To be furious about inevitable menopause

Neither my grandmother, mother, sisters, sister in law or myself nor old friends have ever suffered with brain fog, anxiety, insomnia, prolapse or any other ailments that some MAY suffer during g the menopause.

Many of us have no problems, symptoms oe ailments whatsoever.

I hope you’re one of us.

I'm almost 56 and happy to report that neither by brain or pelvic organs have fallen out.

What ! I know literally not one women in a school full of women who have had this problem!

I’m not sure what that means.

First I've heard of it! Just googled and it suggested up to one third of women will experience prolapse at some point in their lifetime. Which is by no means "most". It also states only 10-20% will actually require medical intervention. So I don't think you need to be stocking up on incontinence pads quite yet unless you are actually experiencing symptoms.

I'm slightly older than you and don't have kids either. Still menstruating regularly. Haven't exactly LOVED menstruating so not devastated at the thought of it ending. However, I'm glad I had functioning ovaries so I wasn't deprived of the choice to have or not have children. Would you really have preferred to have no choice on the matter?

"I'm still entitled to be intellectually angry that my brain and professional standing and peaceful relationships will all be taken away from me for no reason."

What the hell?! Where are you getting this shit? I don't know any women who have lost these things as a result of menopause.

I've literally never heard of any woman ending up with a prolapse after menopause and I know a fair few women who are quite happy to discuss menopause symptoms at length.

I haven't even started yet - my periods are like clockwork. More's the pity...

This. You are catastrophising , plenty of women I know get little or no symptoms at all !
I had a. Mirena coil for 10-15 years, no periods, went through the menopause with no symptoms at all .

You need to step away from MN. I'm amazed and depressed on a daily basis reading about the catastrophic horrors of menopause on here (ditto the horrors of childbirth and the 4th trimester, but that's for another thread). It's a different planet to the one I and my friends live on.

Menopause is one of the best things that's ever happened to me - no more periods, no more PMS, no more heavy, sore boobs. Another bonus is I no longer take any crap, particularly from men. and My symptoms weren't severe - a period of hot flushes and some mild insomnia but nothing dramatic. Never any memory/anxiety issues. I'm on HRT patches and feel great in my 60s! I have many friends in their 60s and I can't think of one who had a rough time of it.

Where have you heard that most women end up with prolapse?

No prolapse here, despite two pregnancies. Whoever told you that was wrong.

Because you’re a woman and going through menopause is part of the life for us regardless of whether we’ve had children or not. You say you’ve never been less angry but you do sound angry. One of my first symptoms, not that I realised it at the time, was being irrational. so this could be a symptom for you without you realising. I’m generally fine although do get a bit of brain fog and I feel very hot most of the time which is annoying. Many women get through menopause without too many issues so hopefully you’ll be one of those. See your GP if you want to talk things through, I’d definitely mention what you’ve posted here as I do think your feelings could be part of it. Good luck.

Seriously, OP, it's really not worth worrying about.

Some women sail through it and others don't.

A bit like periods, pregnancy, childbirth, life in general...

It's going to happen whether you like it or not. Ypu can't scare it off by being angry at it 😉

You're all right no point worrying in advance

you can at least inform yourself about the best physical way to deal with it, and start being active in that way now, won't hurt.

I’ve got the implant (nearing 50 now) and have had no period or PMT for 15 years, hope the good times continue through menopause!

Every single emotion, physical sensation or bloody food preference is now met with "oh that will be peri

I find it infuriating, but it's mainly coming from women about themselves, as an excuse more than anything else.

We are our worst enemies: we're aging, so we must all be fat, useless, sleep deprived, brain dead. Please.

You just have to invest in yourself to avoid most of the symptoms, it's not that horrendous. Would all these women start thinking about exercising, losing weight and so on without the threat of menopause? Maybe not, so maybe it's a good thing.

As long as I keep a full on sex life, I am happy - and speaking with various people, their own experience and medical knowledge, sex is still very much on 😂

I'm less angry than I've ever been in my life. I'm still entitled to be intellectually angry that my brain and professional standing and peaceful relationships will all be taken away from me for no reason. I didn't have kids cos I don't like them why do I have to do this ovary related nonsense!

What makes you so certain all of that is going to happen? And a prolapse - are you experiencing related issues currently?

So rage is a menopause symptom.

Having said that, I went through menopause at 46. I did have rage, did have night sweats and hot flushes but it wasn't debilitating. I now (53) take vaginal oestrogen so all those symptoms gone and I feel AMAZING and so much better than I ever did when I was on the monthly hormone rollercoaster. My moods have really stabilised, as has my relationship with food. Not everyone has a shit time through menopause. I feel powerful, amazing, I look good, I am fitter and slimmer than I have ever been and I know my own mind like never before. Don't write yourself off before you need to. AND if you have symptoms, they are often alleviated if you get the HRT right. (Not for all people, for sure, but for most people I know IRL).

Ha I did think that about my username myself when I posted! 🙈

It's completely unrelated though and the only grey carpet is in my bedroom! 😁