My dd will be turning 18 very soon. In an ideal world I would love to hold a family get-together involving my mum/dad, brother and his family along with my dh's sister her family and dh's dad.
However dh and his Dad had a big bust up about 6 months ago which has been brewing over the years, they haven't spoken since. Dh dad also hasn't contacted his granddaughter during this time.
I do not want any animosity at my dds birthday celebration. We asked dd what she would like to do and she said a meal out with myself and dh. She has also invited along my mum and dad. My dd is extremely close to her Grandma and sees her weekly.
I feel bad for not inviting the rest of the family along but I refuse to have any tension spoiling my dds special day. I don't want to be obviously leaving out her other Grandad because that is just cruel, so that means not inviting Auntie and Uncle's too. Everyone is now aware this meal is happening. My brothers family will be totally fine about not being invited but dhs family will not be okay and yes I do understand why. It's causing me so much worry and is spoiling what is a huge milestone for me too.
Anyone else been in a similar situation?