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To ask if you had your time again would you make the same family decisions

59 replies

Fragmentedbrain · 16/06/2025 16:13

Who/if you married
Whether or not you had kids
How you managed your adult relationships with siblings/parents

OP posts:
FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 16/06/2025 16:37

I wouldn’t have had children.

HiRen · 16/06/2025 16:37

I would have had one more child. I didn’t realise how short the young years are, and how quickly it all passes.

NoThankYouSis · 16/06/2025 16:36

Yes

TheNightSurgeon · 16/06/2025 16:35

I would have cut my mother out long before I did.

I was in an abusive marriage but I wouldn't have had my kids if I wasn't so overall I would have gone through that again to get my kids.

I would have pushed harder when I knew something was wrong in one of my pregnancies rather than being patronised, and then my poor dd wouldn't have suffered through the two weeks she lived for. I could have taken on that pain for her.

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 16/06/2025 16:35

I would have parented differently as dd turned out late diagnosed autistic and had loads of anxiety as a result. I would have used different techniques if I'd known. But we have talked about this and she understands I was only doing what I was advised at the time. She is 19 now and we are very close but her mid teens were very very hard.

heavenisaplaceonearth · 16/06/2025 16:32

I wish I’d worked harder for my sibling relationships but my husband and children are all I could ever want.

Ponderingwindow · 16/06/2025 16:30

I dated my now husband briefly , but broke up with him largely because of bad timing. I ended up marrying someone else and divorcing relatively quickly.

in some ways, I wish I could turn back time and just have stayed with my DH. Yet, would I be the same person? I did have some great experiences with my XH. Not every moment was bad. Overall I do land on wishing DH and I had those extra years together.

Gingerbis · 16/06/2025 16:25

I would have done absolutely everything the same

FutureCatMum · 16/06/2025 16:20

I would do everything the same. Even what later turned out to be difficult situations. That’s what’s made me who I am. Regret is pointless.