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Fathers Day weekend disasters

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BeWittyTurtle · 16/06/2025 10:13

I’ll try to keep it brief but it may still be a long one…

Other half was taking his kids (older teens) to a football tournament about an hour away yesterday, and going to see his parents on the way back. He said he wouldn’t be home until about 5pm.

He told me he’s never had a decent Father’s Day before so while I told him I’d use the way to write an assignment, I actually set about deep cleaning and decluttering the kitchen/diner and cooking a roast from scratch, complete with homemade apple sauce and gravy (not bragging, just telling you so it shows the time taken). He always knew about the roast and had picked what he wanted for it.

For context on the decluttering, it’s been like that since I moved in a year ago. On Saturday we went to a friends bbq at their beautiful home and on the way back he said he loves hosting and he’s missing that part of himself, he just can’t host with the house as it is.

while he was out, he text at 2pm saying they’re coming back early. I said no, you can’t… then there were several texts saying he’s dropping his kids back then, what’s going on etc. I said ‘it’s Father’s Day….just wait and see 😊’.

5pm he came in, I was making cheese sauce and he grumpily said ‘aren’t you going to give me a cuddle’. I explained I’m just in the middle of the sauce and will do in a second.

He then complained about the roast almost being ready and that because I said not to come back until 5 (the time he said he’d be back!) they got a McDonald’s and weren’t hungry.

when we eventually sat for dinner, he had a go at me for moving his things (done carefully so they weren’t out of any order). He had such a go we all ate in silence. He then said he can’t store things under the stairs because ‘it’s a mess’. I reminded him the storage isn’t a mess but we all have to put our coats on top because he has so many jackets hanging up.

I made myself scarce for the rest of the evening. When I went to bed he started on about it all again, said he must be imagining things or maybe I’m confused about things. He then started reading a book on how to win arguments- I kid you not.

for further context, on Friday he came back from a work day drunk, said he’s never shaken my hand before. I am a left handed so without thinking put my left forward. He said I am so entitled thinking the right handed who are on the majority should yield to me. I said it’s not like that, I’m just left handed, I did it without thinking. He said ‘I don’t need this shit,’ then walked off before shouting ‘I don’t need this shit!’ and slamming a door.

i can’t bring up Fridays events and Sundays with him as he will say they’re different events, not to be joined together and I was fine on Saturday. If I tell him how it’s all making me feel he’ll stop me and say to give specific examples as just saying how I feel isn’t helpful.

AIBU?

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NoSoupForU · 16/06/2025 10:30

I think he sounds a twat.

But I wouldn't appreciate anyone just going through my things and unilaterally deciding what I should keep or throw away.

Coconutter24 · 16/06/2025 10:26

So we can act an arse on a Friday and Sunday and no one can ask us about it because we behaved Saturday?

Of course you can ask him about both days! If he says they are separate events then you say but it was twice in one weekend

WhereIsMyLight · 16/06/2025 10:23

Yet another demonstration that the bar for men is in hell.

Just as an aside - do you have kids with him or does he just have his older teens from a different woman? If you don’t have kids with him, why the fuck are you doing anything for him on Father’s Day? His kids are old enough to do something for him and if he’s never had a good day, I’d suggest it’s that his kids don’t feel that he’s a great dad (backed up based on this thread).

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 16/06/2025 10:22

There’s clearly no way of getting through to someone like this.

You need to get rid of him OP.

purplecorkheart · 16/06/2025 10:15

Why are you with this man?