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Winterjoy · 16/06/2025 21:26

Another day of being completely blanked by a shop assistant and I'm starting to wonder if I'm out of touch and this is just the norm now in customer service?

I'm not expecting every member of staff in the shop to acknowledge me and have a conversation but I've just had an encounter at the checkout where the person serving said not one word to me (no response even to my 'hello' - it was honestly like I'd spoken to a brick wall!).

I know in the grand scheme of things it does't really matter but for some reason this time it's put a bit of a downer on my evening.

If you work for one of the big retailers do they train you at all? I know when I was in retail (a few years ago now) basic service skills were drilled into us as standard.

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Havanananana · 17/06/2025 09:10

Tourmalines · 17/06/2025 02:36

I’ve noticed that too . I think we’ve turned into a bit of a zombie society.

We're turning into a purely transactional society where the attutude is that everything is measured in terms of money, as evidenced the post from @InWalksBarberalla "The role is to enable the exchange of goods for money. If the business decides its important for their staff to also take pride in customer service and fake smiles and conversations and the like then they'll invest in recruiting and training. However if the business decides that investment isn't worth the return they won't."

The idea that humans might want some social interaction, some communication, some acknowlegment seems to have been removed from the equation.

If the "experience" is purely transactional, people will move towards systems that are cheaper or more convenient - e.g. internet shopping replaces face-to-face shopping, and the traditional retail companies find themselves without a reason to exist, and without a reason to employ anyone.

latetothefisting · 17/06/2025 08:49

People always say this as a first defence but the minimum wage has increased 150% over the last 20 years, which is far more than any "professional" salaries- a junior doctor's starting pay, for example, has only increased 38% in the same time.

Is it a fortune, obviously not, but it doesn't make any sense to claim that people working minimum wage get less now so can't be expected to give the same level of service as they used to, when proportionately its far more - if anything minimum wage roles are some of the only ones where wages have exceeded inflation.

If youre conparing like for like it would make more sense for your argument to be that service should be better in lower paid roles than twenty years ago and worse in better paid ones.

I think it's less about money but working conditions - yes there were always students etc doing retail work but it was also seen as a proper, full time job -staff did their best which involved actually giving a good service, and employers did theirs by offering full time contracts, incentives like extra pay on Sundays etc. Often on here you see things like employers used to offer taxis home for bar staff working late - can't imagine that happens much now.

Plus the attitude from the public- when only a small percentage went to uni and had expectations of graduate level roles then a lower paid job was the norm. Now people working the jobs feel like they're settling and (some) of those who think they have "better" jobs consider minimum pay jobs as less worthy - quickly forgetting everything we learned during the pandemic.

Also 20 years ago you could dream of getting a glamorous job like model/footballer/actor etc but realistically knew the chances of doing that without the skills were very low. Now literally anyone CAN have a job like influencer or YouTube with just their own passion and effort.

Lifestooshort71 · 17/06/2025 08:47

If you are being paid to do any job that involves dealing with a customer then responding to a greeting and making eye contact should be the barest minimum given in return. Some people enjoy interacting with strangers and make good customer-facing employees but others are just grunters and add nothing to the experience. Our local Range has excellent staff, helpful, smiley and seem happy to be in the team - I can't imagine they get paid much/anything above the NMW so there's more to it than pay cheques.

Menobaby79 · 17/06/2025 08:42

feelingbleh · 17/06/2025 08:24

There more likely regulars rather then friends as you are not allowed to serve friends and family. People want different things from their shopping experience some customers come in for a chat as your the only person they speak to that day others want to be in and out with minimal fuss

No definitely friends, can tell by the conversations. I doubt Asda has time to bother policing whether someone is a friend or family. Especially now 2 thirds of the tills are unmanned by humans.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 08:32

feelingbleh · 17/06/2025 08:30

She was probably working from home and had just woke up 🤣🤣

I think she was!

