Do you look at your vulva in the mirror?

Do you have a DP who could look? If you regularly have oral sex they would be able to see a difference.

As you say I suspect most of us feel that way when having to see a GP regarding anything genital.

I'm sure it's all in a day's work for them, that's my thinking.

Probably should but I don’t unless it’s sore or I can feel something amiss down there.

Yes it can shrink and is more common in meno than people think. I have read that for some people a low dose of testosterone can help in addition to topical oestrogen. Good luck op. Go and see your doctor and discuss this as it can be helped.

Seems you need some anatomy lessons: The vast majority of the clitoris is inside your body - you can't see it. And not being able to see much of it on the outside of your body is entirely normal, especially when someone isn't aroused!
If you're really concerned then go see your GP or whichever person at your practice deals with sexual health issues.

If you haven't been doing pelvic floor exercises then that likely gives you the answer you need. You're also approaching the age whereby hormonal changes happen - that will have far more to do with sex drive and abilities in that area than the actual "size" of your clitoris.

A few years ago I was put into menopause by solace’s and within 2-3 months I lost ask the padding on my clitoris. I started on oestrigel (?) and it really helped to stop anything going worse but it still feels a bit like an electric shock if there is too much pressure. Defo worth going to the gp, atrophy can’t really be undone.

Please see your GP asap for HRT and estrogen cream.

Your labia and clitoris will shrink. Saw an IG post about it, was news to me. Got myself on HRT following that.

I don't look at it in a mirror but I know what it feels like iykwim. 😉

I'd notice a change by feeling it more than looking at it. (No change btw)

@FlexiLime

thanks , luckily I don't suffer too
much with it , but I'm 40 now so that could change

Lichen sclerosis is such a bugger, I’m sorry you have to struggle with that.

Goodness, yes it’s definitely me here 😆

Yes because I have lichen sclerosis and it can cause things to shrink

Actually It can shrink and it can cause problems with having orgasms amongst other things
lack of estrogen is the main culprit but also peri menopause can cause this along with constant utis and external thrust like symptoms without the discharge

the lack of estrogen can mimic cystitis type uti but it won’t show as cystitis if you test

OP I would look in topical estrogen cream but if your sensitive to SLS check the ingredients as ids often used as a compound filler and can cause severe itching & soreness

there’s also a really informative FB page that had lid of ladies and their shrinking clits 😂
It’s called vagina atrophy or something similar but it’s got really good informative intimation
also look up Dr Louise Newson she is a menopause specialist and had written some really good stuff on a shrinking clit

I have looked at it on occasion to check there are no growths or new abnormalities, I think everyone should do that. Cancers can grow anywhere.

What? You think there's nothing down there??

I said don’t be ridiculous, didn’t call her stupid. So suggest you read before commenting in future otherwise you mags yourself look stupid. The op never mentioned anything about menopause so that’s you assuming.

She’s not being ridiculous although it might be hard to see in a mirror, it’s a known symptom of peri-menopause. Best not to call people stupid unless you have the facts.

No why on earth for? It would show nothing

Your clitoris unfortunately can shrink along with your inner labia, sometimes to virtually nothing, and it can affect orgasms. I am having this issue which I’ve discussed with my GP and have had more topical oestrogen added as a result and have been referred to gynae. It’s not made up! I currently can’t orgasm at all. It’s incredibly distressing.

Not meaning to trivialise your thread OP but your thread title just put me in mind of the brilliant scene in Fried Green Tomatoes - one of my favourite films. Which actually, when I first saw it, was a real reassurance that I was normal, having been brought up to feel curiosity about your own body was not a natural thing.

Yes, this does happen. Early 40s seems a bit early, though I have zero knowledge of the degrees of variance among women. In the elderly, clitoral atrophy can cause nasty pain issues - which are incorrectly diagnosed as nobody thinks about an old woman's clitoris!

To head off the hormonal atrophy, use Ovestin cream both in the vagina (the applicator pushes the cream up to the cervix) and then spread some more over the perineum and inside the labia, going up to the clitoris.

Ironically, orgasms also help your clit to stay healthy.

Orgasms are definitely improved by a strong & flexible pelvic floor. We should all be doing Kegels all day, every day (no, I don't either) and most of us could do with a better technique. The one thing that made a huge difference for me, though, was a twice weekly floor Pilates class. For all I know, it might be even better to do Reformer but it's so expensive!

There are pelvic floor training gadgets. No experience to share, but I think I saw a Mumsnet review of them recently.

Yes, your clitoris can, and does shrink due to lack of estrogen.

Make an appointment to see your GP and have a chat to see if HRT cream would be a good starting point.

Not everyone's on FB I know but if you are there's a few good forums that have ladies in the same situation as yourself and lots of useful information.

Get yourself some topical oestrogen is my advice.