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I was played again .

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Kenyaparks · 17/06/2025 01:01

Me 24 have been talking to this man 28 for about 4weeks now. We met online, he wasn't initially my type, but he was applying pressure and it caught my interest. I met him on hinge he seemed genuine, we live two hours away from each other but he seemed not to mind that. Never met each other we have ft several of times

The first couple weeks we were talking he tried to come and see me for the weekend and rent a room. I was busy both weekends, he ended up going on vacation and was calling me while he was there buying me souvenirs texting me etc, just being very consistent. He came back from vacation and that kinda died down? He only was texting me and stoped calling. He tried to come down the weekend he got back to being me my gifts and take me on a date. I was going to let him, but I really thought about how I knew he would be expecting intimacy from me sense he's renting a room. He didn't directly say that but I already knew. So I just agreed on coming out where he lives that next weekend since me and my family already agreed on going out there during that time.

Make a long story short he was texting me counting down the days to see me, just for me to get out there and him be a slow texter, he sent me the details on our date planned, then right after he said that he had to go into work do to the pipes flooding, how he's on standby for his job and it was an emergency how he couldn't make it .... kept texting me saying he apologizes promising me that he would make it up on Saturday once I got back to my city. I got there on Thursday morning and left Friday afternoon, he kept begging me to just stay the weekend and if I did he would drive me home etc. I declined because I had work on that Saturday. He said he would just come out to see me this weekends to make it up. Kept telling me how he wants to be in my life etc. said he'll just prove it to me. This was all yesterday

Anyways the day has come when he was supposed to drive out here and I haven't heard anything from him at all today I feel soo stupid, was this a game to him ?

this was all last week/weekend

OP posts:
Flomingho · 17/06/2025 02:44

Throw this one back. Too many red flags. Trust your gut instinct. It is there to keep you safe.

Gremlins101 · 17/06/2025 02:34

His messages sound insane. Give this one a miss. Better luck with the next one OP. I know it's not easy trying to meet someone great

arcticpandas · 17/06/2025 02:30

"Princess" "Queen" 🤢 And you haven't even met. Def. "lovebombing" which makes him appear insincere and quite ridiculous.

Fitasafiddle1 · 17/06/2025 02:28

Why are you letting these losers in your life at all? How come anyone has access like this? Just no. Rethink the way you are dating, you are leaving yourself wiide open to problems and liars.

Rainbowqueeen · 17/06/2025 02:25

Take a step back. What is it you actually want from online dating? I can’t tell.

Are you happy with a hook up or do you want a BF? Work that out first then set yourself some standards that the person you are speaking to must meet. First standard should be that they understand any safety concerns you have and never try to get you to ignore those concerns.

This guy is clearly a player or a scammer. There are lots of them out there. You will need to be fairly brutal in recognising this kind of behaviour.

DontEvenBother · 17/06/2025 02:18
  1. Lovebomber
  2. Timewaster
  3. Player

On and on and on it goes.

You don't know him, but there is enough here to show you that you should NOT WASTE MORE TIME on this toad.

TruthOrAlethiometer · 17/06/2025 02:03

Are you very young? You’re not actually falling for any of this nonsense are you?

It’s all very cringe and so clearly nonsense. This is a bloke you have never met who lives two hours away, why are you even bothering? You need to grow up a bit.

For online dating you shouldn’t be matching with anyone who’s far away and the first few conversations should be light. Just gentle getting to know each other until you grab a coffee to see if you get on. You don’t waste weeks speaking to someone and getting invested in someone you have never met when you have no idea who they really are or if you click together. You certainly don’t spend weeks with texts like that; princess and queen and all that nonsense. It’s love bombing. It’s all fake. It’s all fantasy. And if it’s not and the man really is obsessed with you that is a huge red flag and you need to run in the other direction. It doesn’t sound like you’re actually in the right place for online dating as you seem to be too vulnerable.

Frozensun · 17/06/2025 01:49

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This! He’s not anywhere close and he’s playing you. Keep him blocked.

JustCopyeditorsAnnie · 17/06/2025 01:39

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Rayqueen · 17/06/2025 01:34

I mean he could look at you and say the same not wanting to meet up before that several times

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Kenyaparks · 17/06/2025 01:26

Winter2020 · 17/06/2025 01:24

Block his number now. He has had his chances to meet you.

At best he only wants to meet up if he gets a weekend as he hopes to get you into bed. At worst he is a danger.

He is love bombing you with absolute rubbish.

Block him.

A genuine bloke will not be so over the top when you have never even met and would be happy to meet for lunch or a drink and not expect your first meeting to be a whole weekend.

Yes he’s been blocked since Saturday

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Winter2020 · 17/06/2025 01:24

Block his number now. He has had his chances to meet you.

At best he only wants to meet up if he gets a weekend as he hopes to get you into bed. At worst he is a danger.

He is love bombing you with absolute rubbish.

Block him.

A genuine bloke will not be so over the top when you have never even met and would be happy to meet for lunch or a drink and not expect your first meeting to be a whole weekend.

Winter2020 · 17/06/2025 01:16

He sounds like he is absolutely full of shit. Sorry

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Kenyaparks · 17/06/2025 01:13

Winter2020 · 17/06/2025 01:07

I wouldn't say it was a game but just tread carefully. He could be a fantasist, a catfish (not who he pretends to be) or a scammer or even a danger to you.

You said you were away with family when he declined to meet you.

You don't know this person. Don't meet him in private/ go to his accommodation or have him at yours. Take sensible precautions - meeting in a public place. His behaviour is strange and your spidey senses should be tingling. Even better give this one a miss.

These where all the texts he was sending me on the day he canceled
Princess why would i put all this energy into - us just to play give me a chance to come out there Saturday I promise really want to see u

-That’s impossible queen why would I put all this energy while I’m in a relationship would never do u like that u know I work for the city
-& I have your souvenirs still I want to give to you
-Don’t do this I want us to talk queen u special fr & love your energy just give me a chance
-Princess just give me a chance want to be in your life
-wish u could just stay for the weekend 😢 but Ok princess & I will come out there I promise will make it up to you

He never came like he said he would and it was crickets on that day from him

OP posts:
Winter2020 · 17/06/2025 01:07

I wouldn't say it was a game but just tread carefully. He could be a fantasist, a catfish (not who he pretends to be) or a scammer or even a danger to you.

You said you were away with family when he declined to meet you.

You don't know this person. Don't meet him in private/ go to his accommodation or have him at yours. Take sensible precautions - meeting in a public place. His behaviour is strange and your spidey senses should be tingling. Even better give this one a miss.