I also believe some staff are pissed on duty! But that’s another story.

xanthomelana · 17/06/2025 08:30

ShanghaiDiva · 17/06/2025 07:30

I find that the staff in Lidl and Aldi are super efficient and manage to whizz through your shopping and acknowledge you.

They whizz through your shopping so fast because products have either multiple barcodes or wrap around ones. Makes it easier for them because they don’t have to look for the barcode when they are scanning.

feelingbleh · 17/06/2025 08:30

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 08:27

I had to speak to someone at Very about a damaged item and screw up they’d made regarding its return. The woman was so nonchalant it sounded as if she’d just woken up. Lots of silences and sighing and then she burped loudly down the phone and just carried on…..

She was probably working from home and had just woke up 🤣🤣

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 08:27

I had to speak to someone at Very about a damaged item and screw up they’d made regarding its return. The woman was so nonchalant it sounded as if she’d just woken up. Lots of silences and sighing and then she burped loudly down the phone and just carried on…..

feelingbleh · 17/06/2025 08:24

Menobaby79 · 17/06/2025 06:56

Definitely this one! We get this a lot in our local big Asda. People on checkouts scanning their friends food through a lot slower so they can have a good chin wag with them. 🙄

There more likely regulars rather then friends as you are not allowed to serve friends and family. People want different things from their shopping experience some customers come in for a chat as your the only person they speak to that day others want to be in and out with minimal fuss

ShanghaiDiva · 17/06/2025 07:30

DoctorRoseReturns · 16/06/2025 23:35

Which shop?

Places like Aldi and Lidl are cheaper because they expect staff to whizz through X items in Y time. They aren't expected to stand and chat. They are to get you scanned and done as quickly as possible and move on to the next person so that they can have 1 person on a till instead of 2

I find that the staff in Lidl and Aldi are super efficient and manage to whizz through your shopping and acknowledge you.

ShanghaiDiva · 17/06/2025 07:27

BallerinaRadio · 16/06/2025 21:31

They're not being paid enough to pretend to enjoy the job anymore, never mind force conversation with every customer they serve.

I know it shouldn't be like that, but then they should be paid a decent wage they can live on.

Nobody is asking them to pretend they enjoy the job, but acknowledging a customer is basic manners.

Poynsettia · 17/06/2025 07:22

I know it shouldn't be like that, but then they should be paid a decent wage they can live on.

Have you any idea how ridiculous this is - what the hell is a decent wage - they should earn what the job deserves - sliding goods over a reader. Also part of the job is to be pleasant to customers.

These are the people who think they should be getting benefits so they can do nothing.

OntheBorder1 · 17/06/2025 07:19

Agix · 17/06/2025 06:01

They're acting their wage.

Which they are entitled to do - but they needn't expect to ever go above low wages if that is how their attitude. I've seen people in minimum wage jobs who have done them to the best of their ability, and when a promotion is in the wind they are the ones first in the queue.

OntheBorder1 · 17/06/2025 07:15

misssunshine4040 · 17/06/2025 05:03

Minimum wage minimum effort as they say now

And with that attitude they never will be on anything other than minimum wage.

Menobaby79 · 17/06/2025 06:56

RaraRachael · 16/06/2025 23:41

What annoys me is having to wait whoile the assistant chats with a customer in great detail about a relative's operation or their latest holiday etc.
They don't seem to realise they're paid to serve customer not yap with their friends

Definitely this one! We get this a lot in our local big Asda. People on checkouts scanning their friends food through a lot slower so they can have a good chin wag with them. 🙄

Lindajonesjustcantlivemylife · 17/06/2025 06:23

tinytorch · 17/06/2025 01:39

It's not as if wages were wonderful previously - we were still expected to engage politely with customers and pay attention to our actual jobs.

Exactly that retail wages have never been great.I worked retail years ago and had to acknowledge customer's and approach them and have good product knowledge so they had confidence to purchase.

