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Family holiday

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Roxy75 · 15/06/2025 20:41

Feeling like a 3rd wheel on a family holiday. On holiday with my partner and 3 of his family members. I paid for one of them to come with us. He’s been cold with me and I’m feeling like I can’t do a thing right. Lonely as hell but not much longer to go. He told me yesterday he doesn’t give a shit how I’m feeling but later apologised. Feeling like what the hell. I’m a total doormat!

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CountryVic · 25/07/2025 12:38

Well done!

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Roxy75 · 25/07/2025 01:04

Thank you. It’s been hard but I know I’ll be ok x

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wizzler · 25/07/2025 00:23

Honestly you have done the right thing. Better to end it now. Read your early posts if you start to wobble

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Roxy75 · 24/07/2025 23:08

I ended things with him this morning. He was not himself and wasn’t sure where his head was at. I deserve more so called it a day. I’ve been so upset the past few days and the hurt is so bad. I know I’ll be ok in the end x

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Clearinguptheclutter · 11/07/2025 09:00

You need to end this op.

ShortColdandGrey · 11/07/2025 07:43

Oh well, as long as you love him it is ok for him to treat you like shit 🙄

Thatslife234 · 10/07/2025 19:48

Cut this off now OP. You deserve better. I wouldn't be paying for his child either. Are you sure he couldn't afford it or was he just all too happy for you to foot the bill.

BournardTourney · 10/07/2025 19:47

Don’t waste any more time with him. He is an archetype, I have come across at least two of them in my life so far. Obsessed with “their family” which never ever includes anyone who has married into it.

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Roxy75 · 10/07/2025 19:42

I love him and I get what you all say but I’m hoping it all works out

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Sparklebelle1024 · 10/07/2025 19:37

I was stuck with a now ex partner in Tenerife, it was just him and I and the kids. It was a HARD holiday. Broke up the second we got home from the airport, have never looked back. Hang in there and I’d definitely be leaving him because he doesn’t value you at all

Gemmawemma9 · 10/07/2025 19:37

OP why are you letting him treat you like a doormat. Being alone is better than this, I promise you! Pleasing yourself, no walking on eggshells, having some bloody self worth and dignity! Honestly get rid.
Do you have family?

Fluffyholeysocks · 10/07/2025 19:34

So......is that it?? You didn't dump him after the way he treated you?

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 10/07/2025 19:32

Raise your bar op. He has let you feel shit about yourself for weeks.

Aren't you worth more?

Hatty65 · 10/07/2025 19:29

Don't settle for being treated like this.

End the relationship - you can do better.

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Roxy75 · 10/07/2025 19:25

Update, we are still together. Not even sure how he feels about me. He puts Love you on his good night messages but don’t think his actions match up.

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CountryVic · 29/06/2025 05:36

How did it go? I’m with the other posters, hope you ended it, he sounds terribly selfish xx

Swiftie1878 · 20/06/2025 11:58

Roxy75 · 20/06/2025 09:46

He’s popping round this morning. I was back in work yesterday and in the morning his messages were minimal and by the evening he was more how I know him. He’s popping round in about half an hour. Am I on a one way ticket to dumpsville, population me?? I’ll let you know….

Having been treated the way you were, why aren’t you the one reconsidering your relationship rather than waiting for him to dump you?
If you stay together, you need a bloody good explanation for why he was so foul to you on YOUR holiday!

Member984815 · 20/06/2025 11:56

I'd text him back and say it's not working out , then i'd probably block him. If he treats you like this in front of his family members it doesn't bode well for a future relationship. He'll try to win you back but it'll be the same everytime . There's someone better out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve

honeylulu · 20/06/2025 11:51

Why why why are you waiting for him to dump you? And what will you do if he doesn't? Just let him carry on treating you like crap, taking your money and wrecking your holidays?

Tell him not to bother coming round. The relationship isn't working and you don't wish to continue it, then block. You don't need to explain anything else. He knows exactly how badly he's behaved towards you.

Better luck with the next one. You're a good person, value yourself more highly!

SamDeanCas · 20/06/2025 11:50

Roxy75 · 20/06/2025 09:46

He’s popping round this morning. I was back in work yesterday and in the morning his messages were minimal and by the evening he was more how I know him. He’s popping round in about half an hour. Am I on a one way ticket to dumpsville, population me?? I’ll let you know….

I think you should be dumping him

5foot5 · 20/06/2025 11:03

Incidentally I am still slightly confused who was on this holiday. Was it the partner of his adult child and their child, i.e. his grandchild, and also your DPs youngest child? If so, is there any reason why his adult child didn't come away with their partner and child?

5foot5 · 20/06/2025 11:00

MadamCholetsbonnet · 20/06/2025 10:32

Why haven’t you dumped him already? Where’s your self esteem?

This in spades.

You should be texting him to say there's not much point in him coming round this morning as you can't see any future in this relationship

MadamCholetsbonnet · 20/06/2025 10:32

Why haven’t you dumped him already? Where’s your self esteem?

Gymnopedie · 20/06/2025 10:24

Roxy75 · 20/06/2025 09:46

He’s popping round this morning. I was back in work yesterday and in the morning his messages were minimal and by the evening he was more how I know him. He’s popping round in about half an hour. Am I on a one way ticket to dumpsville, population me?? I’ll let you know….

Seconded, you dump him.

Remember how you felt on that holiday. Remember the things he said and did. He's shown you how little he thinks of you.

He dropped you on holiday, don't let him think he can just pick you up again now and carry on like it never happened.

luckylavender · 20/06/2025 09:47

Roxy75 · 20/06/2025 09:46

He’s popping round this morning. I was back in work yesterday and in the morning his messages were minimal and by the evening he was more how I know him. He’s popping round in about half an hour. Am I on a one way ticket to dumpsville, population me?? I’ll let you know….

Dump him first