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Family holiday

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Roxy75 · 15/06/2025 20:41

Feeling like a 3rd wheel on a family holiday. On holiday with my partner and 3 of his family members. I paid for one of them to come with us. He’s been cold with me and I’m feeling like I can’t do a thing right. Lonely as hell but not much longer to go. He told me yesterday he doesn’t give a shit how I’m feeling but later apologised. Feeling like what the hell. I’m a total doormat!

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Jellycatspyjamas · 15/06/2025 23:33

Who are the family members? Adults or kids - that would make a difference in where his priorities lie ie I’d expect kids to take the priority on holiday.

Endofyear · 15/06/2025 23:19

What a tosser! I'd ignore him now and bin him when you get home.

Productiveweek · 15/06/2025 21:38

Guessing you didn’t get together this weekend

Springadorable · 15/06/2025 20:57

Yeah this would end the relationship for me. I'd probably limp through the remainder if his family are nice and just sunbathe or whatever, but as soon as we got back it would be over.

BakelikeBertha · 15/06/2025 20:50

Cross posted with your update OP. It seems that it's your partner that is the problem, not the way he is when he's with them. My advice still stands!

BakelikeBertha · 15/06/2025 20:48

Have you ever spent much time with these family members prior to the holiday OP, ie, were you aware of the dynamic they have, whereby you end up feeling left out? Having said what he has, I'm afraid I would really struggle to want to continue a relationship with your partner, as while he may have apologised, he clearly DOESN'T give a shit about your feelings. People don't say things like that if they don't mean them, and only apologise because they realise that what they've said is going to cause THEM a problem, so they apologise in the hope that YOU will forgive and forget, but in the moment, that was how he felt.

My advice? DUMP HIM and go home!

Original poster
Roxy75 · 15/06/2025 20:45

They are lovely. He has been deliberately excluding me, not sitting by me and just making me feel awful. Usually we never stop chatting but now it’s silence. Can’t go home as abroad and not long left. He says they are his priority. Not sure how I feel about this comment

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Moveoverdarlin · 15/06/2025 20:43

If someone said ‘I don’t give a shit how you’re feeling’ I would walk. Whether that was a partner, a boss, anyone. No one has talked to me like that in my life. I just would not have it.

MadamCholetsbonnet · 15/06/2025 20:42

Are you abroad? Can you just come home?

Springadorable · 15/06/2025 20:41

Can you just go home? Or go off and do your own thing? Is it just your husband being a dick or are the family being off too?