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Do you look at your vulva in the mirror?

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ThatNimblePeer · 14/06/2025 23:12

Apologies in advance for TMI:

Early 40s and have only recently started doing this. My orgasms have become so crap and from googling I wonder if it’s that my clitoris is shrinking (yes, apparently this can happen). I can’t actually see anything that is obviously a clitoris in the mirror, but since I wasn’t looking back when my orgasms were good I don’t know whether that’s a change or not - perhaps it’s just never been particularly obviously visible? Been having a search on mumsnet to see what advice exists from previous threads, and there are several from posters who state with complete confidence that their clitoris has shrunk, so presumably they’re used to looking at themselves in the mirror, otherwise I can’t really see how you’d know for sure that crap orgasms were due to that? Am I a weirdo for now having looked at my vulva in a mirror till recently? Is this something most women do?

YABU - it’s normal to look in the mirror
YANBU - I never have either

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BrickHare · 15/06/2025 00:46

ThatNimblePeer · 14/06/2025 23:21

Thanks for the replies. No I’m not very good about being regular with pelvic floor exercises, I know I should do them and in the past it has helped when I do. Previous threads also seemed to recommend B vitamins. But I do also worry that it’s just shrinking, it’s a bit unnerving to look in the mirror and see nothing.

Your clit isn’t going to shrink away into nothing, don’t be ridiculous. Suggest you go to see your nurse for advice instead of looking at threads from MN for information, you honestly don’t know who they are or if they are even women.

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ThatNimblePeer · 14/06/2025 23:21

Thanks for the replies. No I’m not very good about being regular with pelvic floor exercises, I know I should do them and in the past it has helped when I do. Previous threads also seemed to recommend B vitamins. But I do also worry that it’s just shrinking, it’s a bit unnerving to look in the mirror and see nothing.

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Picklechicken · 14/06/2025 23:17

I wouldn’t waste time looking to be honest. It’s bound to look different to when you were younger. I haven’t looked at mine in many years…! Just get some estriol cream and use it consistently internally and externally. It makes a huge difference to vaginal atropy and thinning of the vaginal tissues.

FloraBotticelli · 14/06/2025 23:15

You can’t know if your clitoris has shrunk from looking in the mirror - a lot of it is inside your body.

Didimum · 14/06/2025 23:14

More likely your pelvic floor is weakening with age. Causes weak orgasms. Do you do your kegels?

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