight to be over compared to her height.

I had big toddlers too, DD was 3/4 when I was pregnant so bigger than yours and I carried her without a problem when needed right up to giving birth. when pregnant with her I was decorating and moving furniture right up to labour too.

some kids are just naturally bigger, genetics make a difference. my DS was probably about your DDs height and weight at 2. He’s 5 now and still tall but weight sort of plateaued though he’s tracked 99th centile since birth. DD is 10 now and above the 99th centile for height and weight too.

I carried my toddler while pregnant at times. I'd suggest maybe carry on your back with a suitable sling, or a ring sling that spreads the weight over your body fairly equally

I agree that encouraging her to walk more is the best thing to do. In the meantime, I would look into making sure you're picking her up safely. Engaging your core and pelvic floor and and breathing out as you lift her.

Yes it’s fine. I mean realistically what else r u going to do !

I worked in a nursery when pregnant and carried many toddlers. I also had a toddler of my own when pregnant with the second. The people saying you shouldn't carry him are being ridiculous. Life doesn't just stop when we're pregnant. How many people would need to stop working when pregnant if we couldn't carry something the same weight as a toddler.

Completely beyond the topic but this really makes me think of how malnutrition affected so many in my country during communism...

An almost 1 meter tall 2 year old would have been unheard of !

It’s a misconception that heavy lifting can cause a miscarriage. Briefly educate these busy bodies and move on. I had the same, at work though.

Another lady I worked with gave birth to a little girl at 20ish weeks. 🥺 The vitriolic comments from the idiots at work…. ‘Oh well, she shouldn’t have been lifting such heavy things’ etc.
It was a medically induced birth because the baby had a trisomy. People are real jerks at times.

My 5yo is 91st centile for height at 116cm and 19kg. His weight is lower than his height centile. How tall is she?

I do think she's too heavy for you to be routinely carrying now, pregnant or not. Not her fault or yours and doesn't mean she has no physical contact with you, but her carry days are nearing the end.

Yip I was well used to swimming both my casual Sunday swim with my pal and a bit more serious bang out some lenghts.

For me the pain felt like I'd been kicked between the legs. By the Thursday not knowing what I'd done, and struggling to walk. I called the MW who told me to get in touch with Maternity Physios. They were keep your knees together, getting in / out of.bed, the car, the bath, no swinging around on your hips (ironing, hoovering, careful with trollys).
It settled a bit but was never 100% until well after the birth..

And I felt it again with DC2 at 12/13 weeks after carrying DC1 with a burst nose the length of the same pool!

19kg is a heavy lift.
Lots of airlines label cases over 20kg as heavy same with couriers they try to avoid boxes over 20kg.
HSE has guidance about lifting blocks over 20kgs as a 2 person lift.

An employer also has to take into account the person they are asking to lift it. So it's not quite as simple as 19kg is under the 20kg so is fine to lift.
I'm turning to employment guidance because it difficult to get guidance for domestic situations.

I was lugging a 3 year old and a 1 year old about when pregnant with dc3. As long as your comfortable. Though tbh the phil and ted buggy got used lots more when I got to 4 months as I was huge

Were you used to swimming? I certainly was, and maybe I was lucky but there were certainly never any adverse effects.

Depends what you mean by ‘heavy lifting’ I suppose. I wouldn't have tried to pick up any other heavy object when heavily pregnant, but had been used to picking up my dd several times a day ever since she was born, so had by degrees become so used to it that it didn’t feel like an effort.

It only occurred to me much later that babies and toddlers make excellent ‘weights’!

Maybe the size of your toddler means that strangers think they are older than they are and so don’t need to be carried so much?

The only question that matters is are you comfortable carrying them?

Id probably suggest attaching reins permanently so you can pop them down more frequently as and when you need rest breaks?

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER
I get there is something serious batshit old wife's tales but often their can be good reason not to do something even if the logic is wrong.

Breaststroke kicks, is what caused my pelvic pain at 22weeks with my first. I swam Sunday, gentle swim, as much chatting as swimming, by Thursday I could hardly walk.

Heavy lifting when pregnant with loose ligaments can cause injury.
There is at least two people on this thread that have said - it happened to them. There are laws to protect women in the workplace. Do people honestly think employers would be required to carry out a Risk Assessment if their was no additional risks to pregnant women?

I was told by a non-Brit neighbour when very pregnant and carrying my toddler, that if I did this my baby would be born with a broken arm.

I was also told by another ditto that swimming while pregnant meant that ‘your bones will open and you’ll lose the baby’.
They* were full of batshit old wives’ tales!
After the baby was born I ‘must’ also cover its face with a blanket if ever taking it out after dark - to keep the evil spirits away. Pinning a little cross plus one of those ‘evil eye’ things to its clothes would also help ward off evil spirits.
So now you know!

*all from a certain Mediterranean culture.

And colour me shocked the Op has vanished

Yes, its not helpful to comment on the weight of a child with no insight into height and build. Mine were all 100th percentile for height, they were always going to be heavier than “average”.

People look at tall children and load them with expectations of this age - I well remember the woman commenting that having my 15 month eldest in reins “at that age” was ridiculous because she was too stupid to understand that maturity comes with age, not height.

Anyways OP you should just ignore the intrusive comments of strangers. I also wouldn’t bet telling strangers I was three months pregnant unless they had a need to know. If you find DD difficult to lift can you encourage them to walk more of the time and minimise lifting and take a lightweight umbrella fold buggy with you when you go out?