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In light of Montessori carer found guilty today of cruelty to think cctv should be in all nurseries

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Sunshineandoranges · 16/06/2025 16:07

I just read about the ongoing cruelty of the Montessori nurse convicted today. I realise that any recording of children has to be kept away from paedophiles but would it be safer to have ongoing recording of little children to be reviewed by managers weekly to check what’s going on. The mums and dads of those little children will be heartbroken and the poor little kids didn’t deserve to be abused. Has she been on cctv, this abuser would have been stopped much sooner.

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TempestTost · 17/06/2025 10:42

What others have said I agree with, but honestly I just don't think I could stand to work being watched all day.

user101101 · 17/06/2025 10:22

i don’t think it’s the answer really. There are always blind spots you can hide in, all you’ll get is a false sense of security

who will fund them? I was fortunate enough to have an excellent nursery, but spare money wasn’t something they had. They put it into great staff

MNdrama · 17/06/2025 06:29

YANBU re. the title

However, YABU saying things like "I realise that any recording of children has to be kept away from paedophiles..."

Ridiculous comment. Probably time to stop reading Facebook and the Daily Mail

Ketzele · 16/06/2025 22:33

This was local to me, so a lot of coverage. I feel sorry for the nursery, and it's important to note that it was colleagues who reported her. It was a well-regarded nursery, and I don't think we should assume other staff were negligent. It sounds as though a lot of the abuse was tiny movements that could easily be missed by others - scratching and pinching etc.

I don't know about CCTV. It's useful evidence but it doesn't address the core problems, does it? My youngest and her GCSE-dodging mates are currently all being pushed towards childcare and elderly care, as the favoured destinations for 'girls who can't do anything else' . Don't get me started on the ways our society has disemboweled life opportunities for non-academic kids, but it is such a disaster for our caring services to staff them with badly-paid youngsters.

My eldest went to an inner city Montessori which was safe and non-plastic and so, so cold ("your daughter has been doing interesting work today with lentils and a spoon, Mrs Ketzele"). My youngest was lucky to go to a local pre-school that was actually set up in the 70s as a feminist project to support working mothers. It was a bit ramshackle but all the staff were middle-aged, it had long roots in the local community and was deeply loved. No pretensions, no fancy facilities, no interest in bestowing early academic advantage, no teenagers.

You can't just magic places like that up - there are reasons why it could work and not go bankrupt (mainly, I think,because the staff had often been mums there themselves, and also because it's an affluent area so I'm guessing many could cope with low pay and worked there for the love of it). And yes, they could also have got unlucky with a staff member, as did the nursery down the road. But I think older, experienced staff are much more of an obstacle to a potential abuser.

Poopeepoopee · 16/06/2025 22:26

It's a good job they managed to stop her - if she'd have carried on, god knows what she would have done.

Be interesting to see what sentence she gets.

Mysterian · 16/06/2025 22:17

CCTV that parents can log on and watch?
Firstly, is it going to be more secure than top secret government sites that get hacked constantly? No.
Secondly, we've had many parents (Dads) that female members of staff say "talk to their chests" on handovers. How can we be sure that they're not logging on to wank at the sight of young staff bending over or whatever?

Lots of dodgy staff are out there looking after children because there just aren't enough good ones to go round. We need more staff!

Maybemummyfet · 16/06/2025 21:54

I worked at a pre school years ago and had to report the manager on 2 occasions. The first was because she was neglecting a child with severe ASD and making her distressed and then she had a disagreement with a different parent and made a malicious report about witnessing them harming the child and also other serious allegations. The parent had a full CP investigation and was traumatised I reported and it was investigated but nothing was done, the manager was then out of control and just hateful to parents and children that in the end the pre school had to shut as they only had about 4 children left and couldn’t carry on .

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/06/2025 21:52

Yanbu, I'm surprised it isnt already. Cctv should be mandatory for all people who cant advocate for themselves 🥺

MandarinCat · 16/06/2025 21:51

legoplaybook · 16/06/2025 19:58

Where does it end though?
Nursery staff and children have to accept being viewable by essentially anyone (nursery parents and any friends or family they give the details to)
should we have CCTV in every classroom and care home too and just make it all publicly viewable at all times?

No, not in classrooms as the kids aren't non verbal.

MidnightPatrol · 16/06/2025 21:49

I’m just amazed it was possible, given the level of staffing with children of this age.

It raises broader questions about the level of care / interest at these nurseries.

And tbh of course all nurseries should be top notch, but this one is part of a well known education group with prep schools targeted at wealthy people… and this suggests their ‘offer’ is absolute crap really doesn’t it.

MandarinCat · 16/06/2025 21:48

Thatsalineallright · 16/06/2025 18:44

Except children have nappy changes etc.

Yes, I said in an earlier post you wouldn't want it in changing areas.