JustAMum35 · 17/06/2025 06:23

Wagathamisty · 17/06/2025 03:00

I worked in retail when I was younger and this is definitely not how you’re trained. However when there is a huge queue and you’re the only one serving you don’t have time to make conversation and ask about their day with a customer. Especially when it’s just you serving. The customers just get pissed off. I will say hello and thank you, if they need any bags or need anything else and be polite but I honestly don’t care about their day. Doubt you care about mine. I got paid minimum wage to scan people’s shopping i’m not there to be your friend.

@Wagathamisty I don’t agree with this at all. You do have time to make conversation and be polite. You have the time it takes to scan their shopping. It doesn’t need to be much. Nobody is asking you to be their friend.

@Winterjoy I’m a retail manager and customer service is one of the main things we pride ourselves on. We have frequent reviews and while the sales figures are looked it, it is mainly customer service based!
Yes, everyone has bad days and personal issues that come up that make facing people much harder (myself included!). We are a team. If my team let me know they’re having a difficult day for whatever reason then I can help them. That may mean some time off, or less customer facing time, or not being customer facing at the times that are usually busiest and most stressful. It may mean I have to rearrange my workload to pick up some of that customer facing time that’s needed - that’s absolutely fine! We’re a team and that’s what we do!
I also remind them that we only see that customer for a few minutes. They may be having a horrendous day. Of course they shouldn’t take it out on staff, but everyone has a breaking point.

I will also give them time away from customer facing if there has been a difficult customer (although I do try to step in and take these situations on myself if at all possible!) as it’s normal to need a bit of time to let it go.

For the most part, customers are lovely. And I expect my team to be the same. And quite simply, if they can’t be like that to our customers then they won’t still be working for me.

I do believe a lot of bad customer service is down to bad management. A minimum wage job doesn’t have to be a miserable job.

Agix · 17/06/2025 06:01

They're acting their wage.

Meetmeundertheclock · 17/06/2025 05:57

Here's me thinking I had become invisible because I had got older.

Icanttakethisanymore · 17/06/2025 05:49

Wagathamisty · 17/06/2025 03:03

The public can be cunts. Full stop. Nothing will ever please them even when you go above and beyond.

I worked in a supermarket when I was young - I found most people were really nice. Obviously there’s the odd person who’s not but on the whole, people were friendly and kind.

misssunshine4040 · 17/06/2025 05:03

Minimum wage minimum effort as they say now

ChocolateGanache · 17/06/2025 04:41

Icanttakethisanymore · 16/06/2025 22:33

You need to go to Waitrose. The staff are always amazing in my experience.

Totally agree! Such a different experience.

xanthomelana · 17/06/2025 04:30

If you work for one of the big supermarkets then you should get training on customer service. That said sometimes it’s mentally draining being on checkouts, you have the same conversations over and over again, there’s only so many times you can talk about the weather or you can laugh at the ‘it must be free’ when the item doesn’t scan first time. Then in the nice weather we get ‘I bet you wish you wasn’t stuck in here on a day like this’, honestly it’s monotonous sometimes but you still should acknowledge the customer. It’s a difficult balance of being polite but not getting into another full blown conversation you’ve had umpteen times and I think that skill comes with experience. I’ve noticed my staff who are older are good at getting customers through checkout fast but still engaging with them, young people are not as good communicating full stop and I think that’s partly down to them not having to do things face to face because everything is online or on an app. Also for a lot of people retail will be their first job and they are nervous, handling cash and trying to remember how the till works sometimes takes over them and they forget there’s an actual person there that they are serving.

Wagathamisty · 17/06/2025 03:21

FullOfLemons · 17/06/2025 03:20

I think it depends on shop.

Staff in my local Sainsbury are friendly and helpful. The management do appear to be useless, but can’t fault the customer facing staff.

How are they useless?

FullOfLemons · 17/06/2025 03:20

I think it depends on shop.

Staff in my local Sainsbury are friendly and helpful. The management do appear to be useless, but can’t fault the customer facing staff.

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