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To think this was shitty of my manager?

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TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:39

I have a meeting scheduled with a group of colleagues. This meeting is notoriously difficult to schedule because of everyone's working hours.

My manager then scheduled a mandatory training course which completely overlapped this meeting. Everyone in the meeting I planned has to go to the training course. I asked if the training could be moved forward and why, to be told no. Why does this training trump my meeting? It just adds to the feeling of him not giving a damn. I felt like walking out to be honest.

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AmelieSummer25 · 16/06/2025 17:29

Annoying.

youve made sure everyone is available & hes hijacjed that! 🤬

However, generally shortening a meeting isn't a bad thing! Prioritise the agenda & either meet after the training again or complete on zoom/via email.

If it made you angry/annoyed/frustrated/upset enough to make you want to walk out, it sounds like you don't think he values or respects you/your position. Either you need to discuss this with him/senior management or start looking around for a new job.

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Ilovepastafortea · 16/06/2025 17:15

Rather insensitive of your manager, but without knowing what your meeting was about it's possible that the training trumps your meeting as more important.

I'm a Civil Servant & often a directive comes from Whitehall. Govt has introduced a new policy or the High Court has made a decision that means that training needs to be completed by everyone by x date. This trumps everything else.

However, as a manager, I would contact the organiser of the cancelled meeting, explain the situation and try to work out a solution.

steff13 · 16/06/2025 17:13

The training may also hinge on the schedule of the person providing the training. Are there more people attending the training than will attend your meeting?

Gingerbis · 16/06/2025 17:09

TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:53

He didn't even mention the clash before he scheduled in the training. I would have minded a bit less then, but I spend so long on arranging that bloody meeting around everyone's hours and schedule.

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Probably because he wasn’t bloody aware op

it is MANDATORY training

it’s being prioritised

seriously op, just reschedule. If people thinks it important, they will prioritise

saveforthat · 16/06/2025 17:08

CopperWhite · 16/06/2025 16:45

Which is more important to the organisation? Staff training, or discussing whatever you need to discuss at your meeting?

That depends on if it's crucial training like the mandatory stuff you have to do in financial services or equality and diversity nonsense. As everyone else has already said though, it's your manager's decision.

Gingerbis · 16/06/2025 17:07

TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:52

My meeting.

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Hardly the most objective

and your manager thinks otherwise

Gingerbis · 16/06/2025 17:07

“Mandatory”

would indicate it is somewhat important op

jamanbutter · 16/06/2025 17:05

Wow

Beetletweetle · 16/06/2025 17:04

My approach to this is "meeting X is on at x time (deliberately scheduled when everyone is unavailable). If you can't make it send in comments. Decisions made at x meeting are final".

Then make all the decisions on your own and live your life.

HelenWheels · 16/06/2025 17:01

can the meeting start before the training, and carry on after the training. its a win win

JabbaTheBeachHut · 16/06/2025 16:58

TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:56

That's what I've had to do but it really needed longer for the meeting.

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Everyone's a winner then.

And like a PP said, if it's that hard to arrange a meeting, it'll be just as hard to arrange training.

PuppyMonkey · 16/06/2025 16:57

Could your meeting be an email instead? Wink

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TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:56

waltzingparrot · 16/06/2025 16:55

If everyone is there for the training, can you not schedule a short meeting after for your requirements.

That's what I've had to do but it really needed longer for the meeting.

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Hayley1256 · 16/06/2025 16:55

Why has it taken so long to arrange a meeting? I arrange meetings all the time with very busy people and just use scheduling assistant on outlook as it shows me all their diaries at once.

waltzingparrot · 16/06/2025 16:55

If everyone is there for the training, can you not schedule a short meeting after for your requirements.

Viviennemary · 16/06/2025 16:54

TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:52

My meeting.

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But your Manager disagrees. I doubt it been deliberately arranged to sabotage your meeting. But if you feel it has you need to start looking for a new job.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 16/06/2025 16:54

If it's hard to arrange a meeting, it's going to be just as hard to arrange staff training, which an organisation is always going to see as more important.

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TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:53

AnSolas · 16/06/2025 16:52

What is your meeting for?
And why has everyone got to do the training at the same time?

Your manager is in charge of the ranking of the scheduled work.
As Gingerbis points out your manager out ranks you when it comes to scheduling so there is little you can do other than make sure you meeting agenda being deferred becomes your managers responsibility if it creates problems later.

Imo If you fee undervalued to the extent that your want to walk out on the spot its time to start job hunting as there is little chance of you having good work relationship.

He didn't even mention the clash before he scheduled in the training. I would have minded a bit less then, but I spend so long on arranging that bloody meeting around everyone's hours and schedule.

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AnSolas · 16/06/2025 16:52

What is your meeting for?
And why has everyone got to do the training at the same time?

Your manager is in charge of the ranking of the scheduled work.
As Gingerbis points out your manager out ranks you when it comes to scheduling so there is little you can do other than make sure you meeting agenda being deferred becomes your managers responsibility if it creates problems later.

Imo If you fee undervalued to the extent that your want to walk out on the spot its time to start job hunting as there is little chance of you having good work relationship.

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TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:52

CopperWhite · 16/06/2025 16:45

Which is more important to the organisation? Staff training, or discussing whatever you need to discuss at your meeting?

My meeting.

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Gingerbis · 16/06/2025 16:45

TreatTreat · 16/06/2025 16:43

But it means me rescheduling this hard to schedule meeting yet again. I feel he's disrespecting my time and my plans.

Well then raise this with him in a professional non emotional manner op

CopperWhite · 16/06/2025 16:45

Which is more important to the organisation? Staff training, or discussing whatever you need to discuss at your meeting?

HelpMeGetThrough · 16/06/2025 16:44

The manager has decided that the mandatory training is more important than the meeting you scheduled, so did what someone more senior can do.

HelenWheels · 16/06/2025 16:44

frustrating!
and start again op

Poopeepoopee · 16/06/2025 16:44

Gingerbis · 16/06/2025 16:41

Bloody hell op

It trumps your meeting because someone more senior thinks it does. End of.

Yes this.

Meetings are a load of bollocks anyway.