MandarinCat · 16/06/2025 21:47

Helpingabit · 16/06/2025 17:53

CCTV is a really tricky one ….

as a member of school staff , I would be very uncomfortable with a system where parents could log in and watch- however I would actually welcome a system where classrooms where recorded , and the headteacher could view should an incident occur. I also think it would help with more challenging behaviour, if the child knew that eventually mum could see the behaviour in class or that they couldn’t get away with poor behaviour carried out when the teacher wasn’t looking.

if it was done carefully it could support staff and pupils…

I don't think it would be needed for family to log in unless it was non verbal babies or adults.

DiscoBob · 16/06/2025 21:19

I don't see why there isn't. I would want it if my kid was there.
That awful woman did it knowing the cameras were there though?

legoplaybook · 16/06/2025 19:58

MandarinCat · 16/06/2025 17:18

What would nefarious reasons be for watching fully clothed children playing though? Like they could do in any park?
I think it would keep children safer if workers knew they could be watched. Children's safety has to be the first priority.

Where does it end though?
Nursery staff and children have to accept being viewable by essentially anyone (nursery parents and any friends or family they give the details to)
should we have CCTV in every classroom and care home too and just make it all publicly viewable at all times?

Sirzy · 16/06/2025 19:40

I think what is needed is for everyone working with children to not be scared to report concerns. Even minor things need to be documented and reported incase they build part of a bigger picture.

too often people have a “wouldn’t happen here” mentality and let things go, or don’t want to risk rocking the boat. But sometimes the boat needs rocking. It could happen anywhere and everyone working with young people need to be aware of that.

I reported someone when I was in a voluntary role working with young people. My concerns were brushed under the carpet. The concerns of other volunteers were brushed under the carpet. A year later he was in prision for serious offences against children. I left that organisation straight away!

nomas · 16/06/2025 19:10

Absolutely shocking, she was hurting them for the sake of hurting them

Like Lucy Letby in many ways.

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 16/06/2025 18:45

Shinyandnew1 · 16/06/2025 18:41

would it be safer to have ongoing recording of little children to be reviewed by managers weekly to check what’s going on.

How much more per day would you pay for a nursery that had a network of cctv plus a manager that had the time to watch all the footage?!

That’s what I thought too!

Thatsalineallright · 16/06/2025 18:44

MandarinCat · 16/06/2025 17:18

What would nefarious reasons be for watching fully clothed children playing though? Like they could do in any park?
I think it would keep children safer if workers knew they could be watched. Children's safety has to be the first priority.

Except children have nappy changes etc.

Shinyandnew1 · 16/06/2025 18:41

would it be safer to have ongoing recording of little children to be reviewed by managers weekly to check what’s going on.

How much more per day would you pay for a nursery that had a network of cctv plus a manager that had the time to watch all the footage?!

Helpingabit · 16/06/2025 17:53

CCTV is a really tricky one ….

as a member of school staff , I would be very uncomfortable with a system where parents could log in and watch- however I would actually welcome a system where classrooms where recorded , and the headteacher could view should an incident occur. I also think it would help with more challenging behaviour, if the child knew that eventually mum could see the behaviour in class or that they couldn’t get away with poor behaviour carried out when the teacher wasn’t looking.

if it was done carefully it could support staff and pupils…

Sunshineandoranges · 16/06/2025 17:35

I think I agree with people saying it wouldn’t work. It would be off putting for staff. I had a bad childminder and for years felt really guilty at the injury my child got in her poor care.Most nurseries are safe. Just so sad for the families and little children involved.

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MandarinCat · 16/06/2025 17:18

FanofLeaves · 16/06/2025 17:05

Yes but that’s putting a hell of a lot of trust into everyone’s family members that they’re not watching other people’s children for nefarious reasons.
plus as a childcare worker I wouldn’t work somewhere where I could be watched whenever anyone pleased. I worked for a toddler once, I was told there was cctv but not about the absolute micromanaging that would come with it as a result of someone being able to tune into my working day constantly.

What would nefarious reasons be for watching fully clothed children playing though? Like they could do in any park?
I think it would keep children safer if workers knew they could be watched. Children's safety has to be the first priority.

Beetletweetle · 16/06/2025 17:15

YankSplaining · 16/06/2025 16:24

“Reviewed by managers weekly” - I understand that some of this abuse was the carer pinching and scratching toddlers. Someone would have to watch all the footage very closely to make sure that wasn’t happening. Who has the time to watch a whole week’s worth of footage closely, and who’s paying for them to watch it?

I think what people really need is a society in which very young children are being cared for in smaller settings by a trusted adult, as opposed to in institutionalized childcare.

You're making nursery sounds like a prison block. My dc's nursery was staffed by a group of women who have worked there for 20 odd years, are very trusted and remain my dc's lives 8 years later. Certainly they have more contact and have had a better input into my dc's lives than any of their grandparents or other family members.

MugsyBalonz · 16/06/2025 17:09

legoplaybook · 16/06/2025 16:35

There was CCTV in that nursery.
It was used at the trial.

There was CCTV at the nursery where a baby was murdered recently.

CCTV doesn't stop abuse, it just creates evidence.

Exactly this.

What's needed is safe staffing ratios, ongoing vetting and evaluation of staff, and robust reporting procedures alongside investigation frameworks so that concerns about staff can be reported and - crucially - acted upon.