Is gentle parenting effective

If you know that people will tell you that that's not gentle parenting (because it isn't), why would you post something you know to be inaccurate? 🤔

People also love to think it was soooo much better int their day, and everyone is so awful nowadays.

On a whole variety of topics….!

Is it effective? Based on my experience of my kids- it’s absolutely fantastic! I couldn’t be prouder of how they are turning out 🥰

Proper gentle parenting has done incredible things for DD and for us as parents. Proper gentle parenting is respectful and firm and uses the traditional meaning of "discipline" - to teach.

Just shouting at your children or allowing yourself to lose your shit is just as lazy and ineffective as permissive parenting.

Some individuals parenting is effective, other individuals parenting is not.

Thinking across my friends, they are all very clear with boundaries for their children, they say no, they are told off and so on… but all also make the effort for their children to understand what they are doing wrong, they aren’t in the habit of shouting, reacting emotionally, or physically restraining and endlessly disciplining their children over petty infractions.

I think a lot of children of eg the 80s would say their parents were unnecessarily disciplinarian, never considered their feelings / treated them as individuals etc.

If you think gentle parenting doesn’t have boundaries then you have NO idea what gentle parenting actually is.

Its true name is authoritative parenting , and it’s entirely about setting boundaries and having natural and logical consequences.

Most people are like you and don’t understand what it is, confusing it with permissive parenting.

Lots of 'gentle' parents seem to be producing quite precocious children, sadly. Too much debating and creating a friendship as opposed to actual parenting. Of course there will be someone along to say 'that's not gentle parenting'. 😬🫣

This post should be bookmarked at the top of every thread on gentle parenting.

Another thread that (possibly deliberately) confuses gentle parenting with boundary-less parenting.

People just want to criticise other parents.

True gentle parenting means setting firm boundaries in a calm and respectful manner. It is much harder to do than the IMO lazy, lose your shit parenting that often results in DC that don't know how to manage their emotions and ignore requests unless screamed at them. If you don't know what something is, you should Google it before starting a thread about it.

What is the difference in gently parenting or letting children getting away with everything?

From the people i speak to about 'gentle parenting' no 2 people agree on what it is

If it means spending 20 minutes telling a child why they should stop doing something rather than 'no' then no i dont do it, but i don't shout or hit so not sure

Gentle parenting does have boundaries and responses. Perhaps you are thinking of neglectful, ineffective or permissive parenting?

Gentle parenting is just working with your DCs emotions. Not shaming them unnecessarily.

I think you have to be specific about what you’ve seen that you think doesn’t work, rather than criticising ‘gentle parenting’ while we might not all agree what that is.