Some mums need to cop on!

My friend did this for her daughter yesterday.

4 21/22year old girls/young women sharing a house & needed BOTH her parents to go & clean & mow the lawn etc

🙄🙄

Because they are enabling it, and many times actively encouraging it. That's why.

Why mums? Why not say
parents? You’re another one perpetuating sexist stereotypes that the responsibility lies solely with women.

Totally agree that the son should do it. My daughter has just finished her 3rd year and room and shared space left totally cleaned. However mum has probably a deposit on hold pending final inspection and wanted to make sure she gets it back!

I am going to be ‘that poster’.

My ex husband and I have taken turns over the past three years to help our son with going into halls, different houses and literally this week, returning with all his worldly goods. He is autistic and just gets overwhelmed and asks us to help. We have both cleaned and helped him with routines.

I help willingly as does his dad. And I hope when he meets someone they are tolerant and understanding that he brings certain things to the party and certain things he struggles with.

Mum’s need to raise all children to be useful members of society.

Doing things for them like this does no favours however of last year cost her financially due to his lack of cleanliness I can see why she did it.

So I’m plonking my arse firmly on fence re this exact situation but I 100% agree with your sentiment!

My DD's boyfriends parents don't even buy him any food when he is home for the weekend let alone cook for him which I think is the other extreme

He came back from holiday with DD and they told him to take his washing with him back to uni!! I think that's harsh with only a washer dryer in a flat I did it for him

Maybe speak to his mum? I imagine it's her fault he's like that, right? Cos if his bad behaviour isn't your fault, it must be his mum's. It can't be his of course.

Could it be that the parents are paying his rent and want to ensure they get their deposit back at the end of his tenancy?

Or they may be wanting to make sure he keeps the room for when he returns in September?

Either way, I couldn’t get worked up about this at all.

Disloyal to the rest of us women and mothers by running around after her adult son like this! A man's womsn through and through. Ugh!

I did it willingly for my DD, to be fair she was doing it as well, I was very resentful about the other girls and their parents.

DH and I have had to help both our DD clean their university flats when they left because their other flatmate leaving before them and not cleaning any of the shared spaces in the flat. Mouldy food left in fridges/freezers and toiletries left in bathrooms. We also took stuff flatmates left to the dump as DC didn’t have a car. All the wheelie bins were full of other flatmates rubbish too. Otherwise our DC would have lost their deposit.

Wish my DD had been in a share with you, I was just as disgusted with the parents who saw me cleaning up their daughters mess and left me to it. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

My gran was a landlady, she let rooms to working men, usually Irish labourers. She said she ,would never let to women again because they were so messy so just let to men. She was a proud Presbyterian but the local Catholic Priest would bring young men just off the boat to her, she once ended up with 4 in one room as they were so desperate. They were always clean and tidy.

Well probably because it's the women who insist on doing it. When was the last time you heard a dad say..."don't worry son, I'll come on down and help you clean and pack"? My guess is never.

Having children is a two person job. Both parents should be raising the child equally.

So you know exactly what it’s like to have a father wash his hands of all responsibility, and yet you are criticising a woman who is in the same situation.

I imagine he came home to his mother's house to find all of his pants ironed and put in a nice pile on his washed bedding. His favourite snacks in the fridge and his dressing gown freshly washed.

My mum would have done this for me at uni, willingly, without me asking!

I heard similar about girls

We were a house of 7 girls. I moved out early as I started FT work and moved in with DP (now DH). However the last week before everyone finished I asked when they wanted me back to give a hand cleaning the shared spaces. They'd already done it between the remaining 6 of them. To be fair though we were in that house for two years. When it came to deciding if we were staying after the first year we had some work done. Then we had an email from the landlord asking if he didn't put the rent up would we consider staying the next year. He said it was the cleanest of his student houses.

@BrickHare I do agree with you that fathers should also be responsible for instilling the right values in children which is all the more reason for us all to raise sons to be good men so they can do that

Can't believe you let him do that

Can’t you just be happy that he has a loving mum? Not everything is a competition.

But that truth is your daughter’s perception… especially if you have raised her to have the same views as your own. How old are you? You sound very young/immature with all the laughing emojis and thought process.