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Menopause - how old were you?

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LiquoriceStick · 14/06/2025 20:01

Just that really - I know we're all very different but I wanted to ask, what age did you start menopause (or peri) & then how long after did you totally stop having periods?

I'm 41. Zero symptoms yet, regular periods.

I have Endometriosis and Adenomyosis (yay) and have been offered a hysterectomy. I'd rather wait for my natural menopause than go through surgery for my periods to stop, but realistically how much longer have I got?

OP posts:
WorkingNotTwerking · 16/06/2025 13:30

@familyissues12345 your GP was wrong.

ChaliceinWonderland · 16/06/2025 13:14

53

familyissues12345 · 16/06/2025 13:12

It’s interesting, I’d say I was peri now aged 44 - aching joints, awful periods (flooding), erratic cycle, brain fog - but my GP ruled it out, saying I was too young Confused

My mum was 52 when periods ended

Waitingfordoggo · 16/06/2025 13:03

I started getting perimenopause symptoms at 43. Then periods became very infrequent and irregular. Am on HRT now and I’m 47. Not out the other side just yet.

crossstitchingnana · 16/06/2025 12:57

I noticed more anxiety at 40 and changes like less body hair and menopause was 47. It was then that the flushes, difficulty sleeping, crashingly low libido, palpitations, vaginal dryness etc started.

cryinglaughing · 16/06/2025 06:03

Started at 48.
Last period at 55.
Apart from the odd bout of sleeping problems and a few hot flushes it has been fine.

Flamingoknees · 16/06/2025 05:58
  1. 56 now, it's about 6 months since my last period. Hot flushes are bad at the moment,I keep thinking they've gone. Don't know about peri.
pinkstripeycat · 16/06/2025 05:42

I’m still perimenopausal at 53. Started at around 48. Can’t take HRT as it makes my migraines worse. Have crippling anxiety (never had before) and 2 periods a months. Was on the mini pill for 17 years with no periods so having periods again is not fun.

My sister didn’t have any perimenopausal symptoms and her periods stopped at 52

spoonbillstretford · 16/06/2025 05:36
  1. I was diagnosed with endometrosis at 39.
whatisforteamum · 16/06/2025 05:19

51 symptoms impaired my life.Probably had symptoms before but I never heard of perimenopause.
Flooding periods early 40s though.

BedBathAndBeyonce · 15/06/2025 16:42

Peri symptoms at 44. HRT helping massively with brain fog, incontinence, UTIs, itching, anxiety/dread and insomnia. Still cycling regularly at nearly 47.

Lankyboxx · 15/06/2025 01:48

43

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 15/06/2025 01:35

Menopause at 51.

Peri? Who knows. Everything is peri these days. My periods were awful from early 30s (when I finished having babies) and just got worse and worse until they stopped. I went a bit crackers in my late 40s and I'm sure my hormones didn't help but I was also solo parenting teenagers during lockdown and a toxic, protracted divorce.

bridgetreilly · 15/06/2025 01:32

Menopause is when you stop having periods (for 12 months). I started peri at 40, menopause at 48. Still having symptoms, even with HRT, at 51.

ScruffMuffin · 15/06/2025 01:30

I'm 48 and not in peri yet.

CautiousLurker01 · 15/06/2025 01:09

Not sure when entered peri as didn’t really have any symptoms (that I noticed… DH may disagree). Last period was just before I turned 53. At that point did get the hot flushes, irritability (no fucks to give anyone for anything), sleeplessness and anorgasmia. Started bHRT recently, though (9wks) and do feel better, so would recommend exploring that when the time comes rather than muscling through.

NCTDN · 15/06/2025 00:35

52 and no signs of anything yet. It’s the one part of my body that seems to be young!

duckydoo234 · 15/06/2025 00:33

Peri around 43. THE RAGE, THE RAGE, but otherwise no major physical symptoms that evening primrose didn't deal with. Periods stopped abruptly at 48. On HRT now, some periodic bleeding, but feeling fantastic!

Icebreakhell · 15/06/2025 00:04

52

Before that, periods had been irregular for some years. Few symptoms really, aches and pains, terrible insomnia. Got through it without medication.

FunnysInLaJardin · 15/06/2025 00:03

dead on 50 for peri, but still on the pill at 54 so no idea if I am in full menopause. I assume so though

EachFallenRobin · 14/06/2025 23:58

Menopause at 41. Didn't know I was perimenopausal, just thought my periods were a bit erratic.

WinSomeandLoseSome · 14/06/2025 23:56

Last period at 58. My mum and sisters were about 50. Don’t know why I was so late.

KnottyKnitting · 14/06/2025 23:49

I was prob in peri- menopause for 4 years ( started around 44) The last 18 months I had very large gaps between periods and then they completely stopped at 48.

Missj25 · 14/06/2025 23:48

49 now & peri since 47 , having a shit time at the moment, infact was at doc’s yesterday to change up hrt, I was on estradot patches since March 24 , found them zero help , well sorry, did stop hot flushes , but thought with coil fitted & patches would stop the awful down & out feeling 😔, didn’t though ..
Was put on spray yesterday, so 🤞…

aSpanielintheworks · 14/06/2025 23:45

Periods went haywire and I was on for longer than I was off at 42, last period at 44, I’m now 52 and on HRT because of my age