I was played again .

OP, EVERYTHING you put in your op was a red flag and an indication that you should have blocked him immediately. Not a sign he was interested and you should have stuck around.

As much as anything the use of Princess and Queen indicate he was copying and pasting messages to several women and it reduces the chance that he'll use the wrong name.

The drop in communication is because he wasn't getting what he wanted from you quickly enough and was investing elsewhere.

His interest in you wasn't genuine.

He devoted the time to it because this is like a job to him.

Stop over investing in people you haven’t met yet. If you meet someone online and there’s potential arrange a date quickly instead of entering the pen pal phase. If you don’t arrange dates with people who live miles away that will
be easier to do. Also be really explicit that you’re not looking for anything casual and don’t rush in to physical intimacy. This should weed out a fair few of the less serious men but shouldn’t put off anyone looking for a serious relationship.

All of this, @Kenyaparks .

Never, ever date a man who calls you Princess or Queen…… especially if he has not even met you.

Absolutely this. He would have lost me at these words and, as a PP said, I don't think they are 'locally' (national/western world/real life) used so much 🤔

Duplicate post

Even if it’s not a scam, this all seems a bit much for someone you’ve been talking to online for a month.

Is he 14?
Chuck him back into the sea

You were told a week ago he was giving off red flag vibes when you posted and asked about him (same as the one you'd been talking to a few days before this one)

Queen and Princess are scammer terminology.

They probably have loads of other people they are scamming along at the same time so much easy to use the same nickname to all of the victims rather than use your actual name.

Where are you both from, he 100% doesn’t sound like English is his first language? Not that it’s an issue, but it’s suspicious if he claims it is.

Something here feels very off

understatement of the year! 😃

Something here feels very off. I’m glad he’s blocked, trust your gut. The whole way he is expressing himself after knowing you online for such a short time is OTT.
I’m much older than you and I know things work differently now but maybe try doing different hobbies and things to meet people in real life. I don’t mean that in a patronising way- and maybe it sounds a bit silly- but this guy sounds dodgy to me and it’s really hard to get a sense of people online (at least for me). Stay safe.

How was he supposed to contact you yesterday when he said he would come, if you have blocked him?

However now I've seen his texts I'd say keep him blocked!

why would i put all this energy into - us just to play

Energy? He sent a load of texts in the hope of sex? Sounds about right.

When people tell you to look for consistent effort and energy from a guy to show he is interested in you they are talking about a much higher bar than texts over a few weeks. They're talking about actually meeting up, treating you well (that doesn't just mean buying you dinner, bringing you a "gift" and calling you princess".

Do you still believe he bought you a souvenir from his holiday?

Anyone who was pushing to "rent a room" and promised to ply me with "souvenirs" after only a few texts from a dating App would be told where to go.

Men like him enjoy reeling women in, love the thrill of the chase and you can bet your bottom dollar you wouldn't see him for dust once he'd got what he wanted. He'd lose interest in a nano-second.

Your title suggests you know he's been playing that game, so get rid, block and don't look back, he's vile.

This is typical scammer talk. They use Queen a lot. They also ask if you've eaten today. He will soon be asking for gift cards etc.

I watch a channel on YouTube called catfished. Give it a look , you may find similarities.

Be very careful - this could be anyone!!??
I know many people meet online now but this doesn’t strike me as very safe op. Do not meet him without telling someone where you will be and times etc. Don’t meet him if you feel pressured for intimacy either. That’s such a huge red flag! Do you think it will head towards a relationship if you begin this way? I highly doubt it…. Be careful I feel this is super vulnerable and not very safe for you x

He's married.

Princess?
Queen?

Apart from the ick factor that really, REALLY, reads like the scam texts/emails sent by damming farms that you see in the documentaries of those poor people that get fleeced…. Glad you’ve spotted he (if he even is a he, some gangs are female) is a wrongun’ and got them blocked x

Lucky escape OP - all holiday ‘souvenirs’ are awful, at least you don’t have to feign delight with some grotty landfill destined tat now

Good. He sounds like a waste of time, Kenya.

Do you not meet people in your ordinary life, when with friends or at work? Internet dating seems very dodgy to me. If you were older, and both took a lot of time about it, then met for a coffee first time, next date a meal or something, in a public place where you could talk and size each other up, that would be different but for someone of your age it seems unnecessary.

He went over the top, frankly, in the way he spoke to you, considering you had never actually met. Dangerous.

Be careful in future.

Get off the apps and do the freedom programme before you even think about resuming dating.

The first line of your post said he was applying pressure. That should have been the most enormous red flag for you even before all the other nonsense.

You need to develop some boundaries before you try this again.

OP, you're still early on in your dating life in the grand scheme of things so this is a great time for you to decide what your dating boundaries are.

I'm not going to claim that I've never let a guy from Bumble come to my apartment and ... but I lived in a building where you had to show your ID, scan a QR code, and sign in with a book. And I had an intercom phone to front desk. Outside of those very lucky circumstances, it's a bad plan to let a strange guy even know where you live.

Your dating boundaries could be something like, you only engage with men who invite you for drinks. Doesn't need to be coffee or dinner or anything extreme, but you get to vet him and go to a bar. Then, you can refuse to sleep with him until after the second date. Go home. Process. Does he fit your requirements? If so, accept second date. You could refuse to sleep with him until marriage. Whatever. Just insist on a nice normal date for your first engagement. And actually, don't even insist. just delete guys who expect you to meet them that night/let them come to your apartment. Absolutely not. It would take several dates before I even let a guy know where I lived with any precision.

You are going to need to decide your boundaries and then screen aggressively. Good luck. Your boundaries are the key to a happy life.

scammer. Not in the uk.

All this from someone you've never even